How do you deal with the EMOTIONAL HANGOVER after narcissistic relationships?
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November 1-3, 2024
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I told my Mom that it felt like I was being stabbed in the heart, and asked her if she ever felt that physically, like I did…she said no.
I feel like someone is squeezing my chest. I just got hit with another round of grief four months out of this long distance relationship that didn’t even last all that long but it’s literally physically painful.
As someone who struggles with anxiety, relaxation anxiety is so relatable as even when I try to ease my mind off of things, my mind begins to overthink and catastrophize trying to remind me of what’s gonna go wrong next, handing me a list of imaginary problems.
You’re not alone. Let’s remind ourselves we’ll be okay.
It’s a full time job with constant overtime, no breaks or benefits.
Yes, it’s indentured servitude into the land of confusion and self-doubt.
I’m a cardiac nurse- there is a condition called Takotsubo Syndrome- literally translates to broken-heart syndrome. The word Takotsubo comes from a Japanese fishing trap shaped kind of like a pear. In Takotsubo syndrome the heart changes shape (in a bad way) to the shape of the fishing trap, that’s why it’s called that. But people literally die from having a broken heart caused by abuse… it is real… it’s not even new, its old and well established… I have had these patients…👍❤❤❤
Thank you. Very interesting.
First time I heard of this there was a woman at work and the police came and had to tell her that her son was killed in an accident and she a heart attack right there they had call for an ambulance 😢 if something had happened to my daughter I’m sure my heart would break as well. So sad
Wow
That’s intense. Thank you for sharing.
The good news is that it is a temporary condition:
“The condition is temporary and most people recover within two months.”
Source: St Vincent’s Hospital Heart Health
2 months may be feasible for a medical condition, but an emotional broken heart may last a lifetime. Some never recover from the wounds of narcissistic abuse.
I just broke up with my vulnerable narcissist yesterday. He is also enmeshed with his self righteous narcissistic mother. I’m tired of feeling like everything is my fault. I wouldn’t have been able to do this without watching/listening to Dr Ramani!
Keep strong. You don’t need the drama. Block and No contact is the only way to recover. Dont feel empathy for the demon. Feel empathy for yourself ,pamper yourself ,love yourself ,you are worth more than to let a crazy maker and his mother destroy your life, your health . You need to remove all toxicity ❤ I wish you many blessings.
I blocked the mother, brother, sister-n-law and everyone who enabled him. The triangulation between the narc and his mum was unreal. Now she can have her son all to herself!
“From fear to disgust is a pivot.”
So true
As it should be.
25:10 This is unfortunately so true… I’ve been out and away from him about 6 weeks now and it’s a rollercoaster. One day I’m happy and relieved, the next I’m angry, the next I’m sad. Some days my feelings change by the hour. I’ll burst into tears so randomly – cry for 10 minutes – then stop, like I’m slowly releasing all of the built up frustration and stress bit by bit. Yesterday I was just exhausted from everything, including the move out and just didn’t have the energy to unpack another box, do any work or adult in any capacity. For 2 hours I tried to take a nap to no avail. My mind just kept going and spinning, which then frustrated and exhausted me more. I’m looking forward to the day my mind, body and spirit have finally rebalanced.
I left husband 8 weeks ago. Same rollercoaster as you and it’s giving me heart palpitations and fluttering. Dee
You just need to stand strong I’m sure once you stay away you’ll start to love yourself and your home will feel better!!
You got to remember none of it was real they were acting , they wear different masks for different people, they steal your traits , they fit in like a camileon. It was never love, they faked it , they mirrored you , you don’t need the vampire taking your health,energy and living in your head. Dry your tears pet they were fake and groomed you . Block, no contact is the only way, the longer you let the demon in the worse it will become. Start healing now, Pamper yourself, love yourself , I send you many blessings❤
@@doriswhyte1931I send you many blessings , leaving is the road to recovery. Stand and walk tall pet , have empathy for yourself not the demon. ❤
@@Cthomas5678 Thank you so much!! Stand strong, I love that!!
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This makes so much sense!! Feeling crazy is so overwhelming… when you grow up believing your the problem because nobody is giving you reinforcement love they are constantly gaslighting you and making you crazy . Then you gravitate towards what you know and you continue the trauma.. and then because fortunately for me, I was feeling so crazy. I had to go to counseling and I had a lot of crazy counselors. Also, I really do appreciate these makes so much sense.
Same here. My parents, nex, and last counsellor and medical trauma gaslighting me. Work and jobs I ‘chose’. All stems from my father and mother. I saw it yesterday very clearly in my father, who he is at the core and what he does.
‘Feeling crazy’ is truly the worst ‘gift’ the narcissist leaves you with
Oh my God this is me
100%
I was always a big book reader. While i was in the 7.5 year relationship with the narx, I could never relax enough to read. Now that I’m out, I’m back to reading again.
I stopped playing music but now I am again now that I’m out 😊
I feel like it’s not just a broken heart from narcissistic relationships, it’s a broken spirit psyche and emotions, that make it hard to function in life and feel normal or healthy. So grateful for all I’ve learnt here. Reminding myself it’s not my fault and not who I am. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
OMG! Spot on! 🧡
Narcissists also give us a broken brain.
So true. They break you into pieces. It’s really sick. My father cares for nobody except himself has a pretty easy life but he is a whining toddler. Everyone around him is sick!
The narcissists called me crazy for standing up to them, keeping boundaries, and telling the truth. Reminding myself it’s not true and not who I am. Taking myself back. So grateful for this community. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
@@costelloandlizzievolk2233 Same here!! It was amazing to learn about projection as I truly thought I was going insane! Mine would use pet names along with his screaming rages: “You are fucking crazy honey! You are a horrible, abusive woman honey!” Such a mindfuck!! Taking ourselves back!! Yes!! We can do it!!
@@mollykayramstack6193 Projection was one of those things I learnt that unravelled what my parents had done all my life – calling me a compulsive liar. I’ve learnt to be very wordy, and over-explain myself, because they kept looking for excuses to punish me, because they couldn’t stand that I was autistic. Evil people.
And like you say dear Dr.Ramani, it takes time to heal. Ruminating and anxiety are still part of my emotional hangover although I’m not feeling “crazy” anymore since I left forever.
I felt so crazy that checked into a mental hospital…i was hearing his voice, i was visualizing him, i felt him when he wasnt there…i thought wveryone was trying to get me or kill me… It was the worst experience. 9 months later with constant therapy and journaling i learn so much… I have weeks and months of great moments and then i have the dark days out of nowhere.
The Heartbreak is REAL,….Over and Over. …and Over Again, as Long as we Stay with them …!
My mother said “you’re not going to put me in the nuthouse” to our NPD coersively controlling father. She eventually divorced him in 1982.
I’m living this with my covet narcissist husband. My entire adult life has been nothing but whip lash. Married at 19, and here I still am at almost 47. My fibromyalgia was on fire flaring listening to this. What have I done to myself and kids not knowing what I was dealing with? F’d up, big time. 😞 Lord forgive me. 😢
Dr R is the ONLY person who gets it
You are saving my life
“It’s not you” is so true. Because of their super fragile egos, narcissists will create a problem when there is none, just to feed on it. Others having a good time feels like a threat. The longer it goes on, the more out of control they feel. Like breathing, they need to be the center of attention, manipulating the emotions of everyone. Hurting people is easier than making them laugh. It is a huge dose of narcissistic supply for them and it immensely satisfying. They cannot live without it. The must destroy everything. In a relationship, you are what the destroy. You cannot be right, good or acceptable in any way, because it is a threat to their ego. So they will systematically ‘undo’ everything about you. Your entire ‘self’ is dismantled. Every molecule is contaminated by them. Through NO fault of your own! Ramani is healing us all!