Are you ready to heal from the narcissist? (WATCH THIS)

Healing from narcissistic abuse is not as simple as deciding to move on. In this workshop from The Healing Program vault, Dr. Ramani explores trauma bonding, the barriers that can keep you stuck, and what you need to understand before deeper healing can begin.

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DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL.

THE VIDEO DOES NOT REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS VIDEO, ESPECIALLY TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION THAT THE MAKERS OF THIS VIDEO BELIEVE, OR SUPPORT A CLAIM, THAT A SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE VIDEO AND THE INFORMATION FEATURED IN IT.

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  • @zmesopotamia6792 says:

    Two important things in your healing journey: Never change for them anymore and never wait for them to change.

  • @jokendrick2124 says:

    Just when I think I’m over my late husband’s narcissistic abuse I dream (nightmare) about him and in the nightmare he is being psychologically abusive and I wake up feeling bad and remembering that feeling I thought I was over. He died 14 years ago. I generally don’t think about him so I’m always surprised when it hapoens. I just want it to stop. I’m afraid my narcissistic sister’s continued contact is reminding me of the abuse because she is almost as bad as he was. These nightmares are getting old….

    • @gazelle-odeforest says:

      I dreamed about my ex-husband who divorced me and then an ex-fiancé who discarded me and then died for a couple of decades. Apparently, now they are gone. They dissipate with time. I tried to learn from them while I was having them. It helps to let them go.

  • @changefortanzania says:

    Already out, but still ruminating

    • @Jbird-v8v says:

      Yes – sheesh this is harrd.

    • @Swathishta.R says:

      Oh this Rumination is such a painful path because more than the negative memories the good memories like the intimacy etc., haunts us more like as if there is no other person in the entire world that could love us like they do… I have requested Doctor Ramani to record an episode about Rumination with various different examples from different clients but I am ignored 😑 May be she is busy… Take care girl we will find a way soon…

  • @changefortanzania says:

    I think of narcissists as a light bulb. You can never change a light bulb but you can replace it. Very important distinction.

    • @AP-bi9qu says:

      Light bulbs eventually burn out though. Narcissists don’t seem to do that.

    • @Lily05230 says:

      ​@AP-bi9quthey will burn YOU out and then move on to the next scapegoat when they are bored with you

    • @AP-bi9qu says:

      ​​@Lily05230not when they’re family. The narcissist family system wants to keep the scapegoat around for as long as possible. And it was indeed burnout that got me to start cutting them off.

  • @LeaR1252 says:

    My goal is to having that energy and feeling of aliveness without my narcissist in my head.

    • @sugerbear7075 says:

      Ditto…uugh

    • @st.lawrence_pupil says:

      journaling babe.. do it.

    • @Megan_Paul says:

      Living with a narcissistic partner slowly dimmed my light-emotional exhaustion and anxiety wrapped around my heart like shadows. The discovery of infidelity tore through me, a grief so profound it changed everything. But from those broken pieces, I rose with a new truth: I would save myself.
      I filed for divorce to reclaim my peace and release the toxic cycle that no longer served my soul. To every heart reading this who knows this pain-you are not alone. You deserve a life bathed in respect and healing.
      The resource that helped me on this path is in my bio

  • @GingereIIa says:

    Incredibly helpful, thank you dr. Ramani for all you do. Watching so many of your videos.☺❤ I discovered a year ago that my mother is narcissistic with borderline. 2 days ago I realised from one of your videos that she’s actually the malignant and vulnerable type (both! dangerous). Everything makes sense finally. Starting my healing journey and going low contact. Wish I had figured it out many years ago, at 40 it feels a bit late, I’m pissed about the lost time, but anyway.
    Sadly my dad is in a severe trauma bond and don’t even see it. He’ll not get out and will be exploited, abused, manipulated and humiliated until the last day of his life. Breaks my heart, but can’t wake him up, I tried.. 47 years of marriage. He’s 72. But it’s not marriage, it’s slavery. Narcissists rob people of their life without kiIIing.

    • @Megan_Paul says:

      Living with a narcissistic partner slowly dimmed my light-emotional exhaustion and anxiety wrapped around my heart like shadows. The discovery of infidelity tore through me, a grief so profound it changed everything. But from those broken pieces, I rose with a new truth: I would save myself.
      I filed for divorce to reclaim my peace and release the toxic cycle that no longer served my soul. To every heart reading this who knows this pain-you are not alone. You deserve a life bathed in respect and healing.
      The resource that helped me on this path is in my bio

    • @karenlees8731 says:

      I’ve lived with it for 65 years and never could identify it. I’m 70 now and just learning about this type of personality. Very few normal people in my past.

  • @renatamayumikobata says:

    Thank you for putting your time into this!

    • @Katie-i7u says:

      Dealing with a narcissist or cheater is incredibly painful. I’ve been there and I know what it feels like to be undervalued and disrespected.
      Finding support is what helped me gain clarity and take my power back.
      If you suspect something is wrong, please reach out to this guy to gain clarity and proof. You deserve honesty and peace.
      I also share his page link. Link in my bio.
      You’re not alone
      Just woman helping woman❤️

  • @georgirancour198 says:

    im out and free, 18 years out divorced. radical “acceptance,” after a 33 yr. marriage,40 yrs. together. adult kids. malignant. during divorce, i got mad and stayed mad, and that helped. i have written 3 books, went to europe and learned to paint, somerhing i was learning in secret during marriage. have won art awards now, have sold some. im sooooo happy but still listn to dr. ramani every day for new aha moments.

  • @Aurora_v_cali says:

    Narcissist kill spirits
    Psychopaths kill bodies

    • @Katie-i7u says:

      Dealing with a narcissist or cheater is incredibly painful. I’ve been there and I know what it feels like to be undervalued and disrespected.
      Finding support is what helped me gain clarity and take my power back.
      If you suspect something is wrong, please reach out to this guy to gain clarity and proof. You deserve honesty and peace.
      I also share his page link. Link in my bio.
      You’re not alone
      Just woman helping woman❤️

    • @mioara8169 says:

      I don’t know which one is worse… both probably…

  • @natalijamutic8313 says:

    This is so beautiful,and the way you speak to us with compassion but also with reality in mind.Thank you.

  • @armani-x8c says:

    Great video It was a month ago when my five year romantic life ended. I’m deeply affected by the decision to end a relationship with the person I love. I have tried everything to win him back, even if it has been in vain, and I can’t picture my life without him. I’ve done my best to avoid thinking about him, yet I still find myself missing him and thinking about him frequently. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.

    • @janeth-i4c says:

      it’s hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn’t just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counselor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

    • @armani-x8c says:

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @janeth-i4c says:

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @janeth-i4c says:

      Father Obah Eze has assisted my close friends, coworkers, and even family members in getting their ex back.

    • @armani-x8c says:

      Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I’m genuinely impressed.

  • @MarleyLeMar says:

    For me, looking back over a long healing journey, I can simplify it like this–the narcissist isolates you. They can’t work their will if you are not isolated. So, once you detach from the narcissist, emotionally, physically, and as completely as possible, stick with the healing community. This connection, in my experience, is the main factor that runs through the whole process. I’ve come out the other side, for the most part, and I’m still here because this is where I keep learning and I’m understood. You are not alone. Hang onto that.

  • @01Funtertaintment says:

    In last 1 year you have been my go to person. Thanks for great work , people need you. You have no idea most of the victim dont even know abt this . It took me 20 years.

  • @karenlees8731 says:

    Well, I’m 70, and I just recently learned about Narcissistic people. My mother was, her 3 husbands were, 90% of past relationships were, my 2 ex’s and unfortunately my only child that’s 30. My ex ruined her with his manipulation and we no longer speak. You don’t know what you don’t know. That behavior was all that I was around and or lived with. I have a lot to unlearn. Dr. Ramani’s teachings gave me new light to reach for. Unfortunately, I have so much ruminating going on in my head…..64 years that I can remember.

  • @dnkslr says:

    It’s been more than 2 months no contact and I’m still crying every day. I thought I was over it for a couple of weeks when I discovered an incident in my past that drastically effected me in this relationship. But then I heard about his new relationships (bragging to my friends about 4 other women at the same time) and it is really caused me to regress in my extreme depression. For context, I saw the terrible manipulation and cruelty and lies and forced myself to leave. The relationship was 15 months. I don’t understand why this feels so excruciatingly devastating

  • @yukio_saito says:

    I remembered that I attended this session of the healing program a couple of years ago. It was so helpful. 🙂

  • @nicolawebster5512 says:

    You are the person who’s getting me through all this on a daily basis. I woke up on 4th July this year to the fact I’d married a narcissist and didn’t understand that at the time. I saw my solicitor yesterday and I’m ending a 38 year marriage. I thank you from my heart. I feel alive and free and believe I can do this at 62. It started with 1 step

  • @BuckleyThompson says:

    Well, I must say, the world of narcissism is a fascinating one. While many people are aware of overt narcissism, where individuals display grandiose behavior and seek constant attention, covert narcissism is a whole different ballgame. Covert narcissists are masters at hiding their true selves and manipulating those around them. And yes, they do have some rather peculiar habits that set them apart from the rest of us. One weird habit of covert narcissists is their constant need for validation. Unlike overt narcissists who seek validation through external means, covert narcissists have a more sneaky approach. They often fish for compliments or sympathy by subtly dropping hints or making self-deprecating comments. They feed off the reassurance and affirmation they receive from others, and this habit can become quite exhausting for those who have to constantly boost their fragile egos. Another strange habit of covert narcissists is their tendency to play the victim. They are skilled at playing the sympathy card and making others feel sorry for them.

    They will twist situations to make themselves appear as innocent victims, even when they are the ones who caused the problem in the first place. This habit allows them to manipulate others into feeling guilty or responsible for their actions, ultimately gaining control over their emotions and actions. Covert narcissists also have a knack for gaslighting, which is a rather disturbing habit. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the narcissist distorts reality or denies certain events to make their victim doubt their own perception and sanity. They will subtly twist facts, change narratives, or even outright lie to make others question their own reality. It’s an insidious habit that can leave victims feeling confused, doubting themselves, and trapped in an emotionally abusive cycle. Lastly, covert narcissists have a peculiar habit of being overly sensitive to criticism.

    They simply cannot handle any form of negative feedback or constructive criticism, often reacting with extreme defensiveness or passive-aggressive behavior. They have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe that they are above reproach. This habit can make it incredibly challenging to have any meaningful conversations with them or address any issues that may arise in a healthy manner. In conclusion, covert narcissism is a complex phenomenon that manifests in various weird habits. From seeking constant validation, playing the victim, gaslighting, to being overly sensitive to criticism, these individuals possess a unique set of traits that can be both intriguing and challenging to deal with. It’s important to be aware of these habits so that we can recognize and protect ourselves from their manipulative tactics. Moreover, I could’ve gotten hurt from the impact of been cheated on. I’m glad that i got to know ASAP, through digitalinvestigate@gmail. com and I appreciate the content you put out for us .

  • @BaileyBabe-v5l says:

    Dr Ramani, I have watched you for some years since I walked out of a relationship that can only be described as narcissistic abuse. He ticked almost every box in the DSM-5 and scored over 30 in Robert Hare’s questionnaire on psychopathy (which I learnt after the fact). The penny dropped when I saw this awful person with his new supply and I confronted them both. I not only walked away – I gained strength and learning from your videos. I never once looked back. Instead, I took him to court, won my property back (my home where he lived with his new supply) and continue the legal battle for the monies he took from me. I gave him the best when we were together and he gave me his worst. For his efforts, he is now homeless, impoverished and unhappy. Hard to find new supplies in that condition. There is Karma in resilience. And there is love – most of all – I learnt to love and value myself. And as part of the healing, I am redecorating my property to remove all traces of his existence there. Thank you for all the advice, wisdom and teaching you have given over the years

  • @LF-pe9ok says:

    I wasn’t going to comment, but I just want to say my favorite part about your videos, apart from the valuable information, is how safe you make me feel.

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