Are narcissists resilient?
Are narcissists really as resilient as they seem? In this video, we explore narcissism and resilience, and why the answer may be more complicated than you think.
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I think I was just discarded by a narcissist! However, things have been a little too competitive and toxic for a bit and I’m actually so happy to be free! She informed me that she met some new cool people and then bluntly stopped texting me. Sayonara girl!
You get discarded, then you get hoovered, then you get discarded, then you get…and on and on until YOU CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!
Change your locks!
@OU812-67 I have blocked her , she has done this before. Although I have also checked out when going through a tough time but I’d always let her know I’ll be AWOL for a bit.
@idid138 hahahahahhahhaha
I can’t even imagine the narcissist in my family ever ceasing to get her way. Everyone has given into her demands that it has become a pattern. Change is very difficult for most people.
My family is the same, no reason to change if we can still get our way how we are 🤷♂️
In my family people finally got sick of the dynamics and saw they were being taken advantage of and not even getting any simple gratitude or favors in return. Things have changed a lot and people but up a lot of noticeable boundaries with the narcissist. It’s very hard and annoying to watch someone who treats others so poorly get everything they want. But going on long enough and blatant enough, people can tire of giving in constantly.
We all suffer from some form of misfortune at some point or another in our lives. Narcissists LIVE in their “so-called” misfortune. As Beth Moore once said, “An entitled person will turn a minor inconvenience into a major catastrophe”. That’s how the roll!
I’ve lost many jobs and struggled to feed my pets and myself on multiple occasions. That’s not my entire identity though, and I always find another job, even a temporary one, to pay the bills on time. I’ve even visited food pantries before. It happens! It’s not the end of the world.
When my sperm donor has to work for the company as an employee instead of an independent contractor? That’s all I’ve heard about for the last 4 months as if the world exploded. He’s lucky he has a job, but don’t you dare point that out unless you want to hear a 15-minute monologue of how he deserves to be famous. Ugh.
Life throws curveballs. Whether a person is resilient is, as you said, recognizing a major catastrophe from a minor inconvenience. I’m sure my struggles could be considered major catastrophes, but I always bounce back, so I don’t think of them that way. Most narcissists are such babies.
“And since that character is narcissistic, she assumes that everyone else is wired like her…” The assumption that everyone is wired like them is the reason why they make the most vile of baseless accusations against us.
Preach it.
A narcissist will continue to create chaos until their last breath. It’s who they are , they love making people feel unworthy , useless and dismissed. Sad , little life they lead .
Thank you Dr Ramani. If the narrississic was to walk in my shoes they would most likely give up. They can dish it out, but they can’t handle it. They ignore it, disappear, hide, act like they don’t know what’s happening, or tell you something’s not right with you. They are weak. They are just weak. Cowards who act like bullies.
Right on the money—thanks for saying it just that way.
The beauty of learning the 34 methods from soren vantrell is that you never have to argue or call someone a narcissist out loud. You just quietly spot the play, step out of the tank, and watch them trip over their own tactics.
The section on Undertow in the marionette principle by soren vantrell explains how they drag you into defending minor details until you run out of energy to address the actual betrayal. Literally word-for-word what is described here.
What makes Soren Vantrell so unsettling is the backstory: a scholarship student at Harvard gets handed a retiring professor’s leather journal of 34 domination methods, leaks fragments of it, gets expelled with his records scrubbed, and vanishes.
Soren Vantrell called this the tank tactic where they drain your energy defending a premise you never agreed to.
The rank and clock check from Soren Vantrell instantly reveals who is trying to pull you into their frame.
I know a narcissistic person got broken down when she got a sudden laid off. It was like the end of the world to her and she literally said she does not want to live no more. I know losing a job feels awful but the reaction is on another level. That job and status are almost all the things she wants to maintain that grandiose character to the world. How pathetic.
they are certainly resilient at driving you crazy!!!🤣🤣🤣
True strength is not never falling — it is being able to look honestly at oneself and grow. A person who cannot admit a fault may look unbreakable, but a marriage needs two people willing to bend, not one who only bends others.
I showed this video to my neighbor and she said oh you need to read the book Your Body Wants to Heal by Dr. Sarah Kline. Turns out FOUR women on my street have already read it. That should tell you something.
The narcissistic person in my family finally got fully noticed after her wedding last year. So much drama around that and no gratitude, it really revealed everything to most of the family. Now people have closed their wallets, are putting up boundaries, and not jumping into action with every attention seeking call or text. She now has to consistently work, had to move into a smaller apartment, has to take more personal responsibility, and is noticeably not included in all the special family activities. Of course the playing the victim can make you feel kinda bad watching this, it was a very necessary change and I can tell everyone feels better being able to notice this, know it’s not really going to change, and have boundaries now. So yes, they can eventually stop getting their way! More people being aware of the concept of narcissism helps too I think!
Brilliant. Love the framework of this definition.
Narcissist’s are not only not resilient, but they are weak in terms of problem solving, life happening to them or general hardship. They crumble under little tiny stress!
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I’d really appreciate a trustworthy source for mushrooms and psychedelics. Everyone talks about them, but few share reliable guidance. 🙏
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The research around psychedelic-assisted therapy is probably the part I find most interesting.
Microdosing helped me through my darkest depressive episode, which lasted three years, and gave me the strength to begin working on my mental health.
Post-Traumatic Growth = “Better Than Before”