Why the Narcissist Keeps Moving the Goalposts During Divorce

Divorcing a narcissist? You give him what he asked for, and suddenly there's one more condition. Then another. That's moving the goalposts, and once you recognize it, you can stop exhausting yourself chasing a finish line that keeps moving.

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In this video I share why the goalposts keep moving, the mistake smart women make when they try harder to reach them, the one question to ask before you make another concession, and four ways to respond when resolution may not be his goal at all.

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CHAPTERS
0:00 When "one more thing" never ends
1:33 Why the goalposts keep moving
4:49 "Why won't you just sign?"
8:03 The concession trap
9:45 When the goalpost is you
11:44 What to do instead

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I'm Victoria McCooey, High-Conflict Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Mediator and creator of She Breaks Free. My own divorce lasted six years, followed by 11 more years of post-divorce court conflict. Today I help intelligent women navigate divorce from narcissistic and high-conflict partners with more clarity, confidence and strategy. New videos every Friday.

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I'm not an attorney or therapist. Nothing in this video is legal or mental-health advice. Please consult your own attorney about your specific situation.

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