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Waiting for Narc Survivor to comment first and talk on the subject before listening to Dr ❤️
Fascinating and helpful information. I was on a pedestal with my mother. In adulthood, I thought that it was equal to love. (Big mistake). Occurred at work too for decades, then later switched to group abuse and bullying. As my skills and competency increased, envy & jealousy increased.
I am grateful for your wisdom and your accessible manner of teaching, Dr. Ramani.
Why ?!? Do you think Dr. Ramani doesn’t know what she’s talking about ?!? Just curious.
@@wandamundy1759 you misunderstood:) Narc comments before listening to Dr Ramanis video, I’m saying he should listen to her first for once
Narcissists never forgive. They hold grudges for life. They may wait a while, but eventually they will seek vengeance. Be very careful if you ever break a narcissist’s rules. However, they will break all of your rules and they won’t think anything of it. They will expect you to forget about immediately.
There it is! Just like I predicted
They think of it quickly enough if they get permanently damaged physically.
@mooop348 that’s why I don’t comment anymore. They want to give advice even though I didn’t ask for any.🫤
Thank you for all you do Dr Ramani!
Thank You for Your unique significant contribution on helping in depth the survivors of narcissistic abuse. Best Wishes from someone in Greece 😊😊❤😊 Thank You truly! 😊🙏⭐️✨💫
Thank you for your consistent reminders.
1/ The Silent Treatment Treating You Like You Don’t Exist
2/ Gas lightning
3/ Treatments Of Being Belittled Bullying Calling Horrible Names.
4/ Trying To Make The Victim Jealous
I Went Through Horrific Emotional And Psychological Abuse. I Currently have 2 Months Of No Contact Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.
Keep up the NO CONTACT. I was once two months also, now it’s been 6 yrs! There is NO other way to go but NC!
Every single thing you said in that order is happening to me!
Yeah, my ex told me that one of our kids would do anything for you, and I said no, he will do anything for you, I don’t ask certain things of our kids.
The combination of good and bad things happening at the same time contaminates Joy with a sense of sadness and loss and bad memories. How do you find joy without that connection if you spent years in it?
Thanks for all the info! Always great
When a narcissist puts you on a pedestal, you think you’re standing tall but you’re really on your knees.
Oooof! Beautifully put. ❤
Thank you, Dr Ramani, for all your words of validation and wisdom ❤ you are a blessing to so many!
I filed for divorce from a Covert narc & ASPD a few months ago. He has since moved out & uses the kids as his constant supply while also using any situation involving the kids to punish me, to do the exact opposite of what I tell him or I thought we agreed to & to inflict the most damage possible onto me. The rules will never apply to him & he acts like a spoiled, selfish, cruel petulant child. His every thought & motivation is about revenge & contempt. As long as he can legally spend time with our kids, he will continue to use this arrangement to inflict pain & damage onto me. Schedules & plans are opportunities for him to show me that the rules do not apply to him & to declare how weak & easily manipulated I am. He has destroyed my health.
This man belongs behind bars.
Unfortunately I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter is also in the middle of this nightmare. Twi years since she walked away from her narcissistic husband and his venom and anger is even stronger. Keep strong, at least you don’t have to see him every single day. Try to find a support network. Sending you love and hugs ❤
im so sorry this is happening. i pray things get better for you, because that’s horrible & disgusting to do to anyone. bless you.❤️
tailgating narcissists gas light drivers who are observing the speed limit into thinking they are doing something wrong
My narcissistic mother in law even blamed a building to be at fault that she drove into despite being warned beforehand.
I made the mistake of dropping the restraining order & coming to an agreement with him through the courts. He has violated this agreement every single chance he gets. Narcs & ASPD’s will not follow rules because they believe they are above the rules. Unfortunately, the legal system takes too long & he has found ways to skirt & defy any court order. I don’t feel like I will ever be free of this man or get justice. His behavior will likely kill me before this happens.
Although my mother, as an alcaholic, drug addict, had her Own problems, she was often heard to say ” beware the man who puts you on a pedestal , then treats you like a footstool ! ” Later on, as time wore on, I saw how this advice could apply to Any manipulative controller in society, including abusive bosses, or co-workers, manipulative roomates, etc.
Everytime I watch one of these videos I realise more and more about my mothers relationship with me
The concept of splitting, as in this context, was new to me. Thank you so much for this new lens.
The only connection I can think of is that both are based on the perpetrator’s undue emphasis of his/her own thoughts/emotions. In narcissistic abuse, perpetrators usually expresses the attitude that everything centers around them. They may object to that description and even insist that they don’t believe that; but, their actions say otherwise. Virtually everything you do/don’t do gets tied back to the perpetrator as a person. You’re either doing something right b/c you’re smart, capable, etc., or you’re intentionally doing it wrong in order to hurt/anger the perpetrator in some way.
You are also likely to be accused of doing it wrong, even if you’re doing it right—again b/c of the perpetrator’s thoughts/emotions. Toxic positivity is generally not perpetrated with the intention to hurt anyone, and most wouldn’t even recognize it as being toxic/hurtful; but, in most cases, the perpetrator is still oblivious to the effect it has on others, and to the value of that effect. Narcissism is a psychological disorder and, with few exceptions, abuse is perpetrated with the tangible intention of causing harm. In contrast, toxic positivity is a behavioral flaw that is essentially an extreme version of selfishness, based in denial, and is generally perpetrated with the intention of maintaining and creating happiness. Most people are selfish, in some way or another. Toxic positivity is a subtle expression of selfishness—so subtle that even the perpetrator may not realize why it’s wrong b/c, after all, s/he is only seeking to encourage/uplift people. This is where denial comes in. Most people struggle/suffer, at some point or another. I believe that most people are also aware that there are people who experience more pain than they are aware of from their own lives.
Denial allows people to look at someone who reminds them of themselves and assume that they cannot be justified in their suffering b/c the observer is not suffering. Denial also allows people who have suffered to deny the significance of other people’s suffering b/c it is notably different from their own, or b/c they perceive it as being notably different. From here, there are 2 extremes: One is for them to be semi-consciously abusive—meaning that they are generally aware that their actions are hurtful; but, they rationalize it as being justified. The other is to perpetrate toxic positivity—in which they are completely unaware that their actions are hurtful and it’s difficult for them to identify why they would be.
Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
You wrote a book😣
A Narcissist is exactly aware of the effects their actions have. That’s how they manage to manipulate do well.
My narcissistic husband was just home ( on vacation) for 10 days. Most miserable 10 days ever. Screaming at me one day, silent treatment the next, then tried to be nice for a day. On and on. I feel like I have whiplash. Thankfully, he’s back to work tomorrow where he can get his supply needs met.
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