Sneaky ways narcissists will try to ISOLATE you
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When they don’t advise you to meet new friends or join a group if they have an issue with your current friends, RED FLAG! 🚩
Great point!
Facts 🎉🎉❤❤
Oh yes they do, they push ONLY Christian friends on you, who are FAR from holy. Narcs cannot even comprehend Godly, nor most likely spell it.
Yes. Power and control. Succinctly spot on. 🙏
You are the best … thank you for your dedication to helping people to help themselves!
Never give the benefit of the doubt, to a Poisonous Snake.
It was a flying monkey who said “If you can’t beat them, join them”. The narcissist’s goal is to make you believe the biggest lie, THAT YOU CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT THEM!
Some of the worst isolation I endured with my x narc, was on vacation alone with him. There was no one that could help me when he drank too much and raged. It was terrifying. I made sure I journaled during these rage, fit/tantrums, describing in detail his wild eyes, flailing arms, throwing things and aggression. It helped me eventually go no contact and stay no contact. After 3 years without him in my life he continues to cyberstalk me. None of this is easy……
Oh… that has to suck…
Yes, they have an obsession with you. I still feel like a cloud is over me bc of conditioning growing up and feeling guilt. Its hard to break away from that.
After a very very physically abusive relationship for 3 years I kicked him out and then he stalked me for four more years until he died.
They isolated me when I didn’t know anything. My younger self wanted revenge. But now all I want is to avoid them completely.
How do you let go of it. Younger me didn’t know either.
BEST ADVICE/
AVOIDANCE 🔥🔥
Same, I don’t want to have anything more to do with them
It’s as if they put a stop to our younger self. Sadly we can’t get back that time and it’s best we go seek help to get out.
@blackwaterredemption7987 how to let go is unique to each individual , it’s a grieving process.
Time softens the pain. Forgive yourself, and know you did the very best at the time, under the circumstances. Know, your happiness is most important, and you are valued.
Life without the narc is just that…life.
Because with the narc, istheir life, not yours.
Embrace the new life with open arms, leaving the narc was the hardest part.
Living without the contemptuous words and actions is a loving life for you.
The ick list is helpful.
Stay strong , my friend!❤
Narc work culture – power and control – to the point of bringing down the entire company.
Yep, they will burn it down to appear perfect.
I do wish you tube had been around when I was younger. I have spent a lifetime thinking people would always prefer someone else’s company to mine since my family preferred anyone’s but mine.
I am so sorry you went through this. This happened to me also with some family members. It is so hard to realize what is happening because it is hard to believe family members would treat you badly – due to their character – and not because of your flaws (I thought I must be incredibly boring or annoying).
After keeping me isolated and ruining all my connections for 25 years, my ex tells everyone, “she doesn’t even have any friends”
For me they cutting anything and anyone normal. Been cutting people off and away from me and then at some point told me “You don’t know normal people”.
Plus the things that are normal to me are weird/pathological for them, what’s normal for them is pathological for me.
Same, when he never had any friends.
OMG!!! Mine did me the same!!!!
What a jerk. I’m glad it’s ex
Years after we split, my ex died in his late forties. Sometime afterwards, I was told a couple of hundred attended his wake/funeral. Later, while thinking about this likely exaggerated number, I could conclude 95% of them were nothing to him beyond acquaintances and for whom he had no respect at all. If they had known the private reality of this guy, rather than the public perception of him, I wonder how many would have bothered to show up.
These men are envious, insecure and controlling because of their own inability to form bonds who then punish women in numerous ways, and one is by isolating us. Troubled men have always made trouble for their wives or girlfriends rather than face their own demons.
I lived this for decades. Constant, incessant planting seeds of doubt. I lump all the aspects of the traps, KNIT PICKING. It never stops. Always in your ear. And the poor kids get it, too. Compared to their friends and planting seeds against you. Jealousy rules their mouths, yet they will tell you they aren’t Jealous at all. Finally admitted to it in front of one of our counselors. Threatened, (jealous) of my abilities and my relationships. They don’t want anyone in the family to succeed. A sick competitiveness.
My mother had negative opinions of every friend I ever had. Sometimes she used racism, sometimes revulsion, but made me doubt anyone I ever tried to have as a friend.
Was searching for a comment like this. Thank you for the validation
Same with me. From early childhood, I was manipulated and fed half truths about almost anyone I tried to connect with (friends). Ended up alone with my mother being my “best friend” and being abused constantly. Only now, looking back 35 years I understand the dynamic and her tactic.
My mother did the same. Now I hardly trust anyone and find safety in just being home secluded.
The isolation sneaks up on you, and before you know it, the narcissistic person is the only one you’re spending time with. And, they still have their own social circle, so you are spending most of your time alone. 😢
Definitely befriend the neighbors at this point…. If you can!❤
That’s true my ex husband left me every day whoring both sexs nasty malignat gay monster controlling if I went park with my child he say I’d been with men . Oh yeah as if with my young child nasty narcs
@judimunro9279 it was the neighbour that was having sex with my husband she was my flying 🐒
So true 😢
Another sneaky way is monopolizing your time while “making it fun”. Dealing with such a family member, it was all about family dinners, impromptu lunches, coffee meet-ups, frequent unannounced visits at my home every week, spontaneous invitations at her home, “family traditions” over the weekends (such as holiday baking), etc. I never had time for anything or anyone else. Then the day came when I said “no”. All these activities went from being fun to becoming obligations. VERY eye opening.
These were my own parents. As I got older and learned about more balanced approaches to relationships, my mom would decry “you treat strangers better than your parents!!!” Well yes. They actually treat me like a person.
Absolutely 💯 He had me move in to save money and shortly thereafter was constantly throwing it in my face that I don’t pay rent! “Well, you should do this, this and that because you don’t pay rent”… Which turned into my doing everything in the house, yard and gardens. So unbelievable! While he did nothing except leave dishes, laundry and crap every where. He was disgusting! I 💯 became his maid and groundskeeper! SMH!!!
Yes. A slave
“You want to visit your only family or friends this holiday? Ok I will call you continuously, fake a health crisis, complain on the phone about how I can’t find x,y or z and work very hard to make you feel guilty so that you leave early, and make every holiday you go there miserable.” The narcissist doesn’t even have to insult them. They can make you never want to visit them.
When I would talk with my mom on the phone, “He” would say “She wants to go. She wants to hang up.” My mom had no idea.
Distracting narcissist tells everyone that there’s something wrong with you while they are doing something wrong to you. They are snakes in the grass.
Being judgemental is all they know, and they turn around and say they aren’t judgemental and despise those that are. 🙄
How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb? None, they use gaslighting!