How narcissistic relationships twist your love language
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Totally agree. Me too, I listen to this channel everyday religiously. How could I put it… I was so confused, so miserable, so isolated. My belief system was crumbling… I compromised myself to extend I despised myself… knowledge, if I knew earlier how the vulnerable narcissist „love bombing „ look like; if I knew what pseudo empathy look like… and and… but never too late, I know now. Thank you, Dr. Ramani
I agree with you completely.
Words feel so empty now
Gift giving can last after the divorce is final. The kids dad looks good every mother’s Day in the kids eyes for giving something elaborate but it always cost me because it was closely followed by a request for thousands of dollars and a court date.
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In narc relationships, regarding their love languages, one is talking and the other one is ignoring.
Well said and 100% accurate. Waste of time.
They also use gift giving to hoover you back in.
Thankfully, my Love Languages have remained consistent even after the narcissistic adventures I had with different folks in my realm…family and non family.
The narcissistic adventures actually opened up my eyes to a whole different realm of human behavior which is so against my deep heart and soul.
Narcissistic adventures didn’t beat me down. Instead, it grew me to different levels which is so ironic for the narcissists since they all went downhill, while I moved up the mountain.
The Universe and Karma always has my back, which I greatly appreciate. ❤
They take “don’t have any expectations” to a whole other level.
Once again, you hit the nail on the head! 🔨 💖
I’m also “acts of service” and he KNEW that, right from the very beginning. He asked me, and I stupidly told him because I mistook that as an interest in having a “good relationship”. I’m now positive he did everything just to spite me, and wanted to know so he could use it for his manipulation.
I was NOT at all surprised that once I set a date that I was leaving, he was miraculously able to do his own dishes and take the trash bins in and out!!!
Once I rented an apartment and was prepping my stuff to move out, suddenly she decided she *did* have the energy after all to work on her end of the relationship. She begged me to give her 2 weeks. I gave in; I didn’t want to leave any cards on the table. After 2 weeks of love bombing, and after canceling the lease, things really looked on the upswing. But shortly after that she went back to all the same stuff, demanding I speak her love language, while not caring at all to speak mine (words of affirmation, of course lol). She used to tell me often that she couldn’t give affirming words when she saw nothing worth praising. But she sure was awesome at it when she saw I was intent on leaving.
I can see acts of service being manipulative. I prefer acts of service. I lived with a friend for a bit. But all acts of service on my part is because I liked the woman an her child. I also got gifts and hugs an a roof over my head. I gained a lot of knowledge from her beliefs it went both ways. She was dealing with a narc x at the time. I used to clean for my beloved mom a lot!! I know my x narc use to do acts of service which was totally bs. It was Acts. Interesting Dr Ramani!
Thank you for this video. A mixed dsyregulated malignant bag he was! Trying to gain more understanding, always searching to dispel the deep disparities, unrelenting crazy dramas, in 2018 while driving from Colorado to California I was reading Love Languages. I read the 5 from Chapman’s Love Language list, sharing mine and asked him what were his? After a moment he said his Love Tank was full… and that he would make a different list… but wouldn’t give one. Hearing this today I can laugh 🤣
My love language was all of the five above, in equal measure.
His love language was the same for the first few weeks.
Then he turned cold on all of them.
I tried to win him back by being more loving but he just got more controlling.
More angry. More critical. More violent.
I was such a young romantic fool hoping the warm man I fell in love with would return.
I believed that love could conquer anything.
What a waste of ten years of my life!
Where were you Dr Ramani when I needed you 45 years ago???
Probably still a child!
Can you not have a mixture of love language? I like a bit of it all 😂
To me the “five love languages” seem transactional. There’s one love language, reciprocation. If the person doesn’t pay attention to you, put you first, establish trust, closeness, and intimacy, then you’re in a one sided relationship with a user (narcissist).
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Right off the bat, Dr. Ramani hit the nail on the head with my previous marriage to the narcissist. I’m an “act of service” love language, and my ex was a “physical touch” love language, and every description that you brought up felt like reading a page out of my life to the very T.
Toby Keith sang a song about narc relationships : “I wanna Talk About Me”.
Dr. Ramani’s videos have literally saved my life. That’s it. That’s what I wanted to say. Maybe I’ll write some proper fan mail someday. For now, I’m just loving her book and binge watching all her videos, lol. She helped me get out of an unhealthy and unsafe relationship four months ago, and I’ll be grateful forever.