The Science of Toxic People: How They Impact Your Body
We’re told that stress can age us — but what if it’s not just stress, it’s the people in your life? New research is starting to reveal a disturbing link between difficult relationships and faster biological aging. And it’s not always the obvious chaos — sometimes it’s the constant demands, the pressure, the feeling that you can never quite get it right. If you’ve ever wondered whether a toxic or narcissistic relationship is taking a deeper toll than you can see, this might change how you think about it.
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No wonder I feel older than my dad
High blood pressure, frown lines, tired look on the face due to lack of sleep and general pain in the body. It has to be damaging to the body when the adrenal system is taxed all the time.
💯 Last sentence is highly underrated. 😎
And high cortisol😭
Under the banner of Inflammation.
Those symptoms are proof you’re a bad person so they must pour on even more stress. When the added stress cause more health problems then they add even more stress to “help” you. Rinse. Repeat.
Either they are incredibly stupid or they’re trying to unalive you in the most cowardly way possible. I lean toward the latter explanation.
@kalanilee7951 Once you reach a certain level, your adrenal glands cannot produce any more cortisol or adrenaline. It’s called adrenal fatigue. Narcs and enablers take it as a sign to be even more cruel to “help” you. If you really have health problems then you wouldn’t have any health problems. Listen to the geniuses. They know everything! Unassailable logic!
Narcissists make other friendships and relationships uncomfortable to be in
yes!!
Yes, likely because you feel the shame of it in bringing your friends and family into the situation you can’t seem to remove yourself from.
Aged 10 years in 2… mentally & physically… subconscious hypnotized abuse coma!
Wonderful to finally WAKE UP & actually “smell the coffee”!!
When someone close undervalues your wellbeing it rubs off.
MORNING!! NOW we’re talking about deep topics!! I can’t stress this enough, health comes first.
Causes Chronic illnesses, disabilities. Also, financial Abuse and financial losses, therefore financial instability and Stress.
There is no doubt that years of chronic stress, emotional instability, psychological strain, and relationship conflict will not only make you age faster but will make the rest of your life just like hell even after they leave!
I finally did what had been unthinkable, I blocked access to the narcissist, after decades of abuse. I know, without a doubt that this person will try to gain access again, whether now or in a few years. But I will be armored. I don’t ever want to be hostage to that kind of relationship again! I had to get through my feeling of being morally responsible for keeping that relationship, but it was killing me (so I changed my perspective.) I will happily clear all “hasslers” off of my plate. I hope that you can find peace and serenity. You deserve that.
Very true! I always looked years younger than my age for all of my life, up until I got with my ex narc husband. I aged at least 10-20 years from being with him for 14 years! I don’t even recognize myself! Working on healing!
I also used to look younger than my age. I took care of my narc mother for five years, and I age at least 10 years older. I hate the way I look:(
Yep, health has increase significantly over the past 3.5 years since asking the Narc to leave.
So Brilliant. Thank you for doing the research and bringing this well done and important study to our attention. You continue to have our best interests at heart, Dr. Ramani. Thank you and your amazing Team for everything you do for this community! .
Years ago when I was married to my ex covert narc wife (long before I knew anything about narcs) I woke up one morning to find my entire chest covered in hives. Stress is a killer.
I dealt with being a scapegoat in a narcissistic family. I just dealt with it. At 73 I ended up in the ER with a hypertensive crisis directly related to a situation in the family. I realized when I was younger I could deal with the stress but at this age my body just cannot take it anymore.
Hey Mary . I understand. ❤
The narcissist can create suicidal ideation where it never existed before.
I was suffocating from a bad respiratory allergy; while sitting and watching me, he kept telling me it’s just in me head and I’m playing the victim, while he watched me crawling in my knees to reach the drawer containing my antihistamine. He witnessed me having an anaphylactic shock in a hospital, medics so he KNEW I wasn’t pretending. A DEMENTOR, exactly as they are described by Joanne Rowling in “Harry Potter”.
True. Ask my friend Bryant. Oh wait, you can’t anymore.
Yes, after 26 years of total neglect, never a word about “I love you” or “you look beautiful today” I felt totally gray, fat and worn out also raising two kids. The narsissist on the other hand always took very good care of himself, always stressing about “ohh, I am getting old”, working out and showing himself off. Only days before I took out separation due to yet another round of secrets and infidelity he suggested I should start drinking apple vinegar to lose weight. I lost 15 kg as soon as he was gone.
I’m 73 celebrating 3 years away from King Narcissist abuse. Did it age me? HELL YEAH.😡
40 yrs in, 18 yrs. out and here’s one for you to research — once out, as King Arrthur said about Merlin in Camelot — i believe you “youthen.” my thyroid issue went awy (i was on meds for years, but was told the meds would be forever, they werent). social anxiety lessens. a friend told me she stopped stuttering. nervous tics are gone. youth -ening.
I lost nearly 30 lbs within two years, alongside gastritis and early development of ulcers. I lost my appetite. Me and the doctors searching for what could be going wrong when nothing had changed. I had no idea the stress I was under. Going alone to and from surgery to address the health issues she cultivates was the last straw.
You said it in your book, Dr. Ramani, and it stuck with me: They are HORRIBLE caretakers.
Would love to see a study on how long narcissists live. I’m convinced whatever years they suck out of your life are added onto theirs. They just live on and on making everyone they come across miserable.
This explains why I never felt my age. I never felt like a kid even when I was a kid and I feel significantly older than my current age because of chronic and autoimmune conditions.