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Why Divorce Hurts So Much- Your Suffering Explained (How To Override The Pain)

Why does your divorce hurt worse than anything you’ve ever been through? Here's why it hurts
It’s not because she was some mystical, perfect woman. It’s because your entire identity was built around her… and now that identity is dead.

In this video, I break down what psychologists call ego death and why divorce for men feels like a psychological and spiritual amputation. If your marriage took your balls and half your income, this isn’t “just a piece of paper.” It’s a full-scale collapse of who you thought you were.

Here’s the pivot point of the entire video:

Your suffering is directly proportional to how much you value your ex, divided by how much you value yourself.

You don’t need to fall out of love with her to heal.
You need to rise in love with yourself.

We’ll walk through:

Why divorce for men often feels worse than the death of a parent

What ego death actually is and why you feel like something inside you literally died

The three stages of identity collapse most men go through before and during divorce

Why generic advice like “give it time” keeps you stuck and scarred for decades

How to stop massively overestimating your ex and start rebuilding your own value

The simple mindset shift that turns “How do I get over her?” into “How do I override this pain and find purpose?”

If there’s even one person who stayed by your side during this, thank them. Drop their name in the comments and tell them what you learned from this video. Let them see that their support mattered.

And if you’re tired of white-knuckling this alone and you don’t want to wake up 20 years from now still chasing emotional exoneration like I did, talk to me.

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You’re not broken.
Your old identity died.
Now we build the new one on your terms.

This channel is to help men through divorce. As a divorce and recovery coach for men I help men save money and grieving time in their life after divorce.