How to spot fake friends
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You have no idea the timing 😂 thanks Dr. Ramani
It was perfect wasn’t it. ..u should have year my surgeon try to screw me over
Yes, Dr. Ramani’s timing is impeccable!
Friends in the eyes of a narcissist are just tools or objects, some of them are for validation, others are backups in case of leaving their partners, and others are to annoy or compare them to their partners. That’s why when the relationship with a narcissist ends, you will see many of them vanish, or turn into a new partner or a flying monkey.
Well said! I have experienced this many times.
Use things not people
Yeah, but they get to keep those friends and family, & none of them know they’re flying monkeys *because* they’re lied to in the first place. We suffer & the narcissist wins.
This reminds me of the friend I just ended things with last September. Went to a music festival with her because her friend dropped out. The music was good. Everything was on her terms. She invited an affair partner (he was married) that I thought was a friend. I went silent after I finally dropped them at the airport. Too much drama to write on here.
Just found your channel. Love your thoughts on these topics. Greetings from Sweden ❤
I love your addressing friendships. Its so important, and not talked about nearly enough.
Absolutely
Agreed! Also in regards of attachment styles. Almost always focus on partners
My famous quote i always tell my clients when they are dealing with these type of people “consider the source” 😂😂😂❤ love your channel
i think my friend would act compassionately towards me so she would seem like a good person, but she was never really listening, and then her mask fully slipped
Same happened to me after a 20 year friendship. The mask slipped off my former friend and I saw a dark, nasty side to her I had never seen before, and that she kept hidden from me.
It always does, eventually 😂
You are such a blessing
What a timing ! Thank you so much for your helpful work Dr. Ramani !
You blew my mind with that first sentence! Exactly what I experienced.
Thank you Dr Ramani. I can’t tell you how much you have helped me over the last few years. I so appreciate you talking about friendships. We hear a lot about romantic relationships or narcs in families but very rarely about friendships. Thank you for providing this much needed information ❤
” But he has always been nice to me”..that’s what my sister said
That may be true. Doubtful it will stay true.
Been, “but he’s so noble” is what my ex wife said to me…
Not sure if my friend of 28 yrs was a narc, but she cried and whined constantly that she couldn’t pay her bills or lose weight. She never tried! Never did one thing to change her circumstances. I was there just to listen to the whining. It got really old. If your life isn’t going well, make changes! Nope. She never would. I conserved all my life and was debt-free. Then I got on a diet plan and lost 40lbs. Crickets from her!! Best way to lose these people is to learn, evolve and change. They get left behind.
You will NEVER EVER CHANGE them. Don’t lie to yourself. You can’t love them enough. Decide what YOU NEED for your life and ACT on it.
True!
I appreciate it when people show me who they really are 😉
“How can I be a narcissist? I’m fat.” — Classic Mother
Yep. NPD is a spectrum, you can be a “helper” and be a narcissist too. Kind of an oxymoron but true
You definitely know your stuff. From the first two minutes, it’s word for word the template of their lives.
It’s hard being the only one who sees the cruel narcissist for who they really are behind the mask of “nice” they wear for other people. Anyone who sides with my abuser is not a person I can trust anymore. Double grief, yes!
It’s rare to come across that one true friend, and that is worth more than several you hardly know.
PTSD is real. I’m so heartbroken right now. My wife just left me two days ago, and she’s already pursuing another man. she doesn’t want anything to do with me. I’m so sad and wish I could have her back.
it’s hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn’t just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?