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Saying no to abusive behaviorap patterns is not “compassion fatigue.” Separating disability from abuse tactics requires interventions
Agreed. Sometimes walking away and breaking ties is necessary in order to “survive”.
I feel like I became more cruel. Like 600% more cruel than I ever was.
Yes, that’s how I feel too! Don’t want to speak for you, but in my humble opinion, I believe we just get tired of it all. We can no longer unsee, unhear, unfeel or easily forgive patterns anymore. It feels unnatural for an empath to be unkind, making us feel cruel, and detached. But we need to protect our peace!!✌🏼
@peonyqueen9672 My current empathy and disposition to help other people is about 1/6th of what it used to be. I say “no” a lot more often and sure this can be translated as “I have boundaries now” but that’s not just it.. I actually did become tired and less willing to help other people. I feel tired inside. I feel that I grew callous even.
Same here. I’m so tired. I just don’t care about much anymore. I’m still in survival mode even with that person away from me. It’s like I lost so much of myself and now I need to pour into myself first, which seems like it’s gna take triple the time it took to lose myself, before I can even think about being genuinely there for others like I used to be. People in my life say they miss me too. I miss myself too.
I’m no guru, but please don’t let the dark side of y’all to take over. Remember, it was circumstances that created the calousness and lack of care, this is not the true you. Always leave some space for light to shine through. I know there is still light, because y’all cared enough to express yourselves in the comments.🕊
@peonyqueen9672 My Dark Side is… Something I even named. I call it “Prototype Servman” and I call myself “Maroon” inside of my head. So I talk a lot with Prototype Servman to become aware of evil.. Because I am usually blind to evil and susceptible to charm, Servman exists to make me less dumb sort of speaking. He is my source of wisdom. Without Servman… I am just a very dumb optimistic person.
I would argue that it’s not compassion fatigue at all. It’s awareness multiplied by discernment: when someone constantly tricks you, it means that they need your reaction to make everything exploitable. At the same time, a real compassion has no strings attached — it’s not a game to play, it comes and goes naturally without any obligations. Do not ever think that a coercion deserves any compassion from anyone.
Thank you, Dr Ramani ❤
Reading your book and watching your videos is the exact reason why I realized too much self-blame and boy was that a painful deep wound that needed healing.
❤thankyou
It’s not that I didn’t care enough, but cared too much 😓
Well replenished by the rain? That’s not how wells work
Thank you for this …I feel this on a daily basis!
Thank you
Just wondering if a sociopath can also be a narcissist?
There is a difficulty in trusting your level of empathy and how much concern you should exert.
Thank you❤ you give me strength and hope.