The toxic lie the narcissist tells to keep you trapped
They told you that you’re the problem – that you can’t handle real relationships, that you always run when things get hard. And maybe, at some point, you started to believe it. So now, you’re determined to prove them wrong, to stick it out no matter what… even if the relationship is toxic. But what if this whole narrative was never true to begin with?
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I don’t know if they believe their own lies. Because lying is their default behavior.
They’ll believe them as long as you do
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Catching them in the lie and laughing in there face . That’s how l got through the last year of being with the Narcissist
It’s just something he makes me wanna feel he knows everything better than I do so that it would distort my reality and my judgement on both myself and him.
The toxic lie every narcissist will tell you to keep you trapped – is that “it’s going to get better”. It never does and it never will.
I asked myself so when does it start to get better
another lie is “no one else would have you”.
They also pretend they are looking for a relationship when they aren’t.
“I can change”
Being made out to be the “insane” one is dismissive, unstable, and just plain disgusting. imo the gaslighting from various angles is more destructive than the abuse itself.😢😔💔
Finally walking away from my covert narc mother. I’m done with all the false logic, manipulation, playing the victim, and trying to get between me and my partner. I can’t and shouldn’t have to keep putting up with this. Whatever I say is twisted against me. Nothing can be done so I’m done trying
I understand. I’ve dealt with the same thing with my mother. And I just cut her off and out of my life. 2 weeks and counting. And honestly, it’s more peaceful without the drama in my life. I wish you well.
Yes…. Future faking!!!!!!!
After diving into narcissistic behavior, I was shocked at how many of the recommended tactics I had unconsciously developed dealing with my Mother’s manipulation, gas lighting, victim-hood, etc. But consciously realizing how bad the problem was made it easier to deal with. And even with all the learned tactics, just not interacting with her has by far been the most effective strategy for me.
There’s a big clue . . They start every sentence with “YOU” and then a ridiculous “BLAME” statement. Normal people don’t do that!
Exactly! The same has happened to me. I told him recently “that’s not normal to do that.” Lord, give us strength.
You can’t have a healthy relationship, build a life and prosper with someone who believes their own lies.
Narcissists: “I always tell the truth, even when I’m lying”.
Yes, I was raised in a narcissistic system. Thank you for this ❤ I began healing 10 yrs ago & will continue as long as I live. That is how deep this trauma can cut. Being kind to myself, I struggle with daily, but I am winning one moment at a time. Thank you for your commitment to helping people heal ❤
Man, being family scapegoat sucks. We have to deal with all of everybody’s bs and then we get tricked into staying around because “we’re the incapable and immature ones” smh
Yes. It’s a total mindeff.
Went no contact with all siblings after my mum passed. Better to being alone than around toxic family members.
This happened to me and then in probate court. Five years taking care of my father but was traumatized by his death? I’m obviously the devil.
I left when I decided to “be the bad guy” and save myself. It was my way to frame it. I wasn’t the bad guy, but it was how I convinced myself to escape.
They are truly evil people and it’s important you safely get away from them, even if you have to abandon others in order to do so. And just accept that they will never stop stalking you and smearing your reputation.
So true!! I fully admit I’m Avoidant, having been raised by a narcissistic mother in a toxic family. Being independent was how I survived. But that doesn’t mean I’m incapable of having a healthy relationship!
Me being Avoidant was thrown in my face constantly by the narc, like his petty and immature repetitive arguments were all my fault.
SO glad I didn’t sell my house and move in– he started that noise just two months into the relationship!!
We Avoidants just prefer to go slow, weaning into giving up the independence that saved us, but it can be done. I’ve been married…
At 59, it’s true I’ve never had a healthy relationship, but I’m more equipped with the knowledge, self work and self love needed to succeed. No more narcissistic crap-taking here!!
same same 🙂 And many many people haven’t had a healthy relationship at 59 – but they are still in them. There is a reason that heterosexual women are happier after divorce than men.
My own parents did this to me. When I was about 35 years old with a professional degree and working full-time, I did date but I was single as none of those dates worked out for various reasons althought they were lovely people (my type of people). Both my parents told me maybe I should find out what was “wrong” with me for being still single. They knew why the previous relationships hadn’t worked (or at least pretended they believed me). I was flabbergasted. I always thought of my parents as modern and understanding people.
This did push me into three major toxic relationships with people I didn’t at all connect with. The first one I got out of, after 2 years of agony and telling my parents he was no good for me (he looked good on paper but was narcissistic). The second one ended up being a full-on psychopath. The third one, the charm, ended up being my husband (now separated). He’s a mixed bag of borderline and narcissist. The only silver lining was my beautiful daughter.
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4:52 Thank you acknowledging how easy it is to say “ignore them because you know the truth”, but the reality of it feels awfulllll, Especially in a small town. There’s nothing like being completely misunderstood and lied about. It feels like it just erases your whole being.
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We need to stop listening to people who don’t understand things that they haven’t personally experienced. That’s either a lack of empathy or they think we’re lying/exaggerating. Keep those folks at a distance!
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I heard many of these types of comments from my mother. But the most common was “No one will ever want you.” Soooo…. I came to understand that this insult(s) was just another one of her demeaning comments to crush my spirit so I would stay in her control. Reality was however I kissed a few frogs until the day the man that was to become my husband came into my life. And finally the day came that I threw her out of our home and my life as the insults continued. See she could not stand I succeeded in finding a good man and starting my own family. The narc mom just can not stand a daughter having something she did not. And what she really hated is I saw thru her BS even as a girl. I always knew it was all about her and I really did not matter even as a little kid.
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Yeah I’ve definitely learned from this, I’ve become a leaver I’m not about to put up with the BS to prove a point to someone else
I was breaking up with a toxic person who was possessive towards me, would smash and break stuff around me when he was angry and took advantage of me financially. When I told my narcissist sibling that I was breaking up with him, she said “well I never had a problem with him”. Sigh.
Yerk!
“Messing with others people’s mind is sport; no matter what it does to someone else”. It took me so long to understand that yes, people can really knowingly behave this way
It’s hard to accept because we wouldn’t ever do that to anyone. We couldn’t knowingly play with someone’s mind. It’s called having a conscious
the full quote is @5:51 “Sadly, in narcissistic family systems and relationships, messing with other people’s minds is sport. With little regard for how it hurts someone.”
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You are correct! It just boggled my mind when I realized this was intentional as I could not fathom doing that to anyone!
Exactly!!
Said that from childhood!
They were just envious and jealous and abusive!!
They want you to sacrifice yourself for their selfish gain!!
Keep close to God!
God bless you Doctor Ramani!!
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