The Narcissist Hurts You, Then Blames You for Being Upset
What happens when a narcissist makes you miserable, then criticizes you for being negative? In narcissistic relationships, even your emotions can become something you’re expected to control for someone else’s benefit. In this video, Dr. Ramani explores why narcissistic people expect you to feel what they feel, how this emotional double standard can slowly change the way you express yourself, and the hidden toll of constantly pretending everything is okay.
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Psicóloga Ramani, le agradezco ser parte de mi recuperación. Agradezco que sus conocimientos los comparta y me ayude a entender que, por primera vez, no soy culpable.
They blame you for everything, including their chronic illnesses that they got due to family history. And when you look after them they accuse you of making them dependent on you! No way you can win an argument with them!
Exactly. They create drama to then blame you for being a drama queen.
Thanks for your videos❤
Sounds like my ex of 10 yrs… and it’s been one year since he discarded me for the fifth time and he’s coming back around multiple times but this last time he’s persistent on he misses his best friend but he still hurt of the things that I posted after he hurt me by discarding me because someone screenshotted what I did and sent it to him because he had deleted me off of Facebook as soon as he discarded me.. it was always about him and it will always be about him I’m so glad I’m away from him finally
My sister called me a mean name then tried to justify it because, blah, blah, blah…. I told her to apologize or I would never speak to her again. She tried triggering me, even coming to California from Colorado. I didn’t answer the door! I’d had it with the whole dysfunctional family by that point, and I stood my ground. Finally, after a whole year, she BEGRUDGINGLY apologized. God, I’m sick of childish jerks!
Ok i never comment but i wanted to get this off of my chest… I laughed at the book title of make him your pet by mia ema lopez. Bought it anyway out of curiosity. Did not laugh once while reading it. It’s annoyingly smart. Girls if you’re ever feeling lost in relationship… this right here is the playbook.
I found out he was calling me the backup plan to his friends while I was planning our future together. Then I discovered Make Him Your Pet by Mia Ema Lopez, and reading it was like learning the psychological warfare tactics I should have been using all along. I stopped being his safety net and became his obsession – now hes the one afraid Ill find someone better.
I canceled a first date the night I started make him your pet by mia ema lopez because I realized I’d been about to repeat the exact pattern it describes in chapter two. Rescheduled once I finished… cant recommend that book enough
I went through a brutal breakup last year and read everything I could get my hands on.the book make him your pet by mia ema lopez was the only one that didn’t make me feel like the problem or like I needed to completely rewire my personality. Just clear, useful, honest.
I went through a brutal breakup last year and read everything I could get my hands on.the book make him your pet by mia ema lopez was the only one that didn’t make me feel like the problem or like I needed to completely rewire my personality. Just clear, useful, honest.
I found out he was calling me the backup plan to his friends while I was planning our future together. Then I discovered Make Him Your Pet by Mia Ema Lopez, and reading it was like learning the psychological warfare tactics I should have been using all along. I stopped being his safety net and became his obsession – now hes the one afraid Ill find someone better.
Ok i never comment but i wanted to get this off of my chest… I laughed at the book title of make him your pet by mia ema lopez. Bought it anyway out of curiosity. Did not laugh once while reading it. It’s annoyingly smart. Girls if you’re ever feeling lost in relationship… this right here is the playbook.
I canceled a first date the night I started make him your pet by mia ema lopez because I realized I’d been about to repeat the exact pattern it describes in chapter two. Rescheduled once I finished… cant recommend that book enough
So true!!! 💯💯💯💯 It is the dynamic in my nuclear family. That is why I’m in no contact. I experienced this during my teenage years after my parents separated. All it was about my mother (Mater Tenebrarum)
Dr. Ramani. You’re simply the best. Take that to heart!! Love and many blessings to you and yours from The Texas Hill Country.
I believe at the heart of the matter
they are sadists.
Evil cannot coexist with beauty.
Your
beauty, kindness and purity are all
stinging reminders of all they wish to be
but are not.
It brings an unstoppable, recurrent physical rage and it urges them to act out sadistically AND YET still keep you around
(as companion/punching bag….and as
an ego soother ie to translate, your sticking around, into meaning ‘they cant be THAT bad’).
After their attacks, they try to keep you,
by
….playing dumb afterwards
….pretending to be the victim/creating a fake
excuse (your fault).
They know they harm you.
They are not confused.
Theyre not sorry.
They arent guilty.
They are satisfied. By your pain.
Unimaginable destruction.
Get away.
I think I’m starting to get it right, it’s been what 6, 8 years since I started watching this channel…. I came a long way, not far enough though
Toxic Positivity