What It Really Feels Like to Love a Narcissist
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When you first meet a narcissist it’s like eating a layer of chocolate 🍫 cake however with a narcissist they love bomb you and make promises they can not keep without our knowledge but once we get to know them we are only there for narcissistic supply
Narcissists lie to themselves
Yes, I agree. At the end the reality is the reality.
Cheater love to lie, hold no accountability. 😂😂😂
Being with a narcissist only made me hate myself because they would always tell me that everything I do was wrong, which always made me question my self-worth.
Do you believe what you were told?
@kenanglemire8328…For me, it made me doubt that person even more. However for most people, when it’s repeatedly said over and over, doubts creep in.
We all just want to be acknowledged. 😢
I’m so sorry that you turned on yourself. We weren’t taught as women to love ourselves first. We’ve always put others first and trusted them. One would think that the person we love would be sincere and have our backs. I hope you have found the inner strength to find and know YOUR worth. Do not give that away. 🧡 One day at a time.
I’m here, and I hear you loud and clear.😊
❤healing words ❤ healing times ❤ healing video vibe❤ty doc❤
@realitywomantoday7549I’m glad you’re here and you strike me as an amazing person 🙌
Unfortunately, we’re such wonderful people that we want to help others including our Narci partners
The Narci partners, I have discovered, will never see our honest empathy or attempt to improve the relationship as the respectful and beautiful response it is.
Unfortunately, we have to learn Dr Ramani’s teachings on Radical Acceptance and choose what we’re going to do. Stay or leave. I leave you with the hope that you take to Heart “It’s not you!”. Your Loved ones and the World needs your Beautiful Soul more than ever❤
I hope this helps somehow. I wish you Peace, Courage, Strength and Discipline on your journey to SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN!
The climb is tough but the view is amazing! SEE YOU AT THE TOP OF SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN 🎉❤🎉
Dr. Ramani, thank you for your wonderful work! Could you please give us additional information on the neglectful narcissist?
Narcissists just want us to become cry babies for them to feel better
When you’re in a relationship friendship with a narcissist always remember it’s not you
Thank you for your help Dr Ramani.
At first it feels like you’ve met your soulmate. But that’s only because they’re very interested in taking from you, so they mirror you. The longer you’re with them, the emptier it feels and the more drained you become. Because you’re dealing with a black hole, a void. They’re not even a real, complete person. They feed off of you to present a convincing, false image.
Have you stayed in the relationship you described?
@kenanglemire8328 why is that any of your business? People stay in these relationships for real reasons. You need to stop being judgmental.
@seasonsstarsstudioshow is a question judgemental?
Is this just a sounding board or Victims looking for strategies to become Survivors?
Well said
The shame and guilt one feels for braking up a family system due to narcissitic abuse can turn to anger, and even rage, if one tries to contain said emotions.
Its part of why they do what they do – they want our emotions. they want us to ‘feed them’. Containing your emotions just allows the narcissist to come back time and again just to feed on you.
A safe space to express our selves without the emotions being taken away from us, or manipulated against us, is HUGE!!.
I wish you Peace, Courage, Strength and Discipline on your journey to SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN…🕊
The climb is tough but the view is amazing.
SEE YOU AT THE TOP 🎉❤🎉
Guilt, this is very right. A lot of guilt. Thanks for sharing, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏
No one in my life liked my ex, who I believe is a fearful avoidant with narcissistic tendencies. “Loves the sound of his own voice,” a friend observed after I broke up with my ex. There were 101 red flags I ignored. And even after a year of no contact I’m still suffering. But I’m happier and healthier and have hope I will completely heal. His coldness and cruelty at the end was almost unbelievable. I’ve never experienced that level of attack outside of a childhood playground. I wish there were as many videos on anxious attached and how we can grow secure as there are on narcissists and avoidants.
I had a Malignant Narci mother and I am being discarded by my Vulnerable Narci wife of 36yrs.
I am now fortunate to have Dr Ramani, NPD aware Therapist and other resources on YouTube to unpack my childhood and current situation.
I realized it’s up to me to become the best version of myself for my children, grandchildren and society!
All our options might suck, but we MUST choose the best option to become a Survivor or stay stuck in victim hood.
I wish you all Peace, Courage and Strength on your journey to the top of SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN!
SEE YOU AT THE TOP 🎉❤🎉
Best of luck mate! Malignants are malignant but also vulnerable narcissists are so hard to cope with. I realize discard is tough but, in the long run, you’ll win the lottery
@PaolaFranconeTY for your kind words and positive outlook 🎉
I enjoy talking with fellow Survivors ❤
I wish you continued Peace, Courage, Strength, and Discipline on your journey to SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN 🕊
I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP! 🎉❤🎉
@PaolaFranconeMy Therapist is helping me unpack my CPTSD from childhood and survive my Narci Abuse.
Soooo transformative as I rewire my nervous system, LITERALLY!
My parents are narcissists, both of them. For the longest time I thought it’s just my father, because my mother was occasionally nice to me so that I ignored all the horrible things she did to me. I always told myself she did it because she gets abused by my father too. I just couldn’t comprehend or accept that both of them are unsafe. Even when they teamed up against me and laughed when they bullied me for hours and I was just crying and desperate.
I can’t escape them. I can’t get help. I have no one to talk to. I’m so exhausted and desperate.
The only reason I dare to write this here, is because they don’t speak English and will never find this. I would never dare to write that on a channel in my native language. My mother has been on such channels. She has ranted there how people dare to blame parents and that children are the real evil. She received a shitstorm from other viewers for saying that. Because of that incident she wants to convince people now, that I’m the narcissist. The last one was a doctor from an ambulance she called (they call police, ambulance, firefighters to show me how much power they have over others and that these people will never believe or help me). I guess this time she wasn’t convinced that the doctor bought her story. After he was gone, she yelled at me, she will never call an ambulance again, even if I’m dying, because she won’t damage her reputation for something (yes, not someone) like me.
I’m sorry for this incoherent comment. I’m just hurting so much. I guess what I actually meant to say, be careful with your comments on yt. Your abuser could see them too.
Poor you. Try to find some ppl you can talk to. There could be some support groups you could attend- like those AA groups. Sending warm hugs and wishes for strength and healing ❤
Make another Channel & keep that to yourself. That will allow you to reach out in your own language but leave out names, personal identity details. Stay strong, you’ve made a good first move in recognising what’s going on in your household. You could also seek out other therapy channels to help with your healing. Good luck, you got this 🤗
“Like an authoritarian government where you are being observed and censored….” THIS.
Nobody talks about the grief that comes after. Not just grieving the relationship but grieving the version of yourself that existed before it. The one who didn’t flinch at raised voices. The one who didn’t apologize for things that weren’t their fault. The one who could receive a compliment without waiting for the other shoe to drop. Getting that person back takes longer than anyone prepares you for.
We’re never ready, just prepared I always told my 5 children and 11 grandchildren. That said, I wasn’t even prepared for this dynamic until I found Dr Ramani and unburied my TRUE SELF again.
Therapy and entering REALITY again has helped me transition from VICTIM to SURVIVOR.
SEE YOU AT THE TOP OF SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN 🎉❤🎉
The depth of the grieving doesn’t have a bottom, at least that’s my experience. I don’t know what I’m going to do anymore with the exception of completely surrendering it, all, to Almighty God. Thanks be to God. Amen.
My grief, and it felt like a death in the family, maybe worse, was for the person and the relationship that never existed. The person I thought I loved never existed. She was a lie living a lie. Someone I didn’t know leading a double life. How do you grieve that?
@AnnakneedtunobasisPBWY 🕊
I have a serious question, what’s it mean to “Surrender it all to God?”
@britishpatriot812Dr Ramani’s videos on RADICAL ACCEPTANCE might help. My discard from my Vulnerable Narci wife of 36yrs gives me experiential knowledge on this his topic and the pain you’re experiencing. You sound like me 6mths ago…
Hope this helps you like it did me transition from VICTIM to SURVIVOR!
The climb is tough but the view is amazing at the top of Survivor Mountain!
SEE YOU AT THE TOP 🎉❤🎉
Their “I never said that” immediately became “well I only said that because YOU MADE ME SAY IT” when presented with evidence
My whole 54 years of marriage in a nutshell. 30 years ago I told myself you’ll never make me cry again….now I can’t cry I’ve completely shut down and can’t cry.
I went through this, too, and it seemed a part of me was dead. Terrifying! I retrieved it by watching reunion videos and compilations of loving families on YouTube!
Been there, done that. Loving a narcissist is loving an abyss. There is nothing there and deep down your senses know it. But you crave the fantasy. And that’s all it is and you experience the fantasy desolve into nothing.
This is a perfect description. You crave the fantasy… but there is no THERE, there.
So true…
One morning I woke up went to the kitchen and my husband is already accusing me of things so I didn’t try to defend myself or apologize as I normally would. I went back to my room quietly and wrote down eight accusations that were hurled at me within 5 minutes. Mind you I hadn’t even had my first cup of coffee . Looking at the accusations written on paper it blew my mind. Thank God I’ve had three months of freedom and nobody yells and screams accuses me of anything when I wake up in the morning
I am always the MOST grateful for my narcissistic ex-wife being gone first thing in the morning. My kitchen is so peaceful.
I’ve been married for almost 40 years. It took me 27 years before I realized there was something wrong with him, not me. There were red flags over the years, even some patterns. But, they trick you by giving fake responces. They are very convincing in what they say and how they act. You just fall for what they say. After without realizing it, you start to need his approval in your decision making. You start not trusting youself. He makes you feel like you do not do anything right. There are so many ways they will get in your head for their control on you. I would say that if you are with a narcissist watch yourself. They will use so many different types of manipulation acts. Be sure when they think they’ve got you where they want you the attacks start. This is when you start realizing that something is wrong. By now the narc is making you think you are going crazy. The chaos and havoc starts. Look out it is a hard ride. Look for red flags and don’t dissmiss them. You need to figure them out on what he is doing to you. When you start to see the patterns, then something is about to surface. One of his plans he has planed for you. Another chance to get in your mind. The pattern that made me think twice was when he went and started buying silverware. Shortly after I noticed this he discarded me. That happened 20 yrs into my marriage. My 1st and only discard I’ve ever had. BUT, about 6 years later he started colllecting silverware again. But, I called him on it and said i knew what was going on.I told him about the patterns he made. He just played it off as i was crazy because he never was going to discard me again. All I truely know is that there are several ways they can play tricks on your mind without you seeing it coming. Pay attention to everything. If it sounds like something he is saying is something you would never do. Then he has lied and is trying to convince you otherwise. Stay alert. They put your mind in hell
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