Dr. Ramani on the Consequences of Leaving a Narcissist

Discover what happens when you "abandon" a narcissist with insights from Dr. Ramani. Learn the typical reactions and manipulative tactics narcissists use when they feel abandoned or rejected. Explore the emotional impact on both sides and gain strategies for handling these situations effectively. Don’t miss Dr. Ramani’s expert advice on navigating the complexities of narcissistic relationships and protecting your emotional well-being.

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  • @tatucorreia says:

    I’m constantly battling between hating them and feeling sorry for them.

    • @annachan8151 says:

      Someone who makes you hate yourself for loving them doesn’t even deserve your hatred let alone your sympathy.

    • @cstevens8788 says:

      I get that. In fact just the other day I had to journal my hate to bring me back to why they do what they do. 🤔

    • @survivor6479 says:

      This probably happens because they are intermittently good when they have to get their work done by you.

    • @brownin329 says:

      Don’t feel bad for them.

    • @DiplomacyNOW says:

      I “feel sorry” for them, but not in the way they want me to “feel sorry” for them. “The unexamined life is not worth living”. Some great philosopher said this. I’m SO GRATEFUL for Dr Ramani mentioning self-compassion, self-awareness, self-reflection. My narc family is not available for this “work”. I can’t “do” superficial. Realizing that my life has been one long gaslight / neglect by my mother was a bit painful, but empowering. Having the words to describe this abuse definitely helps with the understanding and acceptance. SO MUCH GRATITUDE TO YOU, Dr Ramani and those hear who share stories. Sorrow shared is lifted. Joy shared is multiplied. Blessings to ALL.

  • @athenaa2211 says:

    Being single and happy is better than being in a miserable relationship 😌

    • @rudhisundar says:

      TRUE!

    • @leritacrowell5981 says:

      Amen to that!☺

    • @rafinalucas4823 says:

      I have been feeling this way lately. I’d rather be broke and happy than to be miserable with financial security.

    • @athenaa2211 says:

      @@rafinalucas4823 if you have to depend on someone else financially that means you are not financial stable.
      I totally understand making money is not easy, but you can do it

    • @cBe9999 says:

      After cutting the toxic people out of my life, I continued to be Depressed for several years. Even when I felt suicidal, I was able to remind myself that life was actually, objectively better without them. That realisation helped me get through it.

  • @omgothh says:

    Slow claps for all those who chose themselves instead of their toxic partners!!! I’m with you fam!

  • @LouisaWatt says:

    Unfortunately, narcissists prey on compassion and empathy. They need good people in order to manipulate them

  • @BecketteW says:

    For years I heard, “If you leave me I’ll kill myself.” I left 25 years ago. He’s still alive. Huh…..

  • @wesjohnson934 says:

    Nothing crazier than an adult having a tantrum.

    • @007Fusiion says:

      Isn’t it called ‘rage’?

    • @coffeegirl6854 says:

      Maybe it is for them. I have an older sibling who caused so many problems that I went no contact…though I did not realize that was the name for it. Years ago I witnessed her( an adult mind you) balling her fists screaming(meanness absolutely with a red face) screaming in our mother’s face AND ACTUALLY STAMPING HER FEET(!) Like a little kid throwing a fit. These fits and love bombing over the years finally I could not stand such abuse or stand witnessing it…I walked. It took my grandkids as flying monkeys. And others. I am just glad it is done.though I got a hoover via someone else…So about your question….rage?/ tantrum?/both?.
      A fist might make a difference too…however as I told this “sibling” She was an abuser. And I know abuse when I see it….she said “I never got anybody!”
      Bruises hurt.Yes. But the sick pain a narc who is not physically abusive hurt and damage maybe more.

    • @coffeegirl6854 says:

      She said”I never “hit” anyone. (Typo)

    • @angeladibble8075 says:

      I’ve seen it so many times with my mother, it’s embarrassing or would be if she could self reflect.

  • @concetta3436 says:

    To the narcissist it’s called Abandonment, to the victim it’s called LEAVING…You abandon a child, a dog because you are responsible for them. You are not responsible for an adult who is abusing you

    • @ellesmith4077 says:

      Mine has been walking out on me &my son for the last 4 years … I keep taking him back I get a silent treatment every time first one was 2 weeks … then 4 weeks the longest one was 6 months this time it’s been 3 months I can’t take it anymore he is messaging me today telling me he loves me …..I sent him a recording of himself having his last rage at me which was horrid …. I said I can’t imagine my life without you but I can’t imagine being spoken to like that for the rest of my life either….he has other women he goes out with tells me how much fun they are while I’m at home feeling like Im Going to die of grief I suppose ….. he is pilled up at a rave with a woman half his age …. so I told him To call her & leave me alone ….. I’m so upset 😭

    • @marlathompson4084 says:

      Best statement regarding narcissism I’ve ever seen. 1000%

    • @robertmastes135 says:

      Tell that to the divorce attorney.

    • @ES-hy2wi says:

      @@ellesmith4077 I was in a marriage 35 years my son is 30 I stay in the marriage so he could have a father in his life.Well nothing has changed only that my son is a adult and ghosted him all his life and caught him cheating his Father still denies it .Do what is best for you and your sons sanity his Father is not going to change your son Wil only be damaged by him seeing his mom being abused.His father will be a poor example to his Son if you take him back your son will become like his Father abusing and using women try to find men who who can be a good role model like church men but be careful their to there are wolves their to, pray and ask the LORD to help you he will guide you.Adventist church are very FAMILY orientated. I will pray for you.

    • @emilyjohnstone408 says:

      So well said 👍

  • @cmrandall9151 says:

    They’re sensitive to abandonment yet they don’t have a problem discarding you like trash when you’re no longer interesting or convenient. The twisted world of a narcissist.

    • @susanmcguire4664 says:

      A lot of the things they do and say are hypocritical. I see this happening on a regular basis.

    • @frenchtoast7742 says:

      So true . Mine discarded me like trash but couldn’t take it when I called him out on it .
      Most horrible time of my life.

    • @aharry31 says:

      It is called selfishness to an extreme degree.

    • @caterine4604 says:

      Yes

    • @aharry31 says:

      @@nateiverson6949 They force others to be insincere, once you know who they are to avoid the rage and revenge they will show when they are confronted with the truth. It is a horrible horrible thing to experience. My ex husband did all of this and worse underhanded tactics and I have family members who support him in staff of their own siblings. By the way, I believe most of my siblings 7 of them are narcissistic also.

  • @tessamyers4457 says:

    When you stay in a toxic relationship, you essentially block your blessings

    • @wicomms says:

      Hmm interesting… elaborate ppl…I am going thru this now

    • @tessamyers4457 says:

      @@wicomms as soon as you completely let go(and you can’t fake this, because the universe knows your heart) your blessings will flow in such abundance that everything spiritual will make sense . DOORS WILL OPEN THAT YOU NEVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE WHEN YOU LISTEN TO WHATS GOOD FOR YOUR HEART ABD FOLLOW THAT PATH

    • @wicomms says:

      @@tessamyers4457 thanks Tessa ..I don’t know how to do it ..she divorced me but still stays with me and the 2 kids…she wants me to leave. I want to stay for the kids… All the narc video prove to me that she is a narc to the T, but I don’t know what to do…

    • @tessamyers4457 says:

      @@melaniescott8204 I don’t go to church . I listen to my higher power and I follow my intuition . Why would “God,” want you to continue to be abused . The God that I follow which is “love,” only wants the best for me and wants me to live in alignment with love and light .

    • @tessamyers4457 says:

      @@melaniescott8204 never said I was a Christian and I live a very faithful, commuted life.

  • @kaylieallen813 says:

    I left a narcissist recently and I am so proud of myself.

  • @kozubart says:

    I’m not “abandoning,” I’m cleansing my life

  • @sarahwagland1559 says:

    It’s not that they fear abandonment, they want to imprison you and have total control over you. They fear that their prisoner might escape.

  • @lesliesexton7555 says:

    I left a narcissist 5 days ago…went no contact and I’m so proud of myself 😁❤️😁❤️

    • @carlaneal8263 says:

      I’m proud of you got my apartment for August 30 I’m counting down 😳

    • @christinad6650 says:

      I need to go non contact…I left mines in June.

    • @guzelfetkulina9599 says:

      How is it going? Could you manage to keep it longer?

    • @lesliesexton7555 says:

      I am now 2 weeks no-contact and last night I dreamt of her, yet there will remain no space in my life for her.

    • @guzelfetkulina9599 says:

      @@lesliesexton7555 ohh i thought you are a woman and u left your man, it is other way around. Never met narcissist women, but met a lot of men🤷‍♀️ i sm proud of you. God will replace with someone much better.

  • @jeffreyjackson5229 says:

    What they call abandonment, I call self-respect, care, and protection. It just gets old.

  • @KKKkiri says:

    I think a narcissist is condemned to be forever alone, because everyone will be driven off by their unacceptable behaviour.

  • @krutibhavsar9534 says:

    “The more you try the worse they behave.” So truly said

  • @nellythenarcissist says:

    “Losing the conveniences you brought to their life” – it’s so sad when you realise this is all they ever cared about. It’s such a sickening shock when you learn that you were never cared for. It’s a cold wake up! You didn’t love me you loved my services.

  • @yolondagoode9656 says:

    I didnt abandon my narc abuser,i ESCAPED with nothing but my peace of mind.

  • @Sherirose1 says:

    All the narcissist survivors, please gather here.👇 We need to have a teams club to share and educate each other to avoid going back. 👇👇👇

    • @CraftEzYT-rx1se says:

      Yes…i can relate totally

    • @samramajeed5315 says:

      Yes❤

    • @BNyaB says:

      🙋🙋

    • @mememefinally says:

      Thank you

    • @kevinfager. says:

      My brother has been more and more physically threatening to our dad and being aggressive. I went over and said I’m here bc I wanted to talk to you about this, what’s going on. He, of course, claimed my dad was the one that always initiates these interactions. As well as stating our dad was lying over text. I, conversationally, believed this reality and simply asked clarifying questions. Before ever saying anything negative or refuting his claims he became extremely angry. Eventually, I said I didn’t believe him it needs to stop and if it doesn’t I’m either calling the police if urgent or filing a report. He of course said family doesn’t call the cops on each other to which I said that’s why I’m here, bc I don’t want to do that.

  • @Starhear7533 says:

    It’s crazy because when you initially leave, they’re feeling abandoned, and you feel relief! 💆‍♀️🥳🎉

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