Dr. Ramani on the Consequences of Leaving a Narcissist
Discover what happens when you "abandon" a narcissist with insights from Dr. Ramani. Learn the typical reactions and manipulative tactics narcissists use when they feel abandoned or rejected. Explore the emotional impact on both sides and gain strategies for handling these situations effectively. Don’t miss Dr. Ramani’s expert advice on navigating the complexities of narcissistic relationships and protecting your emotional well-being.
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I’m constantly battling between hating them and feeling sorry for them.
Someone who makes you hate yourself for loving them doesn’t even deserve your hatred let alone your sympathy.
I get that. In fact just the other day I had to journal my hate to bring me back to why they do what they do. 🤔
This probably happens because they are intermittently good when they have to get their work done by you.
Don’t feel bad for them.
I “feel sorry” for them, but not in the way they want me to “feel sorry” for them. “The unexamined life is not worth living”. Some great philosopher said this. I’m SO GRATEFUL for Dr Ramani mentioning self-compassion, self-awareness, self-reflection. My narc family is not available for this “work”. I can’t “do” superficial. Realizing that my life has been one long gaslight / neglect by my mother was a bit painful, but empowering. Having the words to describe this abuse definitely helps with the understanding and acceptance. SO MUCH GRATITUDE TO YOU, Dr Ramani and those hear who share stories. Sorrow shared is lifted. Joy shared is multiplied. Blessings to ALL.
Being single and happy is better than being in a miserable relationship 😌
TRUE!
Amen to that!☺
I have been feeling this way lately. I’d rather be broke and happy than to be miserable with financial security.
@@rafinalucas4823 if you have to depend on someone else financially that means you are not financial stable.
I totally understand making money is not easy, but you can do it
After cutting the toxic people out of my life, I continued to be Depressed for several years. Even when I felt suicidal, I was able to remind myself that life was actually, objectively better without them. That realisation helped me get through it.
Slow claps for all those who chose themselves instead of their toxic partners!!! I’m with you fam!
Thank you I left him and feel great self respect
❤❤❤
Thank you 💖🙂
@@nicolebavlnka7503 Amazing feeling right!?! 💜
@@aprilbennett4322 my god YES IT IS did not know how light life is when you lose 169 pounds of a man 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💙💜💜💙👊knuckle bump
Unfortunately, narcissists prey on compassion and empathy. They need good people in order to manipulate them
Also people without solid boundaries.
@@steffaely yes, super important to develop those!
Straight demons I’ve never been happier since cutting out the insanely toxic “humans” in my life.
@@steffaely and that where they fucked up. First time the narc tried to cross my boundaries he were fucked up.
my ex has a gf i didnt know about and she is narc also like him, hahahahahahahhaahahahaha imagine they slashing themselves with knives bahahahahaha
For years I heard, “If you leave me I’ll kill myself.” I left 25 years ago. He’s still alive. Huh…..
Hahahahahaaha
😕
Unreal, that such people exist 😕
theyre fake. thats all.
Lolol
Nothing crazier than an adult having a tantrum.
Isn’t it called ‘rage’?
Maybe it is for them. I have an older sibling who caused so many problems that I went no contact…though I did not realize that was the name for it. Years ago I witnessed her( an adult mind you) balling her fists screaming(meanness absolutely with a red face) screaming in our mother’s face AND ACTUALLY STAMPING HER FEET(!) Like a little kid throwing a fit. These fits and love bombing over the years finally I could not stand such abuse or stand witnessing it…I walked. It took my grandkids as flying monkeys. And others. I am just glad it is done.though I got a hoover via someone else…So about your question….rage?/ tantrum?/both?.
A fist might make a difference too…however as I told this “sibling” She was an abuser. And I know abuse when I see it….she said “I never got anybody!”
Bruises hurt.Yes. But the sick pain a narc who is not physically abusive hurt and damage maybe more.
She said”I never “hit” anyone. (Typo)
I’ve seen it so many times with my mother, it’s embarrassing or would be if she could self reflect.
To the narcissist it’s called Abandonment, to the victim it’s called LEAVING…You abandon a child, a dog because you are responsible for them. You are not responsible for an adult who is abusing you
Mine has been walking out on me &my son for the last 4 years … I keep taking him back I get a silent treatment every time first one was 2 weeks … then 4 weeks the longest one was 6 months this time it’s been 3 months I can’t take it anymore he is messaging me today telling me he loves me …..I sent him a recording of himself having his last rage at me which was horrid …. I said I can’t imagine my life without you but I can’t imagine being spoken to like that for the rest of my life either….he has other women he goes out with tells me how much fun they are while I’m at home feeling like Im Going to die of grief I suppose ….. he is pilled up at a rave with a woman half his age …. so I told him To call her & leave me alone ….. I’m so upset 😭
Best statement regarding narcissism I’ve ever seen. 1000%
Tell that to the divorce attorney.
@@ellesmith4077 I was in a marriage 35 years my son is 30 I stay in the marriage so he could have a father in his life.Well nothing has changed only that my son is a adult and ghosted him all his life and caught him cheating his Father still denies it .Do what is best for you and your sons sanity his Father is not going to change your son Wil only be damaged by him seeing his mom being abused.His father will be a poor example to his Son if you take him back your son will become like his Father abusing and using women try to find men who who can be a good role model like church men but be careful their to there are wolves their to, pray and ask the LORD to help you he will guide you.Adventist church are very FAMILY orientated. I will pray for you.
So well said 👍
They’re sensitive to abandonment yet they don’t have a problem discarding you like trash when you’re no longer interesting or convenient. The twisted world of a narcissist.
A lot of the things they do and say are hypocritical. I see this happening on a regular basis.
So true . Mine discarded me like trash but couldn’t take it when I called him out on it .
Most horrible time of my life.
It is called selfishness to an extreme degree.
Yes
@@nateiverson6949 They force others to be insincere, once you know who they are to avoid the rage and revenge they will show when they are confronted with the truth. It is a horrible horrible thing to experience. My ex husband did all of this and worse underhanded tactics and I have family members who support him in staff of their own siblings. By the way, I believe most of my siblings 7 of them are narcissistic also.
When you stay in a toxic relationship, you essentially block your blessings
Hmm interesting… elaborate ppl…I am going thru this now
@@wicomms as soon as you completely let go(and you can’t fake this, because the universe knows your heart) your blessings will flow in such abundance that everything spiritual will make sense . DOORS WILL OPEN THAT YOU NEVER IMAGINED POSSIBLE WHEN YOU LISTEN TO WHATS GOOD FOR YOUR HEART ABD FOLLOW THAT PATH
@@tessamyers4457 thanks Tessa ..I don’t know how to do it ..she divorced me but still stays with me and the 2 kids…she wants me to leave. I want to stay for the kids… All the narc video prove to me that she is a narc to the T, but I don’t know what to do…
@@melaniescott8204 I don’t go to church . I listen to my higher power and I follow my intuition . Why would “God,” want you to continue to be abused . The God that I follow which is “love,” only wants the best for me and wants me to live in alignment with love and light .
@@melaniescott8204 never said I was a Christian and I live a very faithful, commuted life.
I left a narcissist recently and I am so proud of myself.
I’m proud of you too!
Congrats Kaylie, I am proud of you too, I also just left a narcissist after 20 years so I know how hard it can be.I hope you can move forward and live your best life.Sending you love and light ❤
Me too narcissist manager and leaving job at end of month, can’t wait!
I am immensely proud of you!! Live peacefully without them ❤️
You are a strong courageous warrior.
I’m not “abandoning,” I’m cleansing my life
You’ve found the key to the prison cell they put you in.
Yesss❤
It’s not that they fear abandonment, they want to imprison you and have total control over you. They fear that their prisoner might escape.
I agree
Reminds me of powering the exit gates in a game I play called Dead by daylight! Lol 😂 As soon as the killer knows you’re opening a gate they immediately try everything to stop you from even powering the escape.
Yup! And then, they’ll have to find another scapegoat and if not the family turns on each other one-by-one.
My narc mother says she wants me to pack my bags and get out 😂 she just bluffing ?
Yep cuz it does feel like prison that’s exactly what it is and they are the warden!
I left a narcissist 5 days ago…went no contact and I’m so proud of myself 😁❤️😁❤️
I’m proud of you got my apartment for August 30 I’m counting down 😳
I need to go non contact…I left mines in June.
How is it going? Could you manage to keep it longer?
I am now 2 weeks no-contact and last night I dreamt of her, yet there will remain no space in my life for her.
@@lesliesexton7555 ohh i thought you are a woman and u left your man, it is other way around. Never met narcissist women, but met a lot of men🤷♀️ i sm proud of you. God will replace with someone much better.
What they call abandonment, I call self-respect, care, and protection. It just gets old.
They never realize that their act gets old and a bit boring.
Real. When you get past the confusion and anxiety, it’s just “oh here we go again.. “ all of it just for whatttt… why you mad? Why you yelling? Be so for real 🙄🙄🙄
Amen
I think a narcissist is condemned to be forever alone, because everyone will be driven off by their unacceptable behaviour.
Thiss
I don’t think so.
She had me for a while.
Ha ha.. My ex has had 4 wives since me *that I know about*. An empty well can never be filled.
“The more you try the worse they behave.” So truly said
The Bible says when u let the demon back in they comeback with 7 more…making them stronger…in your caseu never left so that demon got stronger!
#truth
!!!!!!!
So real. And my roommate narcissist is a hoarder. The more I cleaned, the less he did and the more expectant he gets. He is BIG MAD I am not cleaning or responding to him.
“Losing the conveniences you brought to their life” – it’s so sad when you realise this is all they ever cared about. It’s such a sickening shock when you learn that you were never cared for. It’s a cold wake up! You didn’t love me you loved my services.
Yes exactly, feeling horrible to have left somebody make me become a servant. Now to find back my dignity…
Yup ❤
It’s true, we were never cared for! This is sobering and helpful.
Is interesting to learn they could Never love lmao I can’t believe it but u have to believe it’s tru
@@iiyoniezeHill that’s probably why sex feels so empty. Good but empty.
I didnt abandon my narc abuser,i ESCAPED with nothing but my peace of mind.
All the narcissist survivors, please gather here.👇 We need to have a teams club to share and educate each other to avoid going back. 👇👇👇
Yes…i can relate totally
Yes❤
🙋🙋
Thank you
My brother has been more and more physically threatening to our dad and being aggressive. I went over and said I’m here bc I wanted to talk to you about this, what’s going on. He, of course, claimed my dad was the one that always initiates these interactions. As well as stating our dad was lying over text. I, conversationally, believed this reality and simply asked clarifying questions. Before ever saying anything negative or refuting his claims he became extremely angry. Eventually, I said I didn’t believe him it needs to stop and if it doesn’t I’m either calling the police if urgent or filing a report. He of course said family doesn’t call the cops on each other to which I said that’s why I’m here, bc I don’t want to do that.
It’s crazy because when you initially leave, they’re feeling abandoned, and you feel relief! 💆♀️🥳🎉