Has the narcissist accused you of NOT communicating well?

@CraigMacpherson-h8l says:

They cant think instincively. By that I mean they need time to construct the narrative, convince THEMSELVES that the fiction is fact, Prepare the narrative so that it heads in the right direction, by which time they can “communicate” an “instinctive” answer: if you deviate from that planned route to their satisfaction, they panic; they scramble and they MAKE MISTAKES. Honestly, it’s damned hard at the beginning to subvert your own decent instincts but to practice “WWTBD” ( What WILL The Bastard Do”) before making your next move is important – things like not replying when expected to or fastforwarding the convo by skipping the expected reaction or doing a little research before commiting to a statement or even making the (usually, mildly nauseating) offer to facilitate a result for them totally sends them in a tailspin…its not in their predicted responses and THAT is where you win: they hang themselves with their own rope; they use their own saw to cut through the branch they are using to stay above the likes like you.

Oh, and record calls, screenshot quotations sent by sharing on media, and save SMS and whatsapps as evidence of the contradictions, implied threats and errors in alibis…

@sugerbear7075 says:

Yes… he always always said I had poor communication n I’ve never heard that ever n always always blamed me for being upset about what he did that it was because of what I did that he did what he did…

@alisha75006 says:

This seems like too good to be true cause I went through this communication bit with covert narcissist and my head was spinning in circles cause before I met them everyday living was like well oil machine, so after while when I analyzed it, and guess what? They were speaking My language! Would you believe that? That itself is mind boggling blowing 😂

@donnaedwards5115 says:

They don’t want you honestly communicate with you because you’re going to tell him stuff of what they’re doing and they don’t want to hear it. And it does no good they’ll start an argument with you because most narcissists love to argue and then nothing gets resolved you can’t win it seems like that’s why I just avoid all of them.

@originalusername12345 says:

I used to not think my ex was a narcissist, just toxic and abusive with narcissistic tendencies. Lately I’ve been questioning that and this particular taking point was the thing that shifted that. There’s just too many boxes checked at this point…

@bellablue2483 says:

They just copy what you say to them and then say it back to you in arguments! My sister actually has set phrases that she uses during confrontations 😮

@Flowerfairy77 says:

A friend spent days sending me horrible texts and emails and when I responded I was the harsh one… and then when I had to cut myself off from the continual abusive messaged I was called avoidant and unable to communicate… I decided not to respond as all as I learnt I could never ever win it get my point across without it being twisted and used against me… 😢

@estherclark820 says:

Is it then possible that when one does learn better methods of introspection, they can then stop blame shifting, take accountability, stop blaming or shaming anyone, including themselves? Reality becomes a clear path forward, not an over focused dwelling on harm received? I think so. Lifting others up by forgiving past harm done, do no harm now? Self awareness.