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The strength of a woman is not measured by the impact that all her hardships in life have had on her; but the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.
Very well said. Hardships are hard lessons, but also serve as a suit of armour over time without living with a hardened heart. You learn to read the signs of the hyenas and shake them off like water off a duck’s back.
I love this, well said โค
Success isn’t measured by never falling down but on the preservance to keep getting up ๐
โ ู ุงุฒูุช ุฃุคู ู: ุจุฃู ุงูุฅูุณุงู ูุง ูู ูุช ุฏูุนุฉ ูุงุญุฏุฉุ ูุฅูู ุง ูู ูุช ุจุทุฑููุฉ ุงูุฃุฌุฒุงุก ููู ุง ุฑุญู ุตุฏูู ู ุงุช ุฌุฒุก ูููู ุง ุบุงุฏุฑ ุญุจูุจ ู ุงุช ุฌุฒุก ูููู ุง ูุชู ุญูู ู ู ุฃุญูุงู ูุงุ ู ุงุช ุฌุฒุกุ ููุฃุชู ุงูู ูุช ุงูุฃูุจุฑ ููุฌุฏ ุงูุฃุฌุฒุงุก ู ูุชุฉ ููุญู ููุง ู ูุฑุญู. – ูุงุชุจ ุฃู ุฑููู ู ุณูุญู ู ู ุฃุตู ูุจูุงููุ ุฌุจุฑุงู ุฎููู ุฌุจุฑุงู Gibran Khalil Gibran โ
ูููู ุดุงุนุฑ ู ูุงุชุจ ุฃู ุฑููู ู ุณูุญู ู ู ุฃุตู ูุจูุงููุ ุฌูุฑุงู ุฎููู ุฌุจุฑุงู: โุณุฃุญุจู ุญุชู ุงูุฃุจุฏูุฉ. ููุฏ ููุช ุฃุญุจู ูุจู ุฃู ููุชูู ูุจุดุฑููููู ู ู ูุญู ูุฏู ุจุฒู ู ุทููู. ุนุฑูุช ุฐูู ุญูู ุฑุฃูุชู ููู ุฑุฉ ุงูุฃููู. ูุงู ุฐูู ูู ุงูููุฏูุฑ. ุฃูุชู ูุฃูุง ูุฑูุจุงูุ ููู ุงูุฌููุฑ ูุญู ู ุชุดุงุจูุงู. ุฃุฑูุฏู ุฃู ุชุชุฐูุฑู ูุฐุง ุฏุงุฆู ุงู. ุฃูุช ุฃุนุฒูู ุดุฎุต ุนูู ููุจู ูู ูุฐุง ุงูุนุงูู . ููุฐู ุงููุฑุจูุ ูุฐู ุงูุญู ูู ูุฉ ูู ููุงููุง ุงูุฑูุญูุ ูู ุชุชุบูุฑุ ุญุชู ูุฅู ุงุชูู ูู ุฃู ุชุชุฒูุฌู ุณุจุน ู ุฑุงุชุ ูู ู ุณุจุนุฉ ุฑุฌุงู ู ุฎุชูููู.โ Khalil Gibran โ
The fact that most people believe the lies narcissists tell, without a shred of evidence. Shows that they just pretend to be good and like causing more chaos.
Thank you for touching on the difficulty of leaving my connections in my small town for relief from narcissistic family members. So many layers that those impacted by narcissistic people have to work through to move forward with their life.
This is so painfully true. If you are targeted by a malignant narcissist, no place is safe and no local community can become your support. They will infiltrate your life and turn people against you until they start feeling the rage and malicious attacks themselves. You can never win with a narcissist, you can only go DEEP. Thank you ๐ dr Ramani
ุญููู ุง ุชุฑูุฒ ุนูู ููุณู ูุชุทูุฑ ู ู ุฐุงุชูุ ุณูู ุชุฌุฏ ุงูุญูุงุฉ ุงูุชู ุชุชู ูุงูุง ุชุชูุฑุจ ู ูู. ุงูุชู ุจุฃูุฏุงููุ ุตุญุชูุ ูุทู ูุญูุ ูุณูู ุชุฑู ุฃู ุงูุญูุงุฉ ุจุฏุฃุช ุชุนุทูู ุงููุฑุต ุงูุชู ุชูุงุณุจู. ูู ุฎุทูุฉ ุฃุฎุฐุชูุง ูู ุชุทููุฑ ููุณู ุณูู ุชูุฏู ูู ุญูุงุฉ ุชููู ุจู ูุจู ุฌููุฏู.
Yesyeayes…๐ข.. more of this… This is my freaking life right now… We live in a very small island in the west of sweden… This is hell.. everybody knows everybody… And families take their ancestors in consideration towards me against the narc.. etc… Hope You understand what I mean๐ข…โค
I think being mobile, as opposed to setting down roots, is the answer..!๐โคโคโค
This is my family. They are always seen as the saints despite the horrific abusive things they do. They scapegoat, attack, do smear campaigns or project everything onto me! No more. I know the truth. The former family safe space does feel triggering and lonely for me now, I feel so misunderstood and mistreated I barely want to be around them sadly. Taking myself back and reclaiming MY identity OUTSIDE of them. Giving myself lots of love. โค Grateful for this community. Thank you Dr Ramani โค
Thank you Dr Ramani for this video.
I do live in a smaller town. My narc family ans my ex therapist narc both use the same shops as I do. Since I cannot work due to extreme fatigue, I tend to go shopping when the shops open or close since the narcs will not be there. I still scan the car park for their cars and give myself a pep talk.
You know what?? I love your penguin so much.. maybe I will make a tiny penguin for my pocket to have in my hand when I am freaking out.
Today I learned that I am not weak for not going no contact sooner. I was surviving!
It sucks because you still have to deal with their flying monkeys. A matter of fact it’s hell!
You are correct. This is my life. I live in a very small town and went no contact after decades. I have no support, it makes isolation worse, there are no therapists who understand this type of abuse, the few times I have tried to share with someone I was not believed or dismissed entirely. My children side with their other parent – it feels like hell on earth. I spent my life living my kids and doing my best by them. And, yes, it makes healing even more difficult.
Small towns are a narcissist playground. I used to be a highly sought after person until a smear campaign reached the whole town. Iโm talking about a town of 1500 people. Getting snears from people I didnโt know and everyone knowing about your love life was no way to live. I have since grown up and moved on to bigger and better. However whenever I go back to the narcissistic haven Iโm always reminded of who I was not who I am. Small town people think small. I know I have lived it
I can’t believe I’m seeing this video just as I’m thinking through this and how to handle my situation in a church group! It really isn’t easy especially when the safest option seems to be leaving the group. Thank you, Dr Ramani.โคโคโค
My sister and I live in a small town. Our mom is a narcissist and our dad is the fire chief so a lot of people know our parents. Unfortunately I had to go no contact on both of my parents because dad always takes mom’s side and believes everything she says. She has turned other family members and friends against my sister and I. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t care what other people think of me if they don’t know my side of the story. Also if someone tells me a lie that my mom is spreading about me, I just let them know that she’s a liar and a manipulator.
My ex husband and I live in the same small community. I never see him. I’m totally no contact. We move in different circles. I don’t care what he and his buddies say about me. I know the truth. 14 years of insane marriage taught me what I know
The times I’ve seen him at the mall I’ve gone in the opposite direction
I appreciate you addressing this topic! My ex narc used to say โgo ahead – no one will believe youโ so that gave me the clue to begin to get his behavior on video ๐
I got mine to on video, that he doesn’t know about, I’m not going to use unless I have to.
Thank you Dr. Ramani, I was living in a small community, his community, so I lose right there. I was isolated, not even realizing I was isolated…..but I know I was in hell….I am still recovering from that demonic ๐ฟ marriage. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150๐๐๐ฏ๐ฒ๐
I live in a very small town in northern Maine and my narcissistic ex lived in the neighboring small town. When I went no contact he chose to move to my small town. AGGGH!!!!๐ข I pray that he leaves every day.
Thanks for bringing awareness to this topic Dr. Ramani
Hugs to all survivors of narcissistic abuse.
Or, in small circle of people with a common interest is involved.
Showing horses is a big old mess of rich and narcissistic tending mix of people.