Why Dating is the Most Effective Way to Get Over Your Ex — If You Stop Doing It Like Everyone Else
Why Dating is the Most Effective Way to Get Over Your Ex — but only if you stop doing it like everyone else.
Sixty percent of divorced people start dating within the first year. Around thirty-two percent don’t even wait for the divorce to finish. So the real question isn’t “should you date?” It’s whether dating actually helps or just makes things worse.
I looked at this directly and studied over 700 men going through divorce. The results weren’t even close. Men who dated had a quality of life score around 66 compared to 56 for men who didn’t. But here’s what most people miss… it’s not about whether you date. It’s about how well you do it. The guys who said dating was the worst scored in the low 50s. The guys who were actually good at it? Around 81. That’s not a small gap. That’s the difference between being stuck and actually moving forward.
In this video, I break down why most men fail at dating after divorce and how the system actually works. This isn’t a feel-good conversation. This is about understanding the environment you’re stepping into and using it strategically instead of emotionally.
We cover:
– Why the “wait 12–18 months” advice is outdated and misunderstood
– The difference between dating for exposure vs committing too early
– How dating apps actually work (and why most men get ignored)
– The numbers behind swiping, match rates, and messaging
– Why your photos matter more than your looks
– The biggest mistakes men make coming out of divorce
– How to use dating to rebuild confidence, not escape your reality
Dating is not the problem. The way you’re doing it is.
If you’re coming out of a breakup or divorce and feel stuck, this will give you a clear framework to stop guessing and start making progress.
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Chapters:
0:00 Coming Up
0.20 Dating Or Not Data
1:47 Why You're Not Having Success
2:37 Dating App Algorithm
5:28 How to Reach out to Me
6:50 Where Dating Goes Wrong
7:29 Where experts get it wrong
11:54 Vanity & Your Profile
13:15 5 Pearls to Get to Meet
Let me know, should you wait to date? Schedule a consult at http://www.mensdivorcecoaching.com
I’ve been divorced for two years now; I’m grateful to feel like Rene Garcia was in my corner in one of the darkest time of my life.
Things have improved so much:
My relationship with my daughter
My relationship with God
My relationship with my community.
Thank you, Rene, for all that you are doing. Know that you have helped one more man come into a better place after his divorce
Timothy, completely appreciate the feedback and kind words. Especially because often, in this type of medium, we create a monologue so when we get this kind of response, it’s like a shot of oxytocin. Glad I was able to make a difference in your life and in case you’re not already there, join our FB Group. Bless
5:00 Yo, that’s me you mentioned in the video. Thanks for your help. It helps for sure. Guys, schedule a one on one. I never thought of myself as a lady’s man until now.
LOL. I didn’t want to call you out. Glad you’re killing it in the field brother.
It worked for me. Was too busy in my development
A-men!!! Thanks for the feedback brother.