What Is Reverse Gaslighting?
What is reverse gaslighting — and why can it be even more confusing than traditional gaslighting? It’s not just about being told you’re wrong, but being told you’re both wrong and right at the same time. That contradiction can leave you questioning everything, including yourself. In this video, we break down this manipulative pattern and why it’s so destabilizing.
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Lawyers judge, doctors should get education on narcissistic abuse
Unfortunately those people use those very tactics in front of a jury.
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That might cause more damage as they already use the tactics
Exactly exposing them will shut it down
Narcissists are amazing at performative empathy but never real emotional and compassionate empathy
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Yes. Key word: “Performative.”
That’s how they are always calm and collected while YOU are being made to look “unhinged”.
@isabelc2131 I agree with you. That’s why I don’t live with any of these types and disengage immediately when I see it in anyone. Its a total waste of time and energy.
Anger is good… it reveals a problem
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Damn right. It’s what gave me my chosen name; Clarity.
Yes, I agree, totally..
Yes! Anger reveals a boundary violation.
Narcissists always gaslight to protect their fragile egos then play the victim darvo
True!
Emotional bullying
I had this happen in a friendship. The person would tear me down about whatever was bothering them and then extol all of my virtues. Total and complete WTF moments. Interestingly, I set a boundary with this person (for the first time in 50 years) and they unfriended me. I think I won that one.😊
Always difficult to realise that the people who you trusted and cared for, secretly disliked and wanted to harm your spirit and mind. But you did yourself a great healing. Like whales having the barnacles removes and suddenly you enjoy your own skin.
Bravo!
Yes yes yes you did!!!! I did the same thing with a friend and she accused my husband of holding me hostage!!!! We laughed!
When dealing with a gaslighter narcissist the deep technique arises don’t defend don’t engage don’t explain don’t personalize
My ex did this when I left. Years of gaslighting and then tried to get me back by saying I was a great partner, but I threw it back by asking why he would want such an awful person in his life. He stuttered and backtracked and then got angry. Touche!
Oh no here I go getting triggered .. ahhhhhhhhhhh
On the other hand abusers also use this line because they don’t understand that intermittent reinforcement is a thing. You can be a great person and be an abuser.
Ha yes mine told everyone how amazing I was, that we were soul-friends. So if I said anything about his chaos, it would still look like he was a good guy 🤪 that’s when I recognised the 👿 greatest con is convincing you he doesn’t exit!
I have experienced this type of gaslighting. We want you back in the fold but…. It is all about control.
Very interesting 👍🏼
It seems like this kind of funhouse mirror feedback, in which everything is distorted, is meant to induce a trauma bond. It’s destabilizing.
I guess this is what they mean by ‘crazy making’!?
Absolutely can create a trauma bond. Then the narcissist who started it all in the first place plays hero.
It’s crazy making for someone who isn’t familiar with narcissistic behavior. Grown up mean girls (and boys) are the worst. Seeing people for who they are is priceless. Thank you for your education, as always! (the gift that these creeps give us is the growth and even sovereign stance we have gained after the pain. Priceless.)
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I had a grandma who would constantly comment on my weight when I visited. It made me stop wanting to go to her place. Then she tried to lure me to go see her again by telling me that she had cake or pie. 😑
ick! That’s diabolical.
hungarianmermaid: It’s like the evil witch in the movie Chitty Chitty Bang Bang (way before you were born), luring the children in with sweets only to imprison them. It’s sick, and real.
Imagine this happening in childhood, consistently.
and as an adult after decades of none of it. horrific experience
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Yep it was horrific and I don’t miss either parent.
This is like the flattery, praise, etc. followed by “but….”
“Pick a lane, and GO TO HELL! And DOUBLE GO TO HELL!” ❤❤❤
They are already in hell and are doing everything possible to drag you down there with them. 😫
lol I liked that one too
@Stephen_A. That’s where the angels drop their turds!
My new mantra.
Actually telling me im great but accused me of things i never did
I had an abusive manipulative father who fit the profile of a malignant narcissist.
The amazing thing was that despite every family member having sufferred his abuse including gaslighting, character assassination & other forms of cruelty they all still believed he was ultimately a great guy.
It was not until he passed away and we began sharing stories that my siblings began to realize that he really was a disturbed and cruel individual.
That was exactly what Dr Ramany exposed,reverse gaslighting,.
Thank you for sharing that, I can relate all too well…
It’s the kiss on the cheek and the slap in the face scheme. Or maybe in your case maybe a slap in the face and a kiss on the cheek. Run!!!!!!!
This happened to me, and the Lord came to my defense and granted me the victory in that situation at my old job. God is good , no weapon formed against me shall prosper. 🙏🏿🙌🏿
“A compliment from a narcissistic person is dangerous.” Yes! Preach, Dr. Ramani!
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