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Narcissism is a story you can only tell backwards not forwards
Isn’t that the truth !
Love bombing gaslighting guilty tripping are all parts of a shattered hearts 💕 caused by a narcissist
Anxiety and anguish of a broken heart
I didn’t feel heartbreak. I felt relief!
I Love where your heads at Donna 🙌
When we meet narcissists for the first time we feel bad for them
When you’re around a narcissist you are not crazy you surrounded by someone who’s making you crazy.
When a narcissist makes you feel crazy it’s not you
We feel crazy because we feel like we let someone down
“How did I give so much, and yet it still failed?”
When my ex wife and I split 25 years ago it was a giant heartbreak for me even though I knew we were not compatible at all. I never felt crazy though, just depressed, anxiety soaked and miserable. Took a long time to adjust to it. She was of course on to her next supplier even before our divorce was finalized. I didn’t know she was a narcissist then. 25 years later and I just learned she is a covert narcissist a month ago and it all makes sense to me now, her behavior, lies, etc. I got remarried 20 years ago and could not be happier.
Dude i cannot imagine such situations..
I was just in 1yr relationship with a Narcissistic girl with no self control and BPD and Dark Tetrad stuffs ……
I cried alot for months when she Cheated …… in minutes when other guy gave her the attention…..
But now I m free for good
Exact same thing, 13 years married, 18 together .
I remember in my first safe relationship afterwards, I started to get flashbacks when I started to feel comfortable and happy. I thought something was wrong with me, turned out something was right with me. My body was finally safe enough to start to process, it finally had the capacity to feel the fear and dread. That was really weird and it definitely helps to have a partner that is able to be patient and supportive through things like that.
The Victims experiences are the same!
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I just got full body chills at 4:21. I’m just over 3 years out of a 22 year marriage and this hits home so hard!!
It really is way more cruel to leave someone feeling crazy, instead of just telling the truth and hurting their feelings.
yes. it is dehumanizing.
@PaigeSquaredI couldn’t find the word for it. THAT’S IT! It is very dehumanizing.
Very dehumanizing, then he said to me I didnt want to hurt HER feelings. Um im your wife of 6 yrs being torn into pieces bc of what you did and youre worried about her feelings?
@healthyk6931 the not being treated like a person, like your existence has no value, like it’s nothing at all for you to suffer just so they can impress others, is just absolutely sickening. It does feel embarrassing, but we were manipulated. If we had _informed consent_ it would have never happened. 🤷🏻♀️
To draw us in during the love bombing, they mirror our own best traits and qualities back to us. They don’t have a self to share. We fell for ourselves, reflected in their eyes. Use the experience as a tool for self love.
Remember the joy and anticipation you experienced was within you; it isn’t something that someone external gives to you. Our feelings are a response from our spirit, based on our beliefs and circumstances and stimulus. Someone external who was playing pretend was able to inspire that feeling in you before, which means you will be able to find someone who has an actual self, to cultivate an emotionally safe dynamic with. For guidance on my healing, I made a list of what sort of partner I would feel supported by, and then went to work on my own self to gain and establish or polish up those specific traits in myself. Emotional intelligence is something that can be learned and trained, and I have found life to be a lot less painful as I work on those skills. I think i heard the phrase, “A partner who knows how to resolve conflict isn’t going to entertain anyone who can’t and won’t learn that same skill.” And when I considered it and the few functional couples I knew, I realized they had a point. That list helped to give me a little bit more of an orientation and guide on what all needed to be approached. I also used it to look up “how to identify people who are ______ in daily interactions.” That helped massively, because I hadn’t felt comfortable labeling others, without some external official definition, with both good and bad traits. Once I figured out the specific definitions and found my own examples in the wild, I felt more able to call out poor behaviors. Which turned out to be necessary.
Dr R. ❤❤❤❤ so grateful for you.
I’m grateful I was:
Empathetic, Compassionate, Accountable, Mature, Secure, Courageous, Honest….I have a long list of my awesome Beautiful Soul Characteristics!!
I bet you all are able to write an AWESOME list of your Beautiful Soul Characteristics !!
The World needs your Beautiful Soul! ❤🎉❤
After 50 years of marriage to a narcissist, I do feel stupid and foolish now. It took one podcast of you, Dr.Ramani to realize who he was and who I was. My three daughters believe that the arguing was because of both of us. They are smart women, and yet they do not see. At 79 years I think they believe I am crazy. The heartbreak I feel because they don’t believe me is something I just need to accept.
Im sorry. My x is manipulative. Stand your ground. It hurts but you are worth it.
78 here and same thing!!!
I’m so sorry for you. I can fully understand.
I felt crazy for being myself everytime with a particular person. I needed to hear these so bad, thank you so much ❤. I actually can’t stop crying after listening to this.
Betrayal is awful, the deceit & lies 😢 then no one else in the family believes what they did – it’s heartbreaking 😥
Exactly, they all gather around the narc and you’re the crazy one! I’d rather be the crazy one with some peace than hang around this group of misfits 🙄
They have a full magazine of things to hurt you, and they will rapid-fire that whole clip the second you try to get away.
What you said about them not even wanting us to be able to afford a rent is what really makes this whole personality disorder very clear and dangerous. They just want us gone, dead, dismantled.
Annihilated –
Yes, I left my comfortable home to get away and having to live in a disgusting, roach infested little apartment. It is awful and he doesn’t care.
Absolutely 💯
I didnt feel heartbreak. I felt nuts. Crazy. Confused. Off my head