How to PLAY a narcissist…
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November 1-3, 2024
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You can play a narcissist, but I don’t recommend it. Don’t let yourself become like them. I think that’s what they want us to do.
Maybe play them just to a degree. Sometimes I just mimic back a bit then disappear.. it depends
That has always been my thought exactly. Its not abut anything but making us the same or worse.
Right
I just ignored him like he ignored me. It’s easier.
Just run. Exit. The best way to win is not play.
Unfortunately some people are minors
No reaction is the best reaction. Any small reaction is like a supply for them.
Out of 6 yearss narc relationship 6 months ago. U played a important role in my life, u wont believe only seeing ur vedio gave me strength to keep moving n staying away from that toxic devil. U have no idea u helping so many ppl in so many ways.
Oh true my other person switches from raging at me then someone else comes in he is Mr sad victim in a split second leaving me furious & I can’t switch it off so quickly & I looked bad!!
That’s when recording comes in handy.
The only winning move is not to play.
Just leave it’s not worth it.
I’m done, I did all I could. Ignore them for 40 years it didn’t work
My ex, once I realized EVERYTHING she’s ever done with me was a chess move, its really empowering for me, and yes she would often, in the past, try and bait me into fights, I cant go no contact, b/c we have children,, but I can manage the relationship for better outcomes for my kids
This is very useful…not many gun things in uk but road rage happens…aand its all useful life advice 😊
It’s not how to deal with them. It’s how not to engage with them.
l agree 💯
“Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
― George Bernard Shaw
pigs are brilliant and very wise (i know it’s a figure of speak), i just need to add that, since they ‘re so wonderful 🙂
@@imbolc8024 Don’t worry, I do not eat or wear animals or their bodily secretions. 😉
You are very close to narc survivor on your thumbs up. Good job
Exactly! I will not cast my pearls on swine.
You can’t get any narc to stop…. Would if we could……how much wood can a woodchuck chuck.
It is so difficult to not want to defend yourself once you call them out. They will flip everything on you, say the worst things about you. It’s impossible to argue with someone who is unfair and abusive and deflects everything and doesn’t care at all about your feelings or perspective.
Yep, the more you try the worse the situation will get. Its awful
They’re doing that to trigger you into a reactive mode so they can feel in control. All of their insults (and compliments, you have to let go of those too, because that’s what keeps you sucked in) are shallow and baseless.
It’s not in our character to behave in those ways.
The destruction gets me every time, and I feel helpless with it all.
There isn’t anything I can do except stand firm in my own values and character.
Just detach, stay calm, leave, don’t respond or just say “ you’re allowed to have your opinion” and walk away. If they text, don’t reply. 😂😂😂
If they text, block their number.
They are robots with simple algorithm at core and fake stolen personality on front. You cannot win argument against a robot like that.
I love this description!!
It’s not a robot but an insecure child.
@@alexxx4434 Insecure children protecting themselves in robot bodies and fake personality masks. Layers upon layers.
And a robot too. Since they have no empathy they do and say painful words with no feeling anything
I have heard that healing and escaping from their influence is the best way to score a point against them , albeit a smallish point, the game is against yourself , let them think they won,,,,,
They know they didn’t win and they’re fuming.
🙏🥳😀
This really hit me in the gut. The narcissist abuse may be addressed after they murder you. But they usually don’t try to murder you unless they are pretty sure they’ll get away with it. No we can’t shut down our feelings like they can. Screw their game. I avoid them the best I can. They don’t care anyway. 😢
My mom is like this. I’ve always wondered how she can yell and scream and berate on and on and on without getting tired. It seems to energize her. Thank you so much, Dr. Ramani, you’ve helped me realize how abusive my mother was, and still is…