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Telling your boundaries will be used against you. Actions, not words
Yes, I agree.
Agreed 100%… it hurts me but I work from home.. and haven’t had a lot of work lately so when my narc comes home I’m usually wanting to share… then she is condescending and mean so I just say “hey…” and that it.
I wait for her to speak to me and then it’s one word answers
And so what…
I sued to talk and ask for communication… now.. it’s all good…
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@GenesGems hugs 🫂 it’s so painful. Such a double bind. Remember, they are always playing games. Stay strong ❤
Don’t just leave the narcissist all of a sudden, or make any sudden changes without consulting a therapist or coach first. In some cases, if you’re dealing with a true narcissist, it could cost you your life.
Welll i never left just argued and she though was cheating finally left me
I m Empath and still feel not good
Yes yes, very true, and I would be skeptical and chalk this statement up as overly dramatic if I could not attest the black & white truth of this.
It makes perfect sense when viewed through the lens of the shame they have and cannot deal with. When someone is functioning for so long on the notion that what they have inside & who they are _must stay hidden or protected _*_at all costs_* well then that is dangerous to threaten, indeed.
While not exactly satisfying for us on the receiving end, it sure helped me to realize why I was punished for doing this, and quite fiercely to say the least… I do believe it must be done regardless, but as you perfectly pointed out, not without a plan first.
Knowing this from my first life-altering experience, I was _trying_ to get out with my life in tact the second time… the problem was that the second time my life was upended by a severely disordered person like this, it was not a romantic relationship, but employment, and there were small children involved. The isolation, exhaustion, and burnout from being overworked made this too difficult… when we _know we need assistance, but are too fried to find it, that’s _*_in too deep_*_ already_ and honestly I feel like it’s safer to be in shark infested water.
I was primed from past experience, and in a position to understand the danger… but couldn’t figure out how to do it carefully, keeping myself from doing something that would not put the children in further danger… well, that came crashing down on me worse than the first time.
Luckily I was prepared enough, so not all hope is lost for the ones I had to leave behind. I have a good bit of tenacity, resilience, and cannot abandon my values when vulnerable people are at risk. Now it’s a legal battle, but one worth fighting.
Therapists don’t know how to handle DV. The only person who told me to leave was my psychic 😂 I waited till I was physically away & then dumped him
@bluebottle548WELLLLLL consider your self lucky , or from what I hear
This
It’s a disorder, because it defies all order you can bring to the relationship:
Boundaries
Reciprocity
Respect
I love the pink tea / kettle on your shelf as much as your wise advice. 😊❤
I always tell my people they are entitled to their feelings, be it happiness or anger or any feeling. I try to take my own advice. 😉
When a narcissist goes to therapy they do it to lie to themselves
I think they lie to others still. Well actually they continuosly lie to themselves anyways…imo
Always feel what I’m feeling
Years ago… A friend of mine heard I was thinking about being an actor. Like trying it out… and during a conversation while a few fiends were hanging out, he literally said “_____ isn’t smart enough to be an actor…” to another friend…
After enough abuse I just stopped hanging with him.
That’s it.
I just posted on a social media platform “Tell a cat to fetch your slippers, hold your breath. 😂
My entire social life now is strategic.
Thank you. This hit home for me.
There is a channel out there using your image. It’s called Narcissist and New Life. Thought you might want to know.
I’ve learned not to listen to those whom not qualified on this topic bc they end up saying crazy things that don’t work
I like healthy anger as a motivator, too. But it seems to contradict radical acceptance.
This helped me so much. My narcissistic brother’s wife used her Christian book to heap guilt on me for my being angry at my son’s former narcissistic wife who has shown my son cruelty, treachery,& abuse for going on a decade. Thank you for validating our emotions, Dr. Ramani.
With the Narcissist, act more and speak less; follow behavior and not words.
NEVER, …Drop your Guard and NEVER ,…UNDERESTIMATE them !
The Ultimate Gaslight . Intentionally Violating All Or Most of Your Boundaries and Telling you “it’s all ‘ for’ Your Own ‘good”
I was told “It is tough love.” No, it is madness.
The first emotion I always have beforeand and soon after detaching from a narc is usually anger
“Let me feel what I feel and be curious about that” is such good pattern.