12 Things Men Notice WHILE Hugging You (that they’ll never mention!)
You've given men hundreds of hugs. Maybe thousands. Here's what he's quietly noticing in every one of them, and why none of it is what you're worried about.
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The awkward one at the end of a first date. The quick one in the kitchen on a Tuesday morning. The one at the airport where you don't even put your bag down first.
A hug is never just a hug to a man. In a few seconds of standing there, he's picking up a whole list of things you've never once thought about. In this video I'm sharing twelve things men notice while hugging you that they'll never mention, from the little pat that quietly friend-zones him to the one hug almost no man ever gets.
If you loved "7 Things Men Notice WHILE Hugging You," this is the next chapter: twelve brand-new things, none of them repeats.
▼ IN THIS VIDEO ▼
→ Why it matters so much to him who opens their arms first
→ The pat on the back that tells him "we're done here"
→ What it means to him when you rise up to meet him
→ Why he compares your goodbye hug to your hello hug
→ Whether your hug changes when other people are watching
→ The hug men almost never get, and why it stops him cold
→ The one-second squeeze he'll never tell you about
→ How fast you get to him, and what he feels when you hurry
→ The two places your face can go, and what each one says
→ What he feels when your body is still mad at him
→ The words in his ear that land somewhere very deep
→ Why nobody holds a man, and what happens when you do
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▼ CHAPTERS ▼
0:00 Three hugs
1:48 1. Who starts it
3:01 2. The pat
4:35 3. Going up on your tiptoes
5:52 4. Whether the goodbye hug is warmer than the hello
7:20 5. Whether your hug changes when people are watching
8:45 6. Hugging him from behind
10:22 7. The squeeze
11:14 8. How fast you get to him
13:26 9. Which way your face turns
14:27 10. Whether your body is still mad at him
15:59 11. What you say in his ear
16:56 12. Whether you can tell when he needs holding
18:59 Final Thoughts – The power of reaching back
💬 Be honest… are you a patter? Tell me below 👇🤍
I said in his ear “we’ve got this. Everything will be ok.” And he just melted like butter and I felt a weight lifted from his shoulders and I realized how much he had been carrying. I wish I could relieve that stress all the time for him but he is very guarded.
YES you could feel how much it meant to him!! What are some other ways you could be his comforter + cheerleader?
Number two might start an argument: two pats on the back = “we’re done here, buddy.” 😏 Are you a patter? Be honest.
Which of these twelve are you going to try first? Tell me below. I read every single comment. 👇🤍
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Thank you Mat ♡
You’re so welcome! 🤍
A pat on the back is so weird to me. I never do it… ever.
I have been told I give great hugs… I don’t give them freely to everyone, but there is feeling and meaning behind the ones I do give
Ha, fair, the pat on the back can feel so impersonal compared to a real hug! What do you think makes the difference between a meaningful hug and a forgettable one?
I’d run to him and squeeze😊
Ha, love that instinct! What’s his reaction when you do?
Isn’t it kind of rude to give a hug from the back without asking? The person may be concentrating on what he or she is doing and is essentially interrupted.
I love the squeeze while hugging. Strong arms around me makes me feel like I’m in the safest place e in the world.
I patt my family when I hug them goodbye
My goodness…who would have thought 😂😂😂
Hyped ❤❤
I admit that I’m a hugger. I had to learn to be selective on who I hug. Some people,unfortunately, take advantage of it. It’s so sad. I’ve been told that I give great hugs!!!! Sometimes a person needs one just because. Thanks for sharing this!!! I really needed to hear this!!!! God bless you and your beautiful bride!!! Love you💖!!!!!!💖💗🙏😀😘😍🌈💐🌹
This was so interesting. Very thought-provoking. Thank you
I always pounce on him when he comes through the door. Hug and then a good kiss.❤ I get on my tip toes and then he leans down. I linger with both hugs. I don’t do the squeeze but before he goes out the door and go in for one hug and kiss.🥰 I always snuggle in his chest or neck when we hug.
My guy friend always initiates hugs. The next time I see him I’m going to initiate one and hold him until he lets go.