The parts of narcissism that make it dangerous
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Many narcissists can be charming, charismatic and attractive. Which is very dangerous. Because really, theyβre self-absorbed, lacking empathy and exploitative. Theyβre wolves in sheepβs clothing. Theyβre the opposite of what they present themselves to be. But by the time you figure this out, youβre already emotionally invested into the illusion of their false character. You believe theyβre something more ideal, rather than who they actually are, which is something you do NOT want, need or desire.
I married one of them.
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This is so true. I think the root cause is that they canβt handle, no one ever impressed upon them, the least little disappointment there is that needs to be accepted. If they are not glorified, they will make you beg. If they are not heard, they will rage. If you get sick and canβt do something, they will rage. Then their rage turns to throwing things at you and sabotage. People donβt know what sabotage is. Sabotage is a horrible act where they can come into your workplace and make you get fired. It is when they take your things like your car and sell it. It is when they take your clothing and give it away or throw it away.
It’s the insanity of the narcs manipulations
As my mom use to say, ” paranoia will destroy yah” myself I’m disappointed in how others attack personal morals and views .I don’t see the narcs manipulations untill it was too late …..I had to go grey rock.
They’re passive aggressive. They can get uncontrollably dangerous during raging anger stage.
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Even after delving into all the things narcissism, I didn’t really understand how the abuse was really affecting me, the behavior of isolating myself from friends (that I no longer seem to have) and healthy people. I blamed my loneliness for falling into the baiting and hoovering trap but didn’t recognize the loneliness is because of the narcissistic abuse I keep returning to. Now that I recognize this circle of feeling lonely and returning to the narcissist for comfort, I think I’m going to be able to take small steps to make my way out of this.
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Go gray rock plz as you gain strength then go no contact πβ€οΈβπ©Ήβ₯οΈ
Psychopaths that steal from a womanβs home or stalk, monitor, then use that target for creation of a profitβ¦.are deplorable people. Yes, they are sick!
Just know that I am making the same small steps. Itβs tough, but itβs not impossible. πππ
This hit home so much, as do all your videos.
My ex was narcissistic in every way. It went to physical violence. I still went back, and would run away, and than run back to them. It was years ago but I’m slowly healing. It was draining mentally, emotionally, physically. Had to move away from my home to stop the cycle. Thank you for all you do β€β€β€
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My partner of 11 years hit me once 9 years ago. We were drunk so we never drank after that. Fast forward 8 years, and the violence upticked out of nowhere well… not nowhere. I know he has this in him. This darkness. I was so enamored and thought my protector would never turn on me like he did. The last 2 years ive experienced a level of pain i never knew existed. My own personal hell brought on by his married female coworker and relapse.
I lost my home, my job ( bc of daily panic attacks), family and my mind. I have never felt loneliness on that level. Pain. Disgust and yes even love. I love this man even now. Even as i pick the pieces of a once fair, tale life that broke me and left scars like anxiety and ptsd.
I’m currently in therapy to learn skills to manage the daily stressors that come with this level a trauma.
hurting people hurt people so they say. But as bad as I’ve been hurt I could never do to someone what was done to me.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us you’re helping people in more ways than you can know
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Youβre trauma bonded not in love & need a year of no contact to break that but you can do it! Go gray rock plz then work on self control as you address codependency because thatβs the only way youβll get relief as well as a life πβ€οΈβπ©Ήβ₯οΈ
@caroleminke6116Β Thank you for taking time to respond and the kind words of encouragement.
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My neighbor showed me the real person they are. they didnt get thier way and raged at me. years later they are still very bitter, passive aggressive, the smear campaign, the flying monkeys stalking. The police can not help. I have learned that i must watch and learn what they are doing. I stay aware and take care of myself. // I have learned so much from DrR.
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Sending peace and hugs I have a inside view of what you are saying its a awful feeling having neighbors like this its been going on afew years not I am looking into moving, I have depression so it’s taking a long time hopefully will do it in the new year very best wishes to you. π
I wish I didnβt know what youβre speaking about, but I do. I havenβt felt safe for over a decade and I know that whatβs happening isnβt going to end well. You canβt stop those who are hell bent to cause so much harm against someone who feels youβre the reason for their hate and anger. Family members are the worst because they will protect each other in order to hide their bad behavior against us, so it can seem like a no win situation and it usually is. Iβm so exhausted not with why, but when.
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Physical distance helps! I moved far away & have no contact with the dysfunctional family
You hit the nail on the head for me in your closing. I’d also rather be seen as an unfriendly a..hole than have to endure any toxic behaviour (my version). Keep up the great work and thanks for sharing.
If something trivial or ridiculous can send them into a full-on rage, who knows what can set them off to the point of severe physical harm or perhaps worse if they completely snap. It’s not worth the risk to gamble with. Stay safe.
I got shoved off the bed into the wall & hit head first because he knew I had an injury that would cripple me already but I got up with the phone & called 911. He fled but two restraining orders later & the power was on my side
@@caroleminke6116 Thank you for sharing your difficult experience Carole. As victims and survivors of the dark world of narcissism we can openly share, feel the pain and learn from each other through our personal experiences. Special thanks to Dr. Ramani who has made this possible and to help us regain our lives back.
@@caroleminke6116 Thank you for sharing your difficult experience Carole. As victims and survivors, we can openly share, feel others’ pain and provide support to help us navigate our way through the dark world of a narcissist. Special thanks to Dr. Ramani who helps so many around the world to regain their lives back.
After my narc left, I discovered a long trail of police reports, some that occurred during our relationship that I didnβt know about. There was a detective assigned to keep an eye on him the entire 9 years we were together from things he did before I met him. When he decided I was done, the way he turned on me was shocking. It was so sudden and I was now public enemy number one to him because I stood in the way of him having his new supplyβ who was my employee. The last time he spoke to me, his eyes were black.
Youβre incredibly lucky he left you!
@@caroleminke6116 I am grateful every day and I hide my location now because I could now be a target of his angst. He will be caught. Itβs inevitable. He canβt stop his behaviors
I have been married to a narcissist for 38 years. It took me decades to figure out what was going on, he has gotten worse over the years. I stayed until the kids were grown and left home as I feared he would take them away from me. After a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, I became severely chronically ill and mostly bedbound now. So it is too late now.
Iβm mostly writing this as a warning for younger people in narcissistic relationships as a warning. Get out while you still have your health.
Sorry Dr. Ramani if this is the wrong video to be writing this on β€
So sad for this! My mother did 30 years & then cancer took her @ 69 but I never married or had kids so didnβt perpetuate the family dysfunction yet I still struggle with depression now I am 66 πβ€οΈβπ©Ήβ₯οΈ
My ex and I were only togetherΒ in the marriage living together for 2 years.Β He used to tryΒ to get me to have a child like he wanted us to have a child together. AndΒ I was nervous about that so we never did have a child together. Looking back Now I’m I’m 100% or nearly 100% sure he would have sued for full custodyΒ he probably would have taken the child away from me and that would have been so hard on me.Β So I can understand your staying with him until the children were grown because of the fear that he would take them away from you.
I left 27 years into it, when my body shut down after 20+ years of mystery illnesses, auto-immune disorders and chronic issues. Removing stress from my life in all shapes and forms helped immensely. The body does keep the score. β€
LOVED the “F” bomb! You’re SO EFFING RIGHT!
I so much want yo share what is happening. I was healing and dared to share a bit. The narcissist is escalating. I can see the patterns. My health put me in the ER. I’ve been doubted and my hypervigilance is interpreted as suspicious paranoia or me being narcissistic. The narc has blocked my access to supports. A lot of what you said in the video has happening. It is really hard to know what to do as the narc is a professional. It is risky even writing this, but I decided to. Thanks for this and what you do.
Go gray rock plz as you plan an exit strategy πβ€οΈβπ©Ήβ₯οΈ
@caroleminke6116Β This isn’t a relationship in the home. It’s in the medical system, a doctor. I am no contact, and find the enablers and flying monkies wherever I seek care. The electronic medical records make it easy for the narc to keep track. Enablers are friends as the medical providers are close knit. Moving is not an option now. Yet, I am sure they could keep track. Gosh, I know this sounds like I am paranoid. I am really very aware of seeing things and behavior. I was also in the medical field, so I know how things work. I’ve observed over 6 years and didn’t make a judgment about the person until a year ago. I began telling my medical doctors as my health was affected. That is when I noticed escalation bt the narc.
Brilliant. These people ARE dangerous, and it’s one of the hardest things for most of us to see and be aware of. The fear and disbelief can make us rationalize, and rationalize, and rationalize.
Don’t forget SADISTIC!!
My narcissistic has been trying to kill me on several occasions. I caught him trying to poison me and when I came off of life Support I was alone with him in my room and he was laughing at me hysterically when I woke up and started thrashing around because I didn’t know what was going on. He told me if I didn’t stop accusing him of cheating on me which I caught him doing red-handed but I wasn’t gonna live long. He also said he couldn’t wait until I died on several occasions . I left him and at first he said he would never marry again because I was as one and only but as soon as the ink dried our divorce paper he remarried . I hope he doesn’t do anything too new hid new wife have a untimely death at his hands when he tires of her.
Theyβre destroying you from the first date & you cannot get away fast enough!
I like that your tone has gotten darker in the last few videos since this is a life-altering devastating situation we are in. There’s no fun in it.
My ex husband said ” I don’t need therapy “. I ended up in therapy alone and was the best decision ever. Freed me from a broken marriage……
I’m so thankful to have come across these videos. It just sucks that I didn’t discover your videos sooner. I’m thankful nonetheless
26:22 That Kumbaya-part hit me hard. You’re such a boss (in a genuine way)!