Narcissists’ Texting Tactics Revealed
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The narcissistic conversations have flooded social media!!! WOOOOW!!!
I think it’s an epidemic
Yes, absolutely true..
They want their “punching bag” back, and texting tactics are one of many forms of retrieving that bag.
I realized early on that with my purely platonic female covert narcissist friend. All I was to her was an emotional punching bag and doormat she could take her frustrations out on.
The immediacy of texting doesn’t help. Fuels their sense of entitlement to access
That’s exactly what I think too ❤
Spot on!!I learned this the hard way.
He would ignore the things we needed to discuss about or child but would used that as a bridge to talk about other things and to charge at me and put me down. Took me too many times to learn to not even respond back to defend myself!
They would only get more mad if I didn’t reasons to their ain’t rhetoric. It’s tiring! Break the cycle!!
It sounds like you got out. I’m so proud of you! ❤
I think this goes both directions, I think that bridge CAN be where someone is at emotionally and where they are blocked. I was trying to figure out WHAT the hey was going on and he wanted to avoid all accountability and discussions of behaviors and hurts he had caused…
Such an apt description of very toxic challenging individuals. Dr. Ramani THANK you ! You are amazing !
They know exactly what they are doing it’s an inhumane, evil, cruel, behavior and what you do is RUN when you see these patterns!
so many narcissists have accused me of being ghosting them to the point that i dont care about these new age terms like ghosting.
My mother accused me of canceling her, and demanded I explain. It’s just a ploy to get supply, of course
Yes ! They Don’t Listen, you get the blank stare, then when everything falls apart, you get Blamed , when They weren’t listening to start with. Been there , Done That , too many times to Count
After watching your amazing videos for more than a year, i feel like the narcisists are a complex form of either psycopaths or sociopaths -depending on the narcisistic traits.
Yes. Dr Karen Mitchell says it’s one Persistent Predatory Personality.
The whole MO of narcissistic ppl is emotional manipulation. They are never emotionally stable so for you to “ connect “ they want to destabilize YOU. This is so clear once you actually break up with them and go back to your natural emotional state. They are not safe. Another trick to look out for especially for empaths with no boundaries or having trouble or still working on your boundaries is to watch out for messages like “ I don’t feel good “ I have been feeling like going to the doctor “ and stuff like that. BULLSHIT. They want to hook you in so that you feel bad for them. Do not trip.
@lilianaalfonzo9
You are so spot on!! I last dated a guy that had the very same excuse, however he used the excuse that he ‘lost’ his gran-uncle.. when I offered sympathy; he didn’t respond.. eventually he did citing he ‘doesn’t feel well’, ‘wasn’t over the fact that the previous relationship ended’ (even though he claimed to never be in love with her) only for him to then go back on Hinge, update his profile; changing it to finding a ‘Life Partner’… called him out on it.. these people are embarrassing!!🤦🏽♀️
Dr. Ramani! I watched your content for 8 months, and i learned so much from you. It took a lot of courage, but I went no contact and cut those narc people off. It’s been almost a year, and I can’t explain to you how much my life has improved since! My bp is no longer abnormal, and I’m able to enjoy life with my family again. It was a difficult process , especially that I had to deal with the smearing campaign and isolation ,but I would do it all over again if I have to. To everyone who’s dealing with this: You only have one life to live, don’t let them be in charge of it.
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Yes! He always said he didn’t get my texts but only mine He got others drive me. Crazy
They use the kids as a reason to text and harass me every day.
I actually have other people read the messages from the Narc and then just tell me the “need-to-know” or “need-to-respond-to” information so I don’t have to deal with the insults and nonsense. It has been working beautifully for a long while.
I woke up, my sister is still in it. I’ve explained as much as I could, unfortunately she’s going to have to learn on her own. Heartbreaking.
I am going through this right now? It’s almost like she is in denial? Brainwashed! Dr. Ramini, YOU helped me to wake up! X
One thing I’ve noticed (between the 3 narcissists I’ve ended up with over the years) is they love to ignore your texts. And they love sharing links/videos/reels, especially in a passive aggressive manner. They let the video get the point across that they want you to hear, but they don’t want to say it directly.
💯!! I’ve had the same experiences with my narc!!
And this: texting questions requiring an answer, immediately followed by “I’m getting in the shower.” Or “I’m going to bed.”.
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The wall of text is just another technique of “if you cant blind them with brilliance, baffle them with BS.”
I am always told “ What is the purpose of you having a phone, because you never answer me when I call or text you?” Yet he can disappear or disregard your messages or calls whenever they feel like it for hours. It’s so exhausting and such a waste of time!
Just say, “My phone is for MY convenience. Period.” No apology. No justification. Ignore any further attempts at an argument. Matter of fact and leave it at that.
You ever have them cross the line so badly that you block the number. Then they just use other numbers just to get ahold of you to keep it going. Who has the time or energy to care that much? They really have to have the last word or they go even more ballistic. My threshold for the bullshit was embarrassing and way too high. Once I said yeah no I am not doing this. Things got worse. Then they try to locate you in person. Ugh that life is a nightmare and I feel for anyone that is or has gone through it.