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Financial Abuse Strategy: How Narcissists Use Money to Control You in Divorce

If you're going through a divorce with a narcissist and you're terrified about money — whether there will be enough, whether assets are being hidden, or whether you'll be financially destroyed — you are not imagining that fear.

Financial control is one of the most powerful tools narcissists use during divorce. And when fear takes over, it can push smart, capable women into rushed decisions, unfair settlements, and long-term financial consequences.

In this video, I explain how narcissists use money as a weapon during divorce — and how to stop letting financial fear dictate your decisions.

You'll learn:

• What financial manipulation and coercive control actually look like during divorce
• Common ways narcissists hide money or create financial panic
• Why financial fear causes women to settle too quickly
• The biggest mistakes to avoid when money is weaponized
• How to shift from panic-based decisions to information-based strategy

When narcissists use money during divorce, the goal isn’t fairness — it’s fear and control.

But when you slow down, gather information, and rely on process instead of panic, everything changes. Strategy replaces fear, and your long-term financial security becomes the priority.

I'm Victoria McCooey, a high-conflict divorce coach, divorce mediator, and creator of the Reclaim Your Power System. I work with women every day who are divorcing narcissistic partners and navigating financial manipulation, coercive control, and high-conflict negotiations.

If you're facing this right now and would like guidance, you can book a Breakthrough Call with me here:

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