Narcissism and Dangerous Situations (YOU NEED TO HEAR THIS)
What does it mean when a narcissist pushes you past your limits — even in dangerous situations? The idea of being “left on a mountain” may sound extreme, but toxic dynamics often show up in more subtle ways long before that. In this video, we explore how narcissists ignore safety, why people feel pressured to keep going, and what this reveals about risk in toxic relationships.
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Sometimes they push you to your limits or beyond after they know you might report their abuse to professionals or authorities, so they try to get you angry or lose it, therefore be very careful.
I tried that and the police wanted to try to arrest him right away.I was just trying to get something on file.So that if I called, they were already be something there, but the police in Texas suck precinct 4 sucks, then that just opened the door for them to look at us as a problematic household.And then when he called them on me for barely tapping his mouth after he baited me , I went to jail , they know how to turn that c*** around on you
Yes, I’m familiar with the case. It was terrible—he practically let her freeze to death.
How long prisontime did he get?
@AnnelieEriksson-q3tnot enough
I watched the case…The thing people don’t talk about enough is how this erodes your instincts over time. You stop trusting your own read on what’s safe, what’s too much, what’s reasonable, because you’ve been told you’re overreacting so many times that you genuinely start to wonder if you are.
yes u trust them, they even ask u 2
thats how u create psychos
Exactly.
So true 😶😵
Absolutely. I don’t ask anyone for anything either. I’m too scared to bother people.
Wow memory triggered. My narc ex used to ride his bike at top speed and would never ride with me – always ahead. His need to show off how fast he could go sent him tumbling over his handlebars caused a permanent injury.
He 100% would have left me on a mountain. Thank god I finally got the clarity to leave before he hurt me physically. This is so scary.
Oh my god I have almost the same situation! A friend I am in process of getting rid of, always walks at least 30 feet ahead of me, everywhere we go. At first I gave him the benefit of the doubt “he’s never had friends, he is socially akward” But recently I asked directly, “why do you do that?” His response, “you REALLY want to know? ” While laughing he said “You wak too slow for me. I walk fast, I’m used to walking fast. You’re going to have to walk faster”. Now that I KNOW he does this deliberately, that is a sign of no respect. Once in a while, he will look back for 2 seconds to see if I am still behind him. By being empathic, I have taught him that his behavior is OK with me. Now he answers “I don’t know why you would get upset when I’m “just being honest”. Classic narc.
Thank you for sharing this story!!
Antagonistic and enabling people usually teach us.
They are harmful twice.
First, they put us in danger.
And then, they leave us in danger.
It’s uncomfortable to integrate those truths.
– Dr Ramani Durvasula
After I became disabled, she left me on a mountain of pain and poverty after discarding me. I’m still climbing down but I have Dr. Ramani to show me the way.
Stay strong, don’t give up!
Shs will come back but don’t fall for that .. Your happiness will be the best revenge*❤
Really great video, because of the micro examples you give of the same thing–walking ahead of you, leaving without you, etc. These are indeed the same thing, just milder forms. Ideally, you have helped some people recognize those red flags, and maybe kept a few more from putting themselves in danger.
my dad used to take me on ski trips where he would push me down the hill if he thought i wasnt fast enough. he would call it “mr toad’s wild ride”.
So Brilliant. When you feel pushed to do something you’re not comfortable with. It brought to mind Dr. Ramani’s video about Narcissists as unsafe drivers.
To this day, I believe that my now ( thankfully) ex-narcissist wanted to injure, mame, or even kill me when he intentionally drove, speeding along a darkened back road that he was unfamiliar with, nearly flipping the vehicle we were in, all in an attempt to prove how much power he had.🙏
To this day, I believe that my now ( thankfully) ex-narcissist wanted to injure, mame, or even kill me when he intentionally drove, speeding along a darkened back road that he was unfamiliar with, nearly flipping the vehicle we were in, all in an attempt to prove how much power he had.🙏
I can attest to this as well.
Two years ago I left a 7 year relationship. I had absolutely no idea I was living with a Coercive Narcissist until I went through the healing process. I cannot believe you’ve covered this. The amount of dangerous situations he put me in on “adventures” always had me confused. There’s too many to many mention but I realize he is even sicker and more dangerous than I ever could have imagined.
My ex narc, an excellent swimmer, asked me to swim out from the boat and get something in the water on the choppy lake. I knew it was too far for comfort but did what was asked of me. On my way back to the boat I was running out of energy and starting to panic. I yelled for her to please help me, bring boat closer, anything, because I was barely keeping my head above the water. She just said No, you can make it back. I did make it to the edge of the boat but had to cling to it and rest for about 10 mins to get the strength enough to climb the ladder.
She would’ve let me drown.
Thanks for relating your harrowing story. How awful, and if you had drowned, probably no one would’ve known what really happened.
I’ve been obsessed with this topic lately- my ex would have left me, too. The small fines these men pay is what distresses me most I think.
This reminds me of that multi-level marketing guru who took a group of women to Colombia where she surprised them with an hours long hike where one diabetic woman fainted and had to be transported to the hospital by a random stranger on a bike. One of the excuses she made was that her team should have been in better shape.
What my ex-narcissist would describe as high-risk behavior was really his pathology of testing and pushing boundaries in order how much he could get away with.🙏
there is a rule on the mountain, always adapt your speed, reach, etc. to the weakest link in the team. Not negotiable, never.
Exactly. The slowest hiker is the pace we all follow
I was hiking angels landing. I’m really short and could not reach the chain gaps. I had run low on water and was overheating. My group turned around with me. Summits will always be there on another day. But your safety is the most important thing to people who love you.
But NOT EVERY ONE KNOWS THAT….. especially all the college kids around in the Denver area from elsewhere…just saying
when I used to ride in a group, we had a rule that no one would be dropped. sometimes that just meant that one person would stay with you, but no one was left alone.
It’s a pretty scary situation. I was abandoned on a walking trail and in a caravan in remote,unknown areas….
Now free of that marriage.
I was left in the Joshua Tree Nat. Park in the summer without shade or water by my narcissist.
One of the biggest problems I’ve come to discover is the popular sentiment of “all relationships have their ups and downs”…which then doesn’t apply to the person WE happen to be with, of course 😉
My own mother left me behind on a hike to a waterfall because I couldn’t keep up. I was seven years old. I made it back to my campsite on my own, while she continued on and finished her hike. I had forgotten all about that until I came across this video. I wish it was all made up. I don’t remember much more other than she was annoyed by me not keeping up 😮with her
I am so sorry.
And, if you have to keep looking out for your safety, it’s not a healthy relationship to begin with. It took me a long time to learn about reciprocity—each one looking out for the other. Narcissistic relationships are an exhausting energy drain when you have to stay guarded to protect yourself. Also, it’s “adultifying” a child to make them do that.