Zero Motivation During Divorce? This Explains Everything

Zero Motivation During Divorce? This Explains Everything: Like super like and let me know what's holding you back. In this video, I break down the real psychological mechanism behind why everything suddenly feels harder, why “just give it time” is terrible advice, and why focusing on yourself sounds good but never works when it’s vague. This isn’t motivation. This is structure.

Divorce doesn’t just hurt emotionally. It destroys identity by taking out the three pillars that drive human motivation: competence, relatedness, and autonomy. Psychologists call this Self-Determination Theory, and when all three get hit at once, men freeze, spiral, and lose direction.

That’s why:
• You have zero energy
• You can’t make decisions
• You keep thinking about your ex
• You feel powerless, angry, or stuck
• You know what you should do but can’t do it

In this video, I explain:
• Why divorce kills motivation (and why it’s not a character flaw)
• The “Suffering Index” that keeps men trapped after divorce
• Why trying to “get over your ex” is the wrong strategy
• Why autonomy — not time, not therapy, not affirmations — is where power comes back
• How to stop asking for permission from someone who isn’t even there anymore
• How to take control of your decisions, direction, and identity again

This is not a therapy session.
This is not journaling.
This is not “give it time.”

This is about ownership, self-determination, and reclaiming command over your life when everything feels stacked against you.

If you’re tired of waiting, tired of explaining yourself, and tired of feeling like you lost yourself in your marriage — this video is for you.

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And if you’re ready to stop circling the same pain and actually move forward, schedule a consultation. You’ll walk away with more than hope — you’ll leave with clarity, execution, and a plan.

Chapters
0:00 Coming up
0:40 Divorce Problems
1:40 What Focus on Yourself Means
2:42 Why You're Suffering
3:58 Pillars of Motivation
7:07 What you Need to Do