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HELP! So I’ve gone no contact with my youngest sister, she is a dangerous level, lying, gas lighting, a smile on her face when she can see you’re confused or sad etc kind of girl. Her children are five and two. Is is ok to send them birthday cards to my parents address? Or is that my ego, it’s def my heart too. Do I have to go utterly no contact? I know i can’t win in terms of how I’ll be spoken about but I just don’t want to traumatise my nephews.
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Dr Ramani, I’ve followed you for years. I am commenting under a different profile, for privacy concerns. My young teen daughter just revealed to me that her father, the CN, did unspeakable things to her 2 years ago. She refuses to give me details, I am in total shock. She made me swear I wouldn’t tell police or anyone ever. Wtf do I do? We are moved out but I am reeling and cant make my brain work. I don’t know where to turn, except to try this. I hope you see this and can reply.
😢🫂 that’s both sad and deplorable. I feel so sorry for her.
Get CPS involved if you can. If you have a lawyer, let them know!
Young teen – she is still a minor, you’re responsible for her.
I know she asked you not to, and I’m not a psychologist so I don’t know how it will affect her, but you need to go to the police.
Don’t talk to others first. Don’t confront your ex.
Go to the police.
The most important thing is that you assure her she is absolutely safe now and you will protect her 100%.
No more contact with your ex either. No visits. No matter what.
The second thing is don’t discuss it with her. Don’t ask for any more details.
This may sound odd, but it’s to protect the evidence.
The next person to discuss this with her must be a trained specialist in the police force (make sure the police know this too and don’t try to have a random constable try to talk to her)
They are experts and know how to talk to her, but also know how to collect and protect the evidence.
I learnt this from a prosecutor who dealt with s*x crimes in America. Her name is Vanessa Johnson, she has a YouTube channel.
Please go to the police. For the sake of your daughter. For the sake of any other children around your ex. Because perpetrator’s dont do these awful things once. They keep doing them.
Please. Please go to the police.
And do your utmost to protect your daughter.
Don’t be intimidated into doing anything that could put her in a vulnerable situation.
Also keep her away from any of his family, friends etc until you’ve gone to the police. Even if you trust them.
Then follow the police’s advice.
Sometimes family members like a grandparent will get the victim alone and threaten them into silence to protect the perpetrator. So trust no one until it’s been dealt with by the police.
Also you can assure her that she hasn’t done anything wrong.
Most of the time victims feel as if they did something very wrong. That they’re guilty. Or to blame. And they feel shame.
She needs to know she didnt do anything wrong, that the perpetrator is entirely in the wrong. She is completely innocent.
She is also going to need counselling. The police should be able to help with this.
I’m so so incredibly sorry this happened.
I’ll be praying for you and your daughter 🙏
Please be a source of validation and empathy for your daughter. I spent 8 years trying to tell my mom, but she dismissed me as imaginative and attention seeking. It took one short conversation with a school counselor, mandated reporter, to begin solving the problem. The only reason he wasn’t prosecuted is because my mom never followed through. Your daughter is way too embarrassed and was definitely made to feel as though it were her fault and that she is somehow an unworthy human. Make sure to encourage her self talk to become the opposite of that toxic grooming mentality predators are so skilled at ❤
Asking in front of my children in a counselling session what I would need to do for them to ‘feel safe’ when I had no idea what she was talking about and why they wouldn’t ‘feel safe’, When I reacted to that out of grief, she asked ‘what changed’ and cut the live feel with my children. Then she didn’t send me a copy of the outcome of the counselling session with my children, even though I paid for the session. Neither did she discuss with me the contents of the email from my son or text from my daughter which prompted the session. So I still don’t know what the hell she was talking about, years later. So she can keep her mindfulness and attunement bullshit to herself and burn in hell. My children were lied to from someone behind my back and it continues unexposed because I never had a relationship like this with my children. Forgiveness is held against ALL involved.
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Question…
We know the narc typically discards their ‘loved one’ when they become really sick, especially if they need care.
But what would the narc typically do if you suddenly became well again and were useful again?
Is the discard complete and they still wont want anything to do with you? Or will they come back and hoover because you might be useful again?
Dr Ramani, I need your help! My narc ex is using our child to gaslight me and threaten me, how do I get in touch with you? Please, the situation is driving me on the verge of collapse…😮💨