When narcissists accuse you of NOT being HAPPY for them
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November 1-3, 2024
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You always have to be happy for the narcissist, but the narcissist will never be happy for you. They will downplay your accomplishments and exaggerate anything they’re doing. They are completely delusional.
@@arcturianoracle784 That’s OK. I hate my mother, and she’s been dead for years.
The rollercoaster of life with a narc is a soul-sucking ride.
When I was grieving the end of my marriage (I divorced him), my mom told me something I’ll never ever forget. “He blew up your marriage. He handed you dynamite and expected you to thank him for it.”
My ex had cheated and “come out as poly” and told me to my face that he wanted me to joyfully sign off on a one-sided open marriage so he could “explore his sexuality.” He raged when I asked if it would be a mutual arrangement. He wanted to have as many friends with benefits as he could get while I played supportive cool girl wife at home and never having my own needs or desires.
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And that they always accuse us of being jealous of them. So when they yell this at us, we become silent and stunned
They are the ones stuck in this competitive loop. And also, telling us what we should feel. That’s the best they can do at empathy. Extremely disappointing people to say the very minimal.
Love the idea of popping the champagne when it goes up in dust for the narcissist! ❤
Narc’s love to rub things in your face. Tell you all the things they’re doing for others, that they’ll never do for you.
Thank you Dr Ramani for all the help you give. I was married for 41 and 1/2 years to a very hateful man who was the epitome of narcissism. 4 and 1/2 years ago he drowned. Needless to say it was very unexpected and I was devastated at first but after I had time to really think about my situation for so many years I’ve come to the conclusion that God did me the biggest favor of my life. I mentioned that in a group I belong to one time and of course someone made the comment that that was not a very nice thing to say. I wonder if they would have thought the same had they been in my shoes for even a minute? Anyway, I love your videos. You’ve got some great advice.
It’s so unfortunate that this abuse is allowed to destroy lives.
Thanks for your contribution, YouTube❤️. We need you
Happiness and Narcissists just don’t mix, they have never cultivated the personality capacity to have happiness.
I heard that from my narcissistic ex after she cheated on me and left me for someone else. I was told I was a selfish person because I wasn’t celebrating her happiness as started putting the new relationship all over social media while we were still together. I was also incredibly sick at the time and had been caring for her financially and emotionally for years. The gaslighting went so deep I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore.
Hopefully you can now look in the mirror and smile and say “I am much better off now” !
it’s because i’m sad for whomever they latched onto next…
Narcissists: I want to screw up your life, “WHY CAN’T YOU JUST BE HAPPY FOR ME?” 😅😂
Adult kids knew about the affair. They wanted to talk to him about his actions and behavior. His defense when they called him out on the gaslighting he tried to do was, “why can’t you be happy for me? I’m in love for the first time in my life!”
They were dumbfounded. To that moment, we had just ✨celebrated✨ 24 years of marriage.
Yay! Dad, you harmed our mother (and us and our family) for your happiness! Kudos to you!
It’s so ridiculous! They are all same demon in different suits. The best part is they act like you were obstacle to their happiness and the next supply is always, “Their one true love” 😂
I experienced this with my first grandiose narcissist husband/my son’s father. He destroyed my entire life and our small son’s life on purpose for a long time emotionally and financially. Now fast forward thirty years later attending our only child’s wedding. My ex spouse looked haggard, has cancer and is full of hate and drinks all day. The woman he left myself and small son for looks like a skeleton and is a drug addict. Oddly, I looked young and fantastic for our son’s wedding. Everyone commented how great I looked which was nice for me. But my ex husband hurt our child very seriously emotionally and hurt us financially for years. Looking at my ex husband at the wedding I still feel anger and disgust for how we were treated. Ironically, my son and I eventually became okay and my son is thriving. But to this day I cannot ever forgive this man. He literally makes me sick and I was relieved how his life ended up.
Omg! They vacillate from, “why can’t you be happy for me” to “get over it” after they gutted you emotionally, financially, etc. It’s just another tactic to deflect from their low down dirty tricks. Do yourself a favor and go be happy without them. Focus on yourself instead. ❤
If you are not happy for them , you destroy their mirror. So they become what they are afraid of : WEAK.
Thank you for the validating video that you share with so much humor! It made me think about the very first time I saw my Ex… the way he walked really impressed me: just like a king with a crone on his head! Now I know I didn’t see the huge red flag:
ENTITLEMENT! He is the only one that was meant to be happy in every relationship 🤫
And this is why I absolutely love Dr. Ramani! She just gets it! And I don’t feel like I’m being unreasonable or crazy!❤❤