What YOUR narcissistic parent will do at YOUR WEDDING
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November 1-3, 2024
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Can’t wait to sink my teeth into this vid Dr. Ramani! My Stepdaughter’s Malignant Narc Mother is hoping to be invited to her wedding next August & judging from how this so called “Mom” acted at her daughter’s college graduation two years ago, no wonder the poor girl wants her Mon to stay far away from her big day! Thanks again for all your valuable insight ❤
I was at a friend’s wedding and overheard her mother say “I look prettier than the bride”. She was dead serious.
😮 I bet she didn’t lol
🤣🤣🤣Awful,pompous, inflated balloon!!
Ha ha ha!😂@@entrepreneurialempress
Yes, nasty!!!
My deluded mother wanted to be the bride instead of me.
I eloped specifically so that I wouldn’t have to invite my narcissistic parents. No regrets.
Same…. But his dad showed up anyway 🙄
@@brandynuance7791 Ugh!
I dont want to invite malignant/psychopathic cousin bent on taking everything away from me. But my mother WILL call them.. Any suggestions ??
@@shreyaindia4024Yes. Ask your mother to respect your wishes. If she can’t do that for you, consider eloping or not involving her, either. If she’s willing to cross your boundaries on your wedding day, she’s not emotionally safe.
Suggested several times but was convinced not to. I have always Regretted having the wedding. but NEVER my choice in spouse.
When I have told people and therapists the cruel comments my Mom has said I’m typically met with laughter. Everyone finds it amusing. When I have talked to family about her or a sibling who says cruel things I’m told that that’s just their sense of humor. Whatever
I know exactly how you feel. It’s like no one understands narcissism.Even most therapists
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Yeah…..sorry people of this ilk don’t deserve having you share anything personal.
And if a therapist LAUGHS at these “jokes”…then they’re a useless therapist.
It’s almost impossible to explain to someone who is not familiar with narcissistic traits the torture that they put us through whether they’re overt narcissist or covert narcissist. My daughters are one of each. I don’t see them, talk to them, or hear from them anymore. They’ve turned the rest of the family against me as well. I am better off now than I was in the midst of their abuse.
My mom was competitive with my husband and even his son that we raised. When I would bring a nasty comment or a bad behavior my mom had, she would say “you don’t understand how kind hearted I am. If you knew my heart, you would not have thought that way. My dad was the only one who knew my heart and believed in me.”
Those that have to brag about how wonderful they are usually are not. Actions speak louder than prideful words.
🚩🚩🚩If they have to tell you how great they are they are not a good person. Good people don’t do that. They don’t need to tell anyone, it shows
@@carolfield2760 Exactly. Well said.
Narcissists see you as their property. I can recall at my wedding my mother would need to assert her control by hugging so everyone there could see out of grandiosity, or forcefully inserting herself between myself and someone I was or going to interact with for a big “hug”. The look on her face when we told her we were getting married was one of contempt and reluctance because she was afraid of losing an appliance.
Once you know you go- get out and stay out.
My husband and I wanted to get married in March but my narcissistic dad made us wait because until the middle of June because he wanted to plan my wedding. The wedding was all about my dad and my husband and I were just a sideshow. We tried to stay in the city I grew up, but my husband finally figured out how crazy my dad and moved us 6 hours away. When I finally got space and could think for myself I put up very firm boundaries. I haven’t talked to him in over a year and when I go to my hometown I don’t visit him. He set all my siblings against me so that makes it challenging to have a relationship with them, but I’m doing what’s right for me, my husband and my babies.
My daughters have poisoned my family against me as well. No one knows how hard this is unless they’ve been through it. Sending you a big hug!❤
@@beverlyadams7205
My mother alienated my cousins from me with her lies. I understand you.
I’ve been married for 36 years to the kindest, sweetest man. Back then we were caught between 2 narcs; his dad and my mom. We managed to arrange everything without these two. Even with the dress and the cake…we just ordered and not involve them at all. That, however, didn’t protect us from their fury. On the day (and you can see this in the photos) there were NO smiles from our parents. They were SO grumpy. My husband’s sister (the golden child) was in attendance, but didn’t pitch for the photo session. She just up and left. Fortunately my siblings (brother and sister and their better halves) were ecstatic that their “baby” sister (15 years their junior) was getting married. We took a photo where the lot of us were pictured laughing and joking….that is my most treasured memory of that day. Yes, I married my best friend and soul mate, but I shared it with these four wonderful people. They saved the day.
My narcissistic mom isn’t smiling in any of my wedding photos either.
I didn’t let my narc parents know I had gotten married until many months later. No one spoiled my perfect wedding.
Mine was different, my mom was always the poor me thing, but in a justified judgemental way, ” I would never pay that much for a dress, why spend all that money on one day? Why not save the money, when you have kids your life is over girl, you’re gonna need that money. I never wasted anything like you.” But you see, my dad provided well, she was never rich but never without so I never understood…so I as an only child, gave her my stuff and worked my butt off trying to make her happy or at least satisfied, because I caused her ” life to be over”. She said she could have done great things if it hadn’t been for having a child. She resented me while at the same time undermining any relationship I had so I would come back (for her to use as a scapegoat?)
When a guy who was interested in me, his mother came to my work to suss me out!
We had met at my brother’s 21st birthday and he lived in another city. Then he wanted to introduce me to his mother. We went to his parent’s house for this introduction. He briefly left the room where his mother and I were, and she immediately said to me, “I come first in Richie’s life.” You can imagine my surprise!
Knew immediately that a relationship with him would never work out having a “mother-in-law” like that.
My hubby and I eloped in 1985, then bought our wedding rings at the pawnshop a couple of days later. Eventually, I was ostracized and disinherited … and I enjoyed 35 years of a wonderful marriage.
Good girl. Hugs
She did the same at the birth of my first child and said my husband was disappointed as it was not a boy???? I had a near death experience giving birth and had pre-eclampsia??? I was alive and so was my baby – and she did that! Wow.
I know all about that behaviour!
It’s very hard to understand.
Thank goodness for these videos!
@@trudiegordon6327
Oh but you were getting too much attention. You needed to be told you had failed They are so selfish!!!!
when a narc makes a mean comment to me i think in my mind “aww you are SO jealous of me”
and look at them with those vibes
then
i glance at their belly and back up at their eyes
Narcissistic parents ruin not only weddings, but any and every family celebration.
make it like you are having to be the one apologizing for being born. your birthday? AVOID THEM!
So true
My narc ex’s parents ruined my wedding with their behaviour, because he was the golden child. Now I expect that my daughter will soon announce plans to get married, and I cower at the thought of dealing with my ex and his flying monkey third wife, who criticizes everything. It’s going to take a lot of mental preparation to get through it all and make it a happy day for my much loved daughter.
They ruin Highschool Graduations, Childbirths, Birthdays and all celebratory events where they are not the focus.
I had no contact with the entire family narc system when I got married.
My wedding day was perfect.
Going no contact was the best decision I ever made.
So Brilliant. Just when you start to think these videos couldn’t get any better, you get a World Class education on narcissistic parents and weddings. Between your treasure trove of varied and relatable experiences and your intuitive teaching skill, you walk away from this one with a lot more Clarity and powerful Validation. You are so Great at this, Dr. Ramani. Thank you and your Team!
I needed this information 30 years ago! Wow you completely described my experience and a full Def Con 1!!
Ha! She exposed her narcissistic self to everyone at my wedding rehearsal dinner, which was such a relief actually to not feel so alone in knowing the family secret. Still it took me 5 decades of my life to finally choose me before her. Once I chose me, I was able to finally finish a BA and an MA. I graduated several days before her birthday. My husband and I celebrated with a vacation. She was unconsolable about me not coming to visit her on her birthday during our vacation. (I never have visited for her birthday, we live 3000 miles apart). She punished/rewarded me with no contact for 5 months. In the 4 years that I was finishing my BA and getting my MA she hung up on me multiple times, didnt talk to me for a year at a time, then called like nothing happened. I realized recently that I’ve stayed married longer than she ever did, and now I’ve achieved 2 degrees she never did. The power imbalance she revered is upset and all she can do is hang up on me to punish me, which makes me sad to think of her pitiful life depending on feeling more powerful than others. And it also makes me glad that I don’t have to pretend anymore.