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9 Ways to Touch a Man (That Women Have NO Idea About!)

Most women have no idea where a man ACTUALLY wants to be touched. It's almost never where you'd guess, and it has nothing to do with sex.

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Ladies, here's something about men I don't think most women have ever considered. A grown man can go weeks — sometimes months — without being touched in a way that isn't asking him for something.

Think about it. A handshake. A slap on the back. A doctor. A barber. That's the touch menu for most adult men. Functional. Transactional. Nobody's touching him just because they want to.

So when a woman puts her hand on him with no agenda at all — that doesn't register as a small gesture. For a lot of men, that's the only tenderness he's had all week.

In this video I'm walking you through nine ways to touch a man that most women have no idea about. Where they land. What they actually do to him on the inside. And how to tell the difference between a touch that soothes him and one that lights him up — because those are NOT the same touch, and knowing which one you're using changes everything.

I'm also going to tell you about the woman I dated who only ever touched me when she wanted something, and what that does to a man over time.

▼ IN THIS VIDEO ▼
→ The place on his head that switches off the part of him that's been on watch since he was eleven
→ Why the back of his neck and the front do completely opposite things
→ The touch that makes a man's throat close up (and why it's not what you think)
→ The one that doesn't soothe him — it makes him feel like a MAN
→ Why his back reaches a version of him that existed before he had to be strong
→ My favorite one: the secret weapon you can use in public with nobody knowing
→ The spot on his body that nobody has touched in forty years
→ What to say out loud while you're touching him (almost nobody does this)
→ The four-second touch that beats every other one on this list

If you've been searching for how to touch a man, what men crave physically, how men experience affection, or understanding male psychology — this is the breakdown.

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Mat Shaffer is a former attorney turned dating and relationship coach for women. He helps women understand the way men actually think, feel, and connect — from inside the male mind.

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▼ CHAPTERS ▼
0:00 The touch menu most men live on
1:34 #1 His Hair
2:53 #2 The Back of His Neck… and the Front
4:21 #3 His Face
5:44 #4 His Chest
6:55 #5 His Back
8:20 #6 The Inside of His Forearm
10:00 #7 His Sides
11:07 #8 His Lower Areas (and combining touch + words)
12:55 #9 The Just-Because Touch
15:53 Final Thoughts

💬 Which of these nine surprised you the most? And be honest — how many of you had no idea about number six? 👇🤍