What Happens When a Narcissist Encounters Authenticity
When narcissism meets authenticity with Dr. Ramani. Discover how narcissists react to genuine, authentic behavior and what it means for your interactions. Learn the dynamics of this clash and gain strategies for navigating relationships with narcissists while staying true to yourself. Dr. Ramani provides expert insights into maintaining your authenticity in the face of narcissistic challenges.
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Narcissists are everywhere. When you run into one, just tip your hat and keep it moving. They are a literal waste of thought, effort, and time.
Well said!
that seems so de-humanising
I couldn’t agree more.
My ex with bpd is dating a narcissist and they both play each other
Absolutely! When faced with narcs, it’s best to just keep moving forward like you say. There’s no need to entertain their hateful, aggressive nonsense, as they don’t even deserve the negative supply that they crave.
The narc will try and exclude the authentic person from the group.
that explains stepsons 21st
This 🙌🏼
I got pushed out of a job by a narcissist because of my authenticity bombs
@@xylemnilsen8944 ha ha, I’ve been there too. I don’t treat them to all of my authenticity now! 🙂
I was exiled from an entire group of friends who called me “family” by a narcissist in the group who became jealous of my connection with the rest.
After growing up with a narc mom and working my whole life to heal the trauma, my motto is “what you think of me is none of my business.”
Omg I say the exact same thing now
@@tessarae9127 Your mom probably uses that to say she’s not responsible for your feelings so she’s not held accountable for her actions.
I’ve got to use that.
@@heal-thee9109 HEAL
Narc parents are so damaging
When narc’s encounter a genuine person, they seem to feel threatened.
I noticed the same thing
It’s because WE are something that they will never be…..REAL🌟⚘
I guess they loose their ground. Rsrsrsr. It is funny to see them shut up.
Yes …
That’s because they are!
Narcissistic parents will throw their child to the wolves…Then stand back and criticize what the child does to stay alive.
sounds too familiar than I would like it to be
“I was raised by wolves and educated by boy scouts.” Is something I have said for decades
i raised myself on the internet
😅😅😅 oh, no *rewind my history* *laughs* So true!
Sad but true
I’ve noticed that authenticity is often painted as narcissistic, usually by narcissist.
Or it’s devalued like no authenticity is overrated or not really Authentic 🤷🙄
@@annatevesbanzon1359 Yup. Been told, “Only concerned about yourself.” And this because I just went over to get the rent, and declined to take him to the store or loan him money.
Me too & questions oneself after suffering narcissistic abuse!
I always feel that most people that are accusing others of narcissism are quite judgmental and narcissistic. I’ve never felt that I’ve met a narcissist or have had issues with the topic, but I’m very authentic and straight forward so perhaps narcissists aren’t attracted to me or I don’t see them.
@@Lyndsay.King1111 you will know when you meet one.
They are usually diabolical.
If you have healthy parents you may be protected from the realm of narcs because they have protected you in a way that narc parents do not protect their children.
My perception is that narcissistic people are jealous of authentic people, especially if the authentic person is intelligent or interesting or possesses positive traits of any kind.
And my experience is narcissists then become resentful of authentic people.
My mom gets upset when my husband is nice to me because “why can’t I get the same from your father!” Like what?!
Exactly!
Not necessarily authentic people. It’s everyone in general. They feel a deep sense of shame whenever they see positive traits in anyone. So they feel the need to be critical or begin to copy the individual
“DO NOT CORRECT A FOOL, OR HE WILL HATE YOU; CORRECT A WISE MAN, AND HE WILL APPRECIATE YOU.”
Unfortunately my adult son is a fool (as the Bible states it). He can’t stand being corrected. Sad truth! He will then turn around and start blaming me 🤦♀️
@@infinitybless7132 There’s a saying – ” A fool who proceeds with his folly will become wise” *** Embracing the fool archetype may contradictorally be the path ‘through’ and out of foolishness .. because I think only ‘You’ can personally make the right decisions for ‘yourself’ , and that includes decisions of what to ‘learn’ or what lessons to take on board and live by … I guess it’s like , you NEED to be able to see the folly inherent in yourself and your decisions , completely and without being able to redirect blame to any other person or thing >>> I’m not a parent by the way , so there’s that haha
@@infinitybless7132 tell him to stop bitching
Explains why the left censors rational discourse and individual expression
from the book of psalms in the bible
I wonder how many narcissists are watching this thinking they are the authentic person.
I have to giggle at what you just said.
😂😂😂😂😂
That’s right, narcissists are now learning all the jargon to keep pushing to not be exposed, pay attention to the difference between what they say after ‘I am…’ and what they actually do, that’ll give you clues of the reality of who they are.
😂🤣🤣all of them
@Sleetstormwho know? most of the time they just don’t want to meet doctors so people have to “guess”. I did too but now I don’t care to label my mother as NP or something anymore, to me she is just too cruel for a human being, nevermind as a mother.
I recently had to work with a narcissistic person and she loved and hated me to death at the same time. It was wild. It was like as if she didn’t know what to do with me, as if I was this kind of alien creature she wasn’t able to grasp. She treated me like sh…, next time she saw me she was like „you are the greatest person on earth“. Weird experience.
I’ve experienced that several times. I think part of it is a “want what you can’t have” kind of thing. I also think part of it is because of the fact that narcissists at the end of the day are people who are really badly hurt & usually experienced narcissistic abuse themself, & this causes almost two simultaneous parts to their personality. One side that is the hurt, abused child, & the other side that is the narcissistic coping mechanism that they developed in response. I think the hurt part of them gets really drawn to the authentic person & craves being around them, but the narcissistic side of them that has convinced themself that behaving that way is the only way to succeed in life hates the authentic person, because it shines light on their toxic behavior & bullshit, so to speak.
@@WalkingConundrumwow, that makes a lot of sense!
@@WalkingConundrum sounds pretty much like the person I have talked about 👍🙏
That is the same situation I am in now. The person hugged me @ church after I hugged someone else & began to cry & apologize in front of the other person. I told her I just ignored what she did & didn’t think much about it, b/c that was true. I considered the source & will continue!
Sounds like borderline.
My aunt once told me “You are the truth teller. That’s why they alienated you.”
This is me, but I only just realized that it a gift and not a curse. I’m a leader of the new world, never meant to fit in, never meant to follow anyone.
I’m here to help people heal and see the beauty of life and find the magic in everyday existence
this made me cry bruh
My grandpa was the only one who didn’t alienated me, and said the same thing to me.
Fascinating. Does she wear Kaftans?
This is me too. I felt like a ghost when I was a kid.
Excellent topic. I’m 74 and have been learning about narcissism for 2 years. As the big picture began to clear away the fog my narcissist husband created, I began to discover my forgotten self. Not surprisingly, he upped the abuse. I didn’t leave him – but only because he ordered me out of the house and to take nothing because it was all HIS. These people are baffling in their attitudes. I still shake my head and ask how on earth did they become like this? I’m looking forward, at 74, to living my own life finally. It will be tough financially, but I don’t need much and friends have stepped up to help furnish my new little place. Finally, I’m at peace with who I am.
did you have kids together? I’ve been 13 years with my bf… deep down I still love him. I just can’t believe how he goes from being the best bf in the world, to 10 mins later transform into the cruelest monster out there and don’t show a minimum of respect for me… like he never loved me. It’s like an intense hate in his eyes. It’s truly hard to believe… And the reason of his “transformation” might be something as stupid as I didn’t wash a single glass of water immediately after he used it… it’s like what these videos say: you will never be good enough for them, they will always find something that hurts you to tear you down… life is so hard with him when he’s like this… and I did think about having kids with him… because I love him… but then I think about how many times *harder* it would get with kids… I don’t think I could bare that… I went from having an extremely hard life living 26 years with my borderline sister (you wouldn’t believe the things she did…) to live with my bf that happens to have a narcissistic personality 😔 what is life trying to tell me? lol
@@Nebulousss Wow. Just wow.
WE GOT THIS 💪🏽💪🏽 rooting for you 🫶🏽💯
Best of luck to you!!!
@@Nebuloussslife do you even HEAR yourself? Please, for the sake of possible unborn children, do not have children with this individual.
After surviving narcissistic abuses, and still healing, I look forward to this new goal – authenticity 😉
Lol Right?! Although really it should be repenting to Jesus Christ. Seeking the Kingdom of Heaven first, then other things shall be added to you
After two years of being “in love” with a narcissist I was only one step away from committing suicide. It was like he took me, threw me to the ground and shattered everything I was into millions of pieces – and then left. Now, two years later, I am grateful for this episode of my life, as it granted me the chance of becoming whole and true. I was destroyed and had to build myself new from the beginning – and while I was doing that, I finally learned to see and feel this “self”, which was very different than the one I thought I was. In fact, he didn’t shatter -me-, but the shell I was, build up from old wounds, old fears and old ideas. I am thankful for this experience and for the incredible opportunity to heal – not only from the wounds the narcissist did to me, but from the deep wound of being lost and disconnected from myself.
I was a helpless, frightened child, full of fears and desperate to find someone who could save me…. now I am saved by myself. Finding this connection will lead to authenticity and nothing feels more comfortable than that. Finally, there’s peace.
Said very well and by someone who knows how to make beauty from ashes and learn from experiences . 🤍🕊️
God bless u
Thank You Jesus for helping her. Please continue to draw her to You Lord. To seek the Kingdom of Heaven first, then other things shall be added
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m glad you have realized your strength through a painful experience. I have come to the same realization after my very similar experience.
I felt the same. We should be grateful to God for helping us to leave them.
Its called being grounded and knowing exactly who you are. You are not influenced by other people very easily. Thats how i am.
😂😂😂
Me too. Who I project myself outwardly “as” though, sometimes does change, depending on my mood, the time of the month and whether I have dark chocolate. I’m ok with that. :o)
@@iamcimos3567right!😂 if I’m caffeinated enough I’m so authentic …haha
I was thinking my sister went crazy after her mid life crisis but turns out i ran into narcissistic traits and she checks every box, they are dangerous ppl and turns out she seduced my dad so she could get rid of him, the reason i put this together is because i remember this conversation my future step dad had with my mom, that my sister would shower with the door open, and keep in my mind he hated my dad, he said he’s pretty sure she did the same thing to my dad, took me 40 yrs but my sister for some reason tries to get rid of ppl, she very rude and pumps up mom to Believe my wife is a bad person, i nevr understood why she was always rude, and it was her way of the nothing, i noticed she was always jealous of her daughters, like shes 46 and can’t let go of being everything about her. Yes it gets worse but before the serious one, she would always talk down on my kids, and im thinking what kind of person would try n hurt a kids feelings, that was it for me. And yes of course she became a big ultra maga supporter, like she cant back of her reasoning for real issues but she just says lil sayings typical maga would say, but she’s gets really aggressive and offensive cuz i mock her cuz im not one to be bullied. But here’s the kicker, she called me one night all drunk right before Thanksgiving unloading that she’s been hiding frm the family that her daughter has cancer and she doesn’t kno what to do eveb tho the 3 doctors recommended immediate treatment, but shes one of those magas that also doesn’t trust doctors or medicine, so saying she not going the route or try anything help my niece have any fighting chance, just to fit her narrative she’s willing to let her daughter die!!! And the next morning she texts me to forget what she said and that she was wrong for it, at this point im thinking she crazy, but im telling you all this to show that these are some dangerous ppl, i might have lost a father over her actions of jealousy, oh yea i forgot she’s my half sister but i always called her my sister. It amazes how someone can cause all this wreckage and believe she has no sympathy for others but herself. I cut her off for my kids and wife, my mom is the hardest to convince how manipulative she is but you kno moms believe their kids are perfect
My husband qualifies as authentic. Calm, rational, thoughtful…in twelve years I only heard him raise his voice once and it was in deference of me. What gift of a husband.
Wow. You’re truly blessed
Show this love to him instead of YouTube comment section
I’m sure she does she’s just letting the world know she’s blessed and that theres hope for everyone🤷🏽♀️💜
I treat him like a king as he deserves .@@islixxn
Those traits don’t necessarily mean “authentic.” Authentic means direct honesty, zero bullshit and lies, and only speaks the truth. Also they don’t pretend to be something they’re not. Thats authentic.
Narcissists have an uncanny knack of finding and targeting those that are vulnerable and easily manipulated. They also have the ability to appear (normal) until you are deeply invested in a relationship with them, then all the ugly surfaces!
yes, reminds me of these romance scammers
One must never be afraid to walk. Abuse is a no no be be at 10 days mark, 10 weeks, 10 months or 10 years. I’ll Invest, sure, but also monitor the stock market regularly. If the return on investment is too low, it’s time to go.
That’s what happened to my daughter…
But she’s in the process of breaking free now
Their mask drops off!!!
An old adage on the internet is, “don’t wrestle with pigs, you just get muddy”. Same with Narcs.
Authentic people are honest, transparent and don’t envy flashy things.
Why? Because you like those traits?
Ik, I don’t envy but I def love flashy things
So I fit your meaning of Authentic person but I don’t fit what the video says. I’ve always been told how authentic and genuine I 6 I do get angry at times, I do raise my voice, and I am ok with being a party pooper and leave somewhere when I want lol
@@dblr4931dunno if you’re authentic in this context but you just described me to a T
@garcia130: Key word: Transparent: Narcissists spot this trait in a flash.