Do narcissistic relationships pass the FART TEST?
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The only way to pass the fart test is to not get yourself “gaslighted” 😅
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LOL love this – I was in a prolonged on and off again relationship for 7 years that destroyed me. HE DID NOT FART ONCE. Not ONCE! I farted for the first time while he was breaking up with me, I was nervous my stomach was twisting and I tried to hold it in but I let a little toot out, and he NEVER let me live it down.
Your body never lies!
He never let you live it down after breaking up?
What a gas!! Love this Dr. R!! You rock!
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I have never in my life ever heard my narcissistic mother fart. My sister and I joke about it still. If we farted, it was always regarded as shameful and my mom would be very offended and she would shake her head. This was even when we were kids.
😂 My inner child immediately responded with laughter! It felt good. I knew a narcissist who actually enjoyed farting very loudly at odd times just to test people’s reactions and he was NOT mortified in the least. Loud and proud.
Was he my husband?
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@@katechisham9345I’m sure there’s a whole “Farting Squad” around of them. 😁😂😂
My ex would physically harm me if I farted anywhere near him. On the 2 occasions two tiny ones slipped out while near him he flew into a rage, hurt me, and said I disrespected him by farting on him. If this sounds familiar to anyone RUN! I’m glad I can still find farts funny even if they will always remind me of that loser.
Farts are funny by nature and it takes strength to admit it!
Only a narcissist could actually take a fart, burp or whatever, as a personal insult. Mine was offended by food & if I had something on my plate he didn’t like because it reminded him of baby food or poop, he’d make a scene even in a restaurant! Wish I had just got up & left him there but that was his tactic & finally he just disappeared from my life 😉
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I love this candor. I was in a new relationship following a toxic (likely narcissistic) abusive relationship of 5 years. The two of us were sitting at our kitchen table eating dinner and I burped. My new boyfriend told me I was ‘disgusting’ for it. Though I didn’t know why, I knew it was time to nip this in the bud after just 5 weeks.
Perfect example of projection like only a narcissistic person or a misogynist could deliver on cue! Either way you need to put them in the rear view mirror ASAP 😉 congratulations for passing the fart test!
If you can’t be yourself or fart near your partner, that’s a red flag. “ True love is the person who listens to you fart, and just draws you closer when it happens.” 😂 Great topic, Dr Ramani!💕
He was prolific. Disgustingly so. If I quietly passed gas, I was disgusting.
@@nancylang4294 That’s insane.😱
‘Listens to your farts’ 😂😂😂😂
Damn this is so Crazy, I thought about this yesterday! I was in relationship with someone who farted from time to time, he even gave his farts a weird name because they were so intense. I just laughed it off. After months I was with him in the car and I farted but it wasn‘t intentionally. When he noticed, he stared at me in disbelief and said very upset: „Did you just fart?“. I started laughing because I thought he was joking but nope. He was actually angry and disgusted with me and a few weeks later he broke up with me because he „lost feelings“. I have to say we were both in our early 20‘s but there were other red flegs too. I always thought it was just misogyny, now I see the superficiality and the huge double standard in this.
😮 wow! Gas happens, people. It just does (and yeah, it often is even worse as one gets older: maybe because older bodies just don’t digest food quite as efficiently 🤷♀️).
I also dated a narcissist and he would purposely try to humiliate me in front of other people and chose the moment to reveal my human side for everyone to hear ..
My husband would act all disgusted with me when I farted declaring, “Women don’t fart!” After him treating me like garbage for years on end, I would just let go instead of trying to hide it.
When I fart 💨, my partner in crime doesn’t even blink , this is how I know she unconditionally loves me ❤
Her name is Willow and she is a beautiful Brindle Bullmastiff ….lol…
Awe, a tue unconditional love ❤️🐾🐶🦴 I had a Doxie named Abby who jumped out of her skin in fear of farts, she was and desable senior dog maybr her earring was off and it sounded like a gun shot to her, LOL RIP my baby girl. My other dogs are like Willow :))
This isn’t a narcissism problem, it’s a problem with expectations of women put in place by media over the past 100 years. Men rarely see women without makeup (actually without makeup, no foundation, nothing), so when they do they react like a soda drinker reacts when they drink lacroix. It’s the same thing for women when they see a man cry. It grosses them out because it’s extremely rare to see a man cry due to societal expectations put in place by media.
I’ve never been grossed out by seeing a man cry. It concerns me when I see it because they’re so trained to hide their emotions, they have to really be under serious strain to show an emotion that society says is a sign of weakness.
I never felt comfortable farting around my ex-husband. Come to think of it, I don’t think he farted around me either. Can’t remember us burping. I used to apologize for yawning. He refused to take off his socks at home. I rarely ever saw his bare feet in ten years of our relationship. We had some weird quirks. Mine stemmed from my parents (mother) getting mad if I made a peep, much less let a noxious odor escape my person, so I tried to be as non-gross as possible. It was a personal failure if I farted or burped or had any sort of bodily function around my family. I was shamed for being normal. Seen and certainly not heard, ever. Not sure what my ex’s hang-up was, but I’ll bet it originated from the same place.
Thank you for the chuckle this morning, Dr. Ramani. I will now think of the fart test to test if I am really comfortable with a person. I realize now, all my life, that I haven’t been. I’ve never felt safe to do those natural things around anyone. Three cheers for insecurity and childhood trauma! Woo!
Lol… if they can’t handle that it’s a no go. Facts are a poor man’s toy 😅
This happened with a guy I dated. He would say funny things so I would laugh and sometimes snort, and he got disgusted saying ‘no one snorts around me’! And he was serious! He started off with comments then started making digs so I stopped seeing him. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
The first fart moment IS more memorable than the first kiss. I recall a night where the man I was dating and I had been playing a board game on the floor. Something funny was said, and we both broke out in belly laughs. He put his arm around me and tickled me during this moment of laughter, and out slipped a fart. We were already laughing uncontrollably, but this occurrence raised the laughter even higher. I was embarrassed, but this fart moment revealed a solid loving relationship.
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Such a sweet story 💕
We have to make it funny, it cuts through the embarrassment and makes it a normal thing. He it happens. I’m plant based an brand are in my menu daily so by 8 pm if you tickle me you will get some farting haha
I enjoyed this segment very much & just want to remind women who are still dating men now… we need to discern projection & walk away ASAP even if we don’t know whether it’s from narcissism or misogyny or plain immaturity
Brilliant. A partner is an extension of the Narcissist, and Narcissists don’t want to be reminded that you or they are actually human with imperfections.
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To accept someone’s bodily noises, it shows humility, compassion, acceptance and a genuine sense of humor.
Those offended tend to be uptight, judgemental, hyper-controlling, disconnected and fail to see humor in the most simplest things in life.
Those that care( about your functions), will get offended.
Those that don’t care, will overlook or even laugh with you.
Absolutely! I have scoliosis and once dated a man who would insult me about my shoulders not being even. He’d act like I was ruining the entire date because of the imperfection. Not once did he ask if the condition caused me pain.
i’m happily divorced and thus single. i’ll never have to worry about the fart test again, thank goodness. i get to just be myself all the time and love myself just as i am. and i could not be more thankful to be who and where i am right now.
I was married for 33 yrs and NEVER deliberately farted in front of my husband because he would mock me, shame me and basically tell me how disgusting I was. He would even comment when I was in the bathroom with the door closed! He hated any bodily noise. Coughing, sneezing, hiccuping even choking!!! He would get super annoyed at me AND our children. I’m so glad I’m away from him and in my own space where I can do whatever the heck I want!!