The Narcissistic Layaway Plan
Why do some narcissistic relationships keep you hanging on long after you know something is wrong? In this video, Dr. Ramani introduces the “narcissistic layaway plan” and reveals one of the most frustrating ways hope can keep you trapped in a relationship that never quite becomes what you were promised.
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The weapon they use ” I always appreciate your loyalty Infront of people that my partner is so loyal to me (despite the fact how brutally I treat her) whatever happens she never leaves”…..
4th, 28 September 2026
My narcissistic father same age as mom out lived her 15 years! I was promised a house and money. What the hell didn’t my narcissistic father do to me after mom’s passing. Keeping in mind they ALWAYS need someone to wipe their dirty feet on. I stood up to him and I was completely smear campaigned and disinherited. I was mortified as to how cruel and evil he was. But he always WAS cruel 😮
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse in a marriage spanning over 40 years, I am deeply saddened to realize that, despite all my attempts to mend this relationship, I still run the risk of dying before my spouse due to the mental and physical toll of this battle. It is heartbreaking. And making the decision to leave is incredibly difficult, even knowing that nothing will change. But thank you, dr. Ramani, you´re helping me a lot.
I was in mine 21 years which seems like nothing compared to what you’ve been through. I still get blamed 12 years later for having cancer because it was just too hard on her. When I was diagnosed the second time a few months ago I simply knew that I was not going through that again because dealing with her was harder than fighting cancer. Hope you find some peace ✌️
It’s best to get out have nothing more to do with them I know. Lived with him 38 yrs. Wonderful to be free. Not walking on eggshells anymore. Wanda
I spent 40 years on this lay a away plan and then he divorced me. I will never get that 40 years back.
31 for me.
@sparkygump34..🙄
@sparkygump34..🙄
Thank you, Dr. Ramani ❤. Perfect timing, the video helped reassure me.
You know, Gnostic thinkers have the idea that the Demiurge is at work. A truly loving god would never allow innocent people to be trampled on and crushed to that extent. It’s inhumane.
Can someone who has a mental illness different from cluster b sometimes appear narcissistic/borderline/dissocial? Or is this kind of problematic behavior exclusive to cluster b?
I ended up in the ER with a hypertensive crisis. I knew I just needed to talk to someone. They put me in room where I could wait for a counselor. The counselor never came and the only person who seemed concerned about me was the security guard. After 15 minutes I started to laugh. I realized that my family finally got what they wanted – me in a “rubber room”. With that moment of clarity I just walked out. Ironically the only one that noticed was the security guard who said “Leaving?” I said “yes”, walked out and said to myself enough!. You are correct – it is really difficult to realize how many “payments” I had made not realizing I would never get the item – an oz of respect or concern from any one of my family members.
Omg I can so resonate with you on this.. I’m so glad you got out and I’m glad I did too ❤. It took me too lose half a big toe 😂
My Narc Ex once gave me a Deposit for an Engagement Ring for me to choose on my own what last he remained in the Pub. As time went on, he never mentioned anything about the Ring, and I was afraid to say anything because a part of me knew it would have been a waste of time. 🍒
Let’s say they serve Satan and reflect him in different ways.
There’s always strings attached too. If you get something good from them, you know there’s BS coming at some point and that good thing will be used as a weapon.
I listen from time to time, when the longing comes over me, to remind me that no contact is the best thing I could give myself.
Yep. It’s your fault for wanting something, having cognitive dissonance, trauma bonds and lack of knowledge so you brought it on yourself! That is the response I will be giving everyone who has ever been duped, trapped, trafficked, graped, etc. You walked into it, too bad so sad sorry about your luck” that you ran into wolves…
‘ Welcome to the Jungle …… It’s gonna bring you to your knees ‘ Artists already know and it’s why we try to stay outside the box.
Change Social norms and stop society crumbling.
You have Somatic Empathy so don’t blame yourself 🙏 Your FI SI is pedaling 🚲 like mad eh ? For them ? Walk away and you’ll be FINE. 🎁
There is no way that punching someone in the Gut is Empathy.
Sorry for my blunt delivery but can you take ( if possible ) 1 hour out of 24 for yourselves please ….. Off line / off tech.
Do whatever YOU want 🙏
Thank you and believe it or not that came from The Queen of England ( late ).
Take care
Good luck out there as the closing to a video like this is fucking wild
The inherent, permanent and progressive state of our wellbeing depends upon how responsibly we use Social Media.
Because we hold a device or weapon with intention.
Are we cultivating narcissism and has it reached a level where psychology is being fabricated in that way ?
Not by Dr Ramani.
Where do we draw the line with how we treat one and other and effect feelings.
We need to be seen and approved of and encouraged to positively impact feelings regardless of evaluative structures.
Societal structure is no different online and this was Mohammed Ali’s philosophy ( dare I say ). Effective sustainable management of welfare ?
Now John Lennon. Those at the Top need to maintain foundations whilst encouraging growth. This is also being pointed out by Dr Ramani.
Mechanistic Capitalism does fail along with reductionist tactics that effect mental health and well being.
Humility 🙏 Pays the bills
The one person you will all regret shunn ok Ng is Eryka Badu. Woke or Assertive ?
She’s waiting
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