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It takes one narcissistic person to influence everyone else. So in many ways it is the enablers who are at fault.
You are spot on-it’s the enablers
You didn’t survive narcissism. It bit you like a vampire in the night on your neck. You awoke, terrified. Hissing and snarling at the sun.
The only enablers of narcissism are other narcissists. They enjoy and relish in that “special quality”.
Make one video where:
1. Your face isn’t in it.
And
2. You don’t wear sunglasses inside.
Find healing.
You didn’t survive narcissism. It bit you like a vampire in the night on your neck. You awoke, terrified. Hissing and snarling at the sun.
The only enablers of narcissism are other narcissists. They enjoy and relish in that “special quality”.
Make one video where:
1. Your face isn’t in it.
2. You don’t wear sunglasses inside.
3. Your eyebrows look better than my ladies.
Find healing.
You can’t say anything to the enablers they’re so brainwashed they will defend the narc to their death! 😢
@@EliAlexanderClarkI hope you find healing too
2 almost killed me. Actually one of them did, I just didn’t stay dead.
The Narc I helped get clean dosed me at a party because I wouldn’t let her ‘treat’ herself. Next thing, coma and intubation. Don’t turn your back on a Dark Triad narcissist!
Ive had a similar experience. My mother died and nearly dragged me into the grave with her. Thats how it felt.
Or having a tantrum.
@@SaviorCityDovesDecades ago, one told me he had slipped a laxative to another guy he disliked. Yes, do not accept food or drink from one!
@@SaviorCityDoves wow really that really happened? Wow that is so crazy
Only one narc is enough. Strategically, they are very accurate. They’re hitting right at the center of the system.
One bad seed kills the garden. one is enough bad influence and a threat.
Yep. One. Let that sink in lol. Geez.
By the time everyone else sees what’s going on it’s far too late 😭 as a lifelong surviver I still can’t grasp why others are switched off to these individuals 💚
Have a blessed weekend beautiful souls & stay strong… 💚 From Amanda in England UK
I dont think they are not switched off. I think they either see it and run like hell; or are a victim and enable their contact with N to thrive. A systematic illness, so very much like recovering spouses of alcohol (drugs, abuse, etc.)
Hah. Story of my 29 year academic career. Once the covert/malignant narcissist came, everyone paid tribute, abuse began immediately and never ceased, and I eventually had to leave my tenured full professor dream job without a word, along with two or three other tenured professors . . . It just takes one.
Same for me.
Dr Ramani, if only families and companies listened to you! The world would become less difficult to live in.
Years ago I was part of a social group and we had a narcissist in our midst. He caused more snd more trouble, ordering people around like he owned them, and then one day he went away for about a year. Immediately the group became so much nicer and we all had lots of fun. Then he came back and tried to take control again. When there was pushback he got petulant like a child and things were never as much fun again.
Yeah. It only takes one.
@TorgerVedeler, Your story is something we went through also in a social group. One woman thought to “appoint” herself the director of the group. We didn’t need a director. Behind her back, we all referred to her as “the Mayor”, but no one really liked much about her. We only tolerated her for the good of the group.😂 So, I don’t think we were enablers, but rather, we hoped to keep it peaceful, so, toleration was how we did it, but looking back now, we might have used humor with her by calling her Mayor to her face, instead of behind her back. The group disintegrated anyway.
In my family, I think to myself: “How many of us would it take to change a lightbulb?” Next, I picture a pitch dark frame from a comic strip with a dialog bubble saying: “Lightbulb? What lightbulb?”
Conversely, a single truth teller in a toxic system ruins everything!
Amen to that.
The truth teller gets targeted at best and at worst gets “offlined”
Oh the push back! Watch out truth teller.
And the Truth teller suffers. Has to change self to survive. Takes the smack and might end up a scapegoat on their own an homeless. But it really is the making of a God or Goddess in the end. Knowing a magic we can keep. 😊 Forever to love and keep ourselves.
One!!!
But it is the enablers that let it happen!!
Totally true!
Enablers have their own reasons/issues…they don’t want the boat rocked cuz it might affect them negatively !
The toxic person doesn’t even need to be attention seeking. I have seen a narcissist wreak havoc on a group by refusing to attend and withholding their input and approval. Like so many things narcissistic, there is an overt and a covert way of causing problems.
You have literally explained 40 years of my life. I was raised by narcissistic people and I was with a husband and boyfriend for years and I had no idea. I thought I deserved this treatment. You have literally saved my life.
You comment is “VERY” Common I had no idea until I found Dr. Ramani
It’s like asking how many contagious persons does it take to infect a group. One. How many vaccinated or immune humans does it take to stop the spread. A herd. We need herd immunity against narcissism to neutralize the threat. How do we do it? By arming ourselves with knowledge, healthy habits, good character, and prosocial behavior.
Dr. R not only diagnoses but also prescribes the cures.
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So Brilliant. We’ve all experienced this, but we’ve been conditioned to cater to the “squeaky wheel” and can expect it as normal. It’s time to see it.
Shocking how well this maps onto the political climate we have been in recently
Draw a straight line! I am so sad about this. When did we get so sick?
Spit it out. Trump
Reminds me of my dad. I called to tell him I was pregnant with my 1st daughter amnd a month later he called to tell me he was engaged to the lady he cheated on my mom with, and let me know their wedding was suddenly planned for my due date. He didn’t get why that might be upsetting for me and why I questioned his choice in dates.
Then recently my mom and step dad bought this beautiful new house with a pool…a month later my dad was selling their condo to buy a bigger, better house with an INground pool. It’s just constant.
I’ve been NC with him for nearly 2 years and although I’m sad my daughter doesn’t see him and my 2nd daughter’s existence has never been acknowledged by him, I am so much happier and my life is so much more peaceful.
Boy did this bring back memories! When the narc in my family wasn’t at a gathering, everyone innocently made comments like ” have you noticed how nice things are when they aren’t here?” We were all just thinking that this person was really difficult and had to have their way. We know the truth today!
My mom is a narc and my sister definitely a stronger narc. My dad …getting influenced and all 3 treating and raising me like a scapegoat ….raising me with gaslight…..isolating me from everything…. and when their influence on me shows cracks they weaponize it to debase me….criticize me, telling me it’s bc they are my family and love me that they are telling me everything thats wrong with me with a record of 30 years….. I can breathe without them now! One toxic person is poison….two…….yuck