7 CRITICAL areas of recovery after a narcissistic relationship
Healing after narcissistic abuse involves more than simply getting through the day. In this workshop from The Healing Program vault, Dr. Ramani explores the 7 healing spaces, how narcissistic abuse can impact each one, and the patterns, reflections, and tools that can help you build a recovery process that truly fits you.
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DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL.
THE VIDEO DOES NOT REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS VIDEO, ESPECIALLY TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION THAT THE MAKERS OF THIS VIDEO BELIEVE, OR SUPPORT A CLAIM, THAT A SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE VIDEO AND THE INFORMATION FEATURED IN IT.
Just in time.
Feeling down
Must be a sign to open this right at this moment. The emotional abuse is exhausting.
I’m glad you’re here and wish you Peace on your journey ❤
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I have isolated myself so as not to rock the boat. So thank you.
@user-vx5lb4iw2qI hope you’ll not stay isolated…we need your Beautiful Soul.
I’m actually tearing up imagining the pain you’re experiencing 😢
This is Great . Thank you so very much Doctor . 🤩🤩🤩🤩🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Showers good when depressed, better than baths
Before your video, dr Ramani, I felt lost.
Now my life is better, my healing is a process.
Thank you so much, dr Ramani
Mornin Glory Fellow Survivors ❤
My journey/exposure to Narcissism started 37yrs ago when I married my Vulnerable Narci wife.
The inevitable Discard started August 2025, and my first Divorce Court Hearing is in 10 days and a wake-up.
I started my understanding of Narcissism with Dr Ramani and have found an enormous amount of resources since that have helped me transition to the best version of myself for my 5 children and 11 grandchildren.
The Narcis in our lives and world aren’t going away, but I encourage all of you to do the work necessary to SURVIVE this dynamic so you can be your best and offer clarity to yourselves, loved ones and society.
This journey towards recovery is the most difficult thing I’ve experienced because of all the abuse/trauma these relationships cause. I can tell you that it’ll only get worse if you remain stuck.
I wish you Peace on your journey and assurance that “IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT!”.
THE CLIMB IS TOUGH BUT THE VIEW IS AMAZING AT THE TOP OF SURVIVOR MOUNTAIN.
🎉❤🎉THE WORLD NEEDS YOUR BEAUTIFUL SOUL!
THANKS AGAIN DR RAMANI, PERFECT TIMING! ❤
Knowing you’re ignoring the obvious can be a sign.
Dr. R. Please don’t ever apologize for the cat. I (and I know I’m not the only one) LOVE when I can tell she’s around on your videos. Whether it’s seeing her on your lap or hearing the familiar play sounds in the background, it’s an absolute joy! Thank you for all you do for us survivors. No matter what script autoruns in your head, you are a treasure! 💖
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When the narcissist is devaluing you, you will notice they will grow distant, they’ll stop engaging in conversation with you, even when you try to have a conversation with them like you normally would,. They’ll shrug their shoulders, raise their eyebrows, and spread their arms open, palms u, like they have no idea what you mean. Continuing the devaluation process, they will get snarky with you, they’ll start to treat you like you’re stupid, they’ll scoff at what you say when you ask what’s wrong. They won’t take anything you have to say seriously because they’re no longer listening to you. And if they are listening to you, they will completely dismiss what you have to say in order to reply. They don’t listen with the intent to understand what you’re saying, because they don’t care, they just want to reply and put you down. They will start mumbling about you undertheir breath, but just loud enough for you to hear what they’re saying so that when you respond you will be accused of starting the argument that will definitely follow. They will make mountains out of molehills, and just generally act disgusted with your presence in their life. They will ignore you, they will go for days without speaking to you even if you live in the same house. They will brush past you like you’re not even there. And when you have something to say they will act like it’s a huge deal for them to respond and they will disagree with every single thing you have to say to them whether it’s true or not. If you say the sky is blue they’ll say it’s black. If you say you feel like there’s something wrong between the two of you, you will get that classic narcissistic pose of them raising their eyebrows and spreading their arms and say something to the effect of well you should know what’s wrong you’re here. What do you think is wrong? And whatever it is you say whether it’s how you feel they’re distancing themselves from you or they don’t want to spend time with you anymore you’ll get that classic narcissistic pose again and when you question that they will either just flat out ignore you or they will twist it around to where it is your fault that they’re not speaking to you or that they’re speaking of you in an inferior way. And they will make you feel inferior, you can’t do anything right, you can’t say anything right and you definitely cannot understand them the way they want you to understand them. You will catch them in a little lies, that will make you second guess yourself, and by the end, you’ll be second-guessing everything you ever knew them to be, everything they’ve ever said to you, everything they did for you you won’t be sure of anything. You will have changed so much of yourself to make them happy that you won’t know who you are when you’re left on your own and they still won’t be happy they’ll just want you to change more.
They’ll start spending more time away from home, and when they get there they’ll act like they want to be anywhere else but where they are. They’ll stick their face in the TV and it will stay there and they will tune you out like you aren’t even there. They’ll ignore what you have to say any questions you have to ask will never get answered, and so you will be left to fill in the holes the best you can with what you’re being given.
They will start calling you names, putting you down, treating you like you’re a gnat that keeps flying in their face and they can’t swat you away. You’re a nuisance. A pest, and all they want to do is get rid of you
If you dare ask why they’re treating you this way, they will turn it around on you and say that you’ve been treating them that way and they’re just giving it back to you, even when they know they’re the ones being mean and nasty and hateful to you. They can never be the guilty party, they must always play the victim and will announce it to the world how horribly you treated them. The thing they don’t realize, in their infinite narcissistic wisdom, is that True victims don’t generally announce to anyone that they are a victim. True victims are generally too ashamed and embarrssed to be a victim of anything or anyone. But the narcissist has to get on that smear campaign and beat you to the punch to safeguard that bullshit reputation that they conned everyone into believing. They don’t tell people that they are a different person behind closed doors, only that you are a terrible horrible person and they just don’t understand why youve become so awful towards them. This way they know that no one will believe you when you tell people how they treated you, and think you’re crazy for leaving such a swell, upstand Ing guy like them.
Devaluation is the beginning of a confusing and detrimental nightmare, but is not as bad as the Discard phase that will soon follow.
And, of course, it’s nothing they did to you. It’s always twisted around to where nothing is their fault, and everything is laid on you. Additionally, If you need to find out about a Cheating Narcissist; send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com
I’m so sorry you went through that b.s.!😢❤
I’m so traumatized by this crappy relationship I’ve been putting up with it for 30 years now I’m starting to see ….
Dr Ramani you’re a life saver literally
Agreed… one hundred percent.
A narcissist usually has high intelligence while at the same time being incredibly stupid.❤
Thanks so much,your voice is very soothing!!
My therapist said work on my health
This is so good. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Totally true….
Wow! What you just said brought tears to my eyes. I, too, tear up when someone does something nice for me!
The car, under the covers… on my Prayer pillow talking to the Lord
This connects so deeply to my experience as a survivor in the nonprofit world. Nonprofits allow narcissistic leaders to hide in plain sight behind a mask of benevolence. It gives them a bulletproof shield of altruism while providing a captive audience of empathetic survivors. For a toxic leader, a cause-driven environment is a goldmine for unlimited narcissistic supply, weaponizing our desire to help against us.