Your Narcissistic Divorce Is Taking Too Long. Here’s What NOT to Do

Divorcing a narcissist and it's been going on for years? At some point you may think, "I'll sign anything. I just want this over." My own divorce took six years, and if I could go back, there are five things I'd tell myself not to do while I waited.

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In this video I share the difference between a real decision and surrender from depletion, how to tell what's urgent from what's simply upsetting, how to see the progress you're already making, and why your life can't become the waiting room for your divorce.

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CHAPTERS
0:00 "I'll sign anything. I just want this over."
1:44 Don't make permanent concessions just to make it stop
3:59 Don't blow up your legal strategy out of frustration
5:37 Don't react to every provocation
7:24 Don't measure progress only by whether it's final
8:51 Don't put your life on hold while you wait
12:04 Rebuilding the woman underneath the conflict

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I'm Victoria McCooey, High-Conflict Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Mediator and creator of She Breaks Free. My own divorce lasted six years, followed by 11 more years of post-divorce court conflict. Today I help intelligent women navigate divorce from narcissistic and high-conflict partners with more clarity, confidence and strategy. New videos every Friday.

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I'm not an attorney or therapist. Nothing in this video is legal or mental-health advice. Please consult your own attorney about your specific situation.

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