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So very true Dr. Ramani, thank you 🙏
Unfortunately these narcissists have triangulated a network of enablers around them that feel entitled to interfere and paint you the villain if you stand your ground.
To you, you’re drawing a boundary.
To them, you’re stubborn for not falling for the manipulation.
I really get you…
The enablers aren’t always entitled so much, as they are trying to protect the narcissist.
When the narcissist is the parent, the kids become enablers through brainwashing.
The kid doesn’t see what’s going on psychologically. The kid is in functioning mode and anxious all the time. 24/7.
And they are unknowningly and unwillingly giving up their life for the narc parent.
All their energy goes into making that narc happy. And if someone dares to criticize the narc, they see that all being for nothing. And THEY will have to pay for that later.
I agree with all you said. Just wanted to add this. Adult vs kid enabler
They cultivate a group that feeds off of each other similar to an alliance. It’s crazy to witness and once you see it, you cannot unsee it. Totally agree!
Exactly.
Yes extremely antagonistic & non stop arguments; extremely difficult to communicate in a healthy way with a man who refuses to listen to anything I say 🥹🥹💔🙄
Same here. I’m disabled so dependent on others and not well enough to move out which makes it worse as two family members are like this. One I can handle but the other one causes me severe anxiety. Hope some days I’ll have the energy to plan how to get away from this.
It’s always about them. And if you have two of these narcs in your direct family…you stop having a life of your own.
All I did was clean for them, trying to keep my siblings safe from harm (even though I was one of the youngest), and try to keep things in order somehow.
Not only cos that made the narc happy. But cos I desperately seeked harmony. Unknowingly btw.
I learned much more about these family dynamics when I was nearly 30.
I always thought: There must be a reason I was so happy to move out at 20yo. Finally. I didn’t really tell many people. And nobody asked: ‘Why? Normally people are sad they don’t see their family daily.’
If somebody had asked, maybe I would have gone to therapy earlier.
But hey…7 years isn’t too bad, is it 😅
Staying away is the better path if you can do that.
Feeling like they’re everywhere in Memphis and it’s TORTURE 💔 Thank you for all you do!!
Finally received a GIFT from NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Recently visited my hometown where my first Bully abused me, RELENTLY most of my life. DROVE BY ALL OF PAST PLACES OF ABJECT HUMILIATION & EVIL. FEELING NO pain, NO anxiety, finally free from 60 years of parental, spousal & employer abuse!! THANK YOU GOD!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
💯 RUN!
this.
Nice dress Dr Ramani, you look lovely in it, it suits you.
I won by letting her think she won. She would start arguments about the smallest things, and would always find a way to blame me.
One day I told her, “You’re right. I am the problem. I don’t deserve to be with someone as special as you. You really deserve a man who treats you like the royalty you are. If I were you, I never would have given me the time of day.”
“All paths suck” 🤣🤣🤣
There is a way to always win.
Learn to recognize them.
Then avoid them.
Then live a happy life.