The Myth About Enduring Narcissistic Relationships
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OMG. This is so good. Thank you ❤
There is a certain threshold of what can be referred to as “enduring”, as we are human beings and there is a balance where you cannot ruin a whole relationship based on one or a few incident over a long period of time. HOWEVER, in most relationships where a narcissist is involved, enduring is not accidental, it is consistent and intense to the point that it is better off to get out of that relationship as things will never improve and only get worse!
Ah, my superpower, endurance. Also, my Kryptonite 😢
Thank you ❤
I stayed 70 year. Would not do it again! I am sure it did not help anyone. Leave as soon as possible!!!
I’m at 33 years. I don’t recognize myself anymore
Stay op for yourself! No one else will do it. ❤
I’m at 37 years & resonate with all of this; on her traits & my lossness & emptiness. At 71, I figure I’ve got 20 years left in the tank, but what will I do with them? Live like the last 37? Makes me very depressed 😢
I heard about how good my narcissistic traits ex looked after 3 months in the hospital with a fictitious disorder and I was home dealing with everything else.
20+ years until I was fed up.
Run as fast as you can!
My son is in narcissistic & codependent relationship & been dealing with it for three years. Finally seeing the light. Now being support to rebuild him.
Lucky you my son is still drowning in misery he’s 49 years old and doesn’t see the light. Blessings to your family.
I haven’t watched your channel for a while. Listening to you continually helped me to overcome and recover from a narcissistic relationship a couple of years ago. I’m happy to report that listening to you really helped me grow and decide to just avoid all men at this time of my life. I do want to say though that I love your glamorous new look! Thank you for all that you do, and keep shining a light on these narcissistic people in our lives.
It’s impossible to have healthy, normal relationships with these people; they’re too toxic and manipulative. Forget about that…
Staying is about the trauma bond. It is a form of addiction. So tough to break it.
That isn’t always the case, though. Am I particular case, I stayed because I shared three kids with my narcissistic ex. I stayed out of concern for my children and put their interest above my own. I stayex I was with a dysfunctional narcissist and did my best to focus on my own self-care second to the care of my children. Meanwhile, my ex hit her addiction to prescription drugs, and online affairs as long as possible while giving absolutely zero to the relationship.
As more of that dysfunctional behavior began to surface, I had to make the scary and difficult decision to file for divorce and in the relationship, and hope that I could be a positive impact in the lives of my two boys we had together. She had already turned a little girl I had adopted when we married, who was by then in her late years, completely against me.
I think it’s important to note that people do stay in toxic relationship relationships with narcissist for more than just one reason. It’s not always a trauma bond. Sometimes you’re just trapped.
None of us were taught what narcissistic behavior is therefore we are all attracted to narcissists
Don’t defend don’t engage don’t explain don’t personalize
Yes, that is the question…
I needed to hear that today. I left a work place after a couple of month because of narcissist abuse, smear campaigning, silent treatment and gaslighing. Even though i know i made the right decisions, there is a little bit part of me that was feeling guilty for not sticking it out or enduring because leaving put me in unstable job market. But the more I think about it, the more I say to myself that it is worth dealing with unstable job market than dealing with vindictive psychologically and emotionally abusive supervisor.
I did the same 2 weeks ago after 11 years after arguing with my manager. My boss called me to go back.
I decided to go back. I made my mind to leave for good in some months.
I will not engage with my narc manager from now on.
It was good I put her in her place though 😅
She knows I will not take any of her bullshit anymore.
I hope you find a new job soon.
@Kjp2025Thank you 🙏 and I am happy for you!
13 years out of 25 year relationship and marriage with children and I’m doing fine. Sometimes I need to watch your videos to chuckle with familiarity and remember what it was like
Enduring a toxic relationship is not “resilience”
So what do children who are being mentally and psychologically abused by narcissist parents do?? They can’t just leave, they are minors. And CPS leaves children physically abused and neglected in the homes with people abusing them. So what chance does a child being scapegoated, reactively abused, gaslit ,mentally abused , etc have, that CPS will actually hold the parents accountable and possibly remove the child??? I’ve seen and heard of many cases where children were physically abused or neglected and they do nothing. So what are the statistics that CPS actually removes the child being mentally , emotionally, and psychologically abused by narcissists??
It took me 20 years to see that the only person thinking about a future, was me. I thought Because I have an autoimune illness I had to be grateful to have someone to “care for me”. But he didn’t. I was deliberately in a compulsive state of justifying his abusive behaviour because I saw myself as broken.
“It’s a scam!” Just numbness after those heavy words
My husband told me that the most hurtful thing he has said to me was a “figure of speech”. Refuses to answer questions. I’m 5 months pregnant, 11 years in and I am ready to walk away.
Thank you, Doctor Ramani, for keeping my head above water for the last 4 months. Fifteen years and then sudden discard. Devastated, crushed, heartbroken. Finally, with your help, and the support of my big family, I’m seeing a way forward.
There is a point you reach that you no longer allow yourself to endure the abuse, you know it when you reach that limit, no question about it,