How SOCIETY romanticizes narcissism
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November 1-3, 2024
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Society enables narcissism and the media promotes it. But very few people are enabling healthy relationships and behaviour.
So true
All facts! 🙌🏾
enables it so much yet i got fired multiple times
cuz of it yea right
@@FloppedASF Same here! I just resigned from a VOLUNTEER organization because it became toxic. Very rigid, invalidating, and trying to take credit for my work and trying to say I wasn’t doing enough. Volunteer hours are up to 5 hours a week. I resigned and the new VP still wants to do a 1:1 today. Why are we doing 1:1. I’m out! 🤣🙃
@@tijeraslack3so, the new VP feels better about themselves ❤❤❤
One half is educating and warning the world about narcissism while the other half is enabling/romanizing the personality style. Its like a grand awakening and a never ending battle.
I think it may be getting a bit better…a bit
Do you mean ”enabling /romanizing” (the latter your own word) as in Pope Francis ” the Roman” is doing?. Careful there for theY might find you , dox you and cancel you too. Lol
As much as i want to despair, i have to remember that my mother was born before the DSMs existed.
We didn’t used to have language for any of this for the whole of humanity.
So, forward we go. And oof, cuz now we can say it.
rRomantizising? Yes.
Soooo true!!!! 💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥 POWERFUL!!! Thank you Dr. Ramani & Team!!! 💯💯💯💖💖💖💓💓💓©️
LOL You left out lawyers. Holy cow.
They in all jobs 😮
It’s very difficult to talk to anyone about the abuse and trauma I’ve experienced with narcissists in the past. Too many people out there in society would have it completely backwards to where they blame and shame the victim when they don’t know what’s really going on. They don’t understand how deep the manipulation goes. It’s very isolating when the people you thought would be on your side, would be the ones enabling narcissistic behavior.
That is so true,and because we are so trauma bonded & empathetic,we always think it’s our fault & we must fix it,but we just didn’t know,now we do
They don’t understand, but they don’t care to learn either. I think it’s mostly projecting resulting in victim shaming and blaming.
hell, they’ll go vote for it– people WANT a leader that will treat them like crap and lie to them but will also make them “feel safe” and give them permission to be shitty too
I’m in the process of teaching myself to sing, composing my first album and releasing on my own…..
The purpose?
When my narc discarded me, she left me trapped in the justice system and walked away laughing about it.
I’m not ok with that.
Not to mention the fact that a judge has ignored my motions to dismiss and continues to hold a warrant for my arrest despite providing overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
It’s already happening.
Thank you God!
I knew you had my back!
excelent comment so true
Thank you Dr Ramani .for getting up early each day to tell your teaching. Always looking forward to hear your wisdom. Highlight of my day.
Harvey Weinstein, Dan Schneider, Sean “Diddy” Combs, they are romanticized, revered, everybody wants to be like them, until we find out who they really are behind the mask. Even Neil Gaiman and Dave Grohl. Narcissists have made me weary of everyone. I’m convinced that it’s actually smart to be weary of everyone. I’ll stick to beautiful days with my beagle, lol.
trumpf, yahu, putin
😢🥲❤❤❤❤
Hopefully, those days are gone.
Dogs are the best! 🐕
Aah..
Beagle Blessings ❤
@@ericb8413I am the best version of myself with dogs, nature, animals..😅
Winning at any cost (to others) is Rule #1 in the narcissist playbook.
I always think about that when I see one of those movies of the person that sacrificed everything for their dream, with their partner by their side. The road to that story is littered with a billion broken people sacrificed for one success story.
Letting them have what they want without a fight and walking away isn’t helping slow them down either. Go figure.🤔
I was JUST talking about this yesterday. I am so relieved to speak about it in detail and educate those of us (me) on it. Thank you so so much!
Not enough people understanding narcissistic abuse yet. Forever, I have been saying, I always feel like I am walking backwards while others are walking forwards. P.s. One narcissist can take down a business, though they seem to have one enabler by their side.
Agreed 🙄
Hmmm. The irony is, it takes FAR more courage to be a narcissistic abuse survivor. It takes courage to love, knowing that someone might let you down. And, it takes courage to say when enough is enough. It means that you are valuing yourself enough TO say goodbye, and you don’t deserve ongoing verbal abuse. I have heard it said that courage isn’t the absence of fear. It is the decision that something is more important than fear. If you can RETAIN your love of people, despite having seen the darker side of humanity, and still see people’s potential for growth, it can add greatly to your happiness and strength. I still think, despite my friendship with a narcissist (She confided in me that she is sadistic because it is fun.), that we are here to encourage one another, and help each other in our journey… I enjoyed this video! Thanks! Susan
This. 🌻
being sadistic is fun??? WOW. It’s good that you have gotten away from that.
@@xsilentg Thanks!
@@notagain779 Yes, thank goodness I did! …I was very naive at this stage of my life. But, I can see now that I became a stronger, better person because I interacted with her. I became more my authentic self, if that makes any sense? I CAN be myself, even if I don’t have her approval…
I just shared my story three times. My biggest fear is that I am not believed or am minimized. There is no reason at this time to say it is true, but it is my life long experience telling me so.
You aren’t alone. I am ready to give up trying to be believed. Guess we need to believe each other and forget the rest.
You’re the best, Dr. Ramani! As long as you are talking, I’m listening. 🙌
You have literally kept me alive Dr Ramani. I couldn’t have gotten through this mess without you. I’ve been listening to you for years. Thank you. Please keep doing what you’re doing. 🙏❤️
You are not alone❤
The part at the end when she says some survivors may never get the support they need, I feel that currently. It’s been way more difficult than it should be to find a therapist who is educated on narcissistic abuse that takes insurance. I hope through Dr.Ramani’s work we’ll start seeing more and more therapists who understand it. But listening to these videos every day has been my saving grace to make me not feel crazy.
Agreed ❤ I’m currently working on my degree, so I can help survivors of narcissistic abuse, that works with insursnce companies, and provide treatment for those who can’t afford it too. Help is on the way❤❤❤
@@dreamscape405 God bless you!! It’s such meaningful work for survivors in this world! We need more people like you!!
@@ApeEscape7 ❤❤❤ I’m also a survivor/scapegoat, so I understand!
@@dreamscape405 omg I’m a survivor/scapegoat/truth teller too!
I feel SO validated and have used all tools I can put my hands on. Time in Nature, a bit of travel, daily journaling, listening to Dr Ramani and others and stopping seeing myself as victim. It’s a daily work but I no longer feel like a victim. I still have triggers so I know my struggle will be lifelong but I feel SO proud of myself for having made it this far. And I wish the same for you ❤❤❤❤
In France there is a mass rape trial (Mazan) and what’s happening is devastating. In some comments and in the courtroom, the victim is devalued, gaslighted, blamed… while ALL the evidences of abuse are here (even videos) ! In societies this sick, survivors of all kinds of abuse are alone. We are so alone 😢 Thanks for sharing your knowledge doctor.
How can I follow it?
That story is horrific. Bottom levels of hell horrific.
I’ve been watching that too. It’s similar to another case here in US, except this one is a serial killer who was only recently found out.
I agree…
This is what happens when the victim side of the equation refuses to band together and fight back. Walking away and letting them have what they were after the whole time without a fight isn’t the punishment it made out to be.
It’s a roller coaster of emotions and living with a narcissist is something that I didn’t understand until I was diagnosed with cancer and I wanted to find a answer to heal my body and mind and I found so many answers to my behaviors, the cancer, the clutter, the low self esteem and the deep pain I carried in my soul. The puzzle pieces came together and navigating my emotions was easier because I was understanding why I never felt secure and safe with the man I loved and married and why we have never had peace and a truly loving relationship. Somewhat understanding and digesting what I have been through is so much easier to swallow and not blame myself and slowly recuperating from all the 33 years of immense pain and mental and emotional turmoil and the trauma it inflicted to my all around health.I am grateful for the insight that has helped me understand this life of pain and making peace with myself.
This video essay should break the internet!!!!! It says it all! About the West and history of humanity.
Thank you for all of your videos. I survived 8 years, 9 days married to a malignant narcissist. It’s nice to know I am not alone!
I worked for a short time at a literacy center. I went in thinking it would be my dream job, but quickly discovered that my supervisor was someone who thought being mean and angry was “cool”, and she surrounded herself with others who supported this idea. The new hire said “I’m a Scorpio, so I’m mean.” The supervisor: “I knew I liked you.” Eye roll. I was sad to leave my students, but for my own peace of mind I had to move on and am much happier working in a place now with professionals who are not insecure in who they are.
Someone said on the media, today, “humiliation is worse than death. Took 59 y to encounter this saying. The world is sinking for narcisists and psychopaths run it. Dr. Ramani, you are doing the most important job on the planet. I pray your words will spread and make a difference.