Have you ever wondered if you might have narcissistic traits? It’s a question more people are asking, especially after navigating difficult relationships. In this video, we’ll explore why identifying with certain traits doesn’t make you narcissistic and how self-awareness is the real game-changer. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What if I’m the problem?”- this one’s for you.
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Omg! Yes, lost empathy. I’m so angry, exhausted, more than 8 years solely responsible for narc mother. Life on hold. But I want to move forward. Everything Dr Ramani said here is so true.
So true. My empathy is doled out to the right people now. I no longer give it away.
I had them all. I succeeded in a toxic society. I sacrificed myself to serve others (people pleaser). Now that I’m retired I’m trying to resuscitate my authentic self. I’m reconnecting with my inner child who I abandoned and neglected. Don’t settle. We got this.
well done for confronting it
Inspiring! Love the word/idea of resuscitating. Yes! Our authentic selves can be revived/resuscitated!
I thought I was narcissist because I thought every time people got upset or any kind of reaction to what I did/said was about me. I made all reactions about me. They did X because I did Y. I’ve learned a lot with you (Dr. Ramani) and my therapist.
I thought I lost all my empathy after the narc but it turned out I just have boundaries now. Every sob story isn’t my problem and I am not the doormat anymore. My boundaries have shocked more than the narc but also other people who just were taking advantage of me. 😊
Love this, I feel the same way! 👍💪
Yes, boundaries. As Dr. R said yesterday we are not their savior, therapist etc.
Exactly. Your eyes are tired but you are not blind.
I’m sooo grateful for you Dr Ramani, you have helped me to keep being empathetic & realize I am sane 🤍🤍🤍
I am highly NOT Narcissistic. But am happy that I’ve reached the point of eroded empathy. Most people are only about themselves and fail to consider the needs of others so now I speak up to protect myself.
Keeping it real with Doctor Ramani! She always addresses these sticky issues. So grateful she has the courage to do it. My gosh I wish I could have coffee with her (tea for her)!❤
I am an autistic person and one myth about autism is that we do not have empathy, but I have too much sometimes it is hard for me to go outside. I believe this is why I gave my ex chance after chance even if his anger was controlling our relationship. I still don’t know if he is a narc, but he has many of the traits.
I must confess I’m so envious at how easy it is for the narc to self promote, where as I fail miserably at this! As an artist I really need to learn this, but finding it very difficult, even writing this was painful…geez & freez!
Confidence in yourself is a fake it till you make it issue & that’s OK
I’m glad you shared ty
After all the trauma and abuse… yea i hold a grudge too. Proudly!
Me too 💥 💥 💥
They’ll claim that enacting your boundaries is just you holding a grudge. It’s not, it’s wisdom
Well if they want to call it a grudge. I’d call it self preservation 😢
I’ve not lost empathy, but I have lost more patience and have zero tolerance for evil thieves, abusers, criminality in general, zero vileness.. None, zero.
Same
This is a great explanation of the gray areas in the survivor’s thinking.
I definitely struggled with overanalyzing myself, I have a huge fear of being anything like my past abusers.
I finally figured out how to fight against narcissism without compromising my values of honesty, integrity, fairness, empathy, joy, compassion, caring, loving, being there for loved ones, decency, good faith, trusting, high standards for myself and others, productivity, discipline, courage, etc…
The way to fight against them is to first use discernment to identify them, then I will have zero patience, give them zero chances, and have zero tolerance for them, in other words – be an adult. Give up on them permanently and without anything they could ever do to repair the relationship.
We have to make narcissism NOT work for them!
Thx! 👍❤
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I keep score….might be the same as holding a grudge, it helps me with establishing patterns which is very useful when making decisions for my own self preservation.
This is valuable 💯
Wow, this is Brilliant. “The great fear is: What if it IS me? What if I’ve complained about them, but it actually is me? And then this takes us to that complicated conversation about this so-called idea of “healthy narcissism”, and you KNOW I do not love that term. I understand why people use it or say it, but there is really no version of low empathy, selfishness, entitlement, excessive need for praise, grandiosity, envy, arrogance, and taking advantage of other people that is ever going to be healthy. I think there’s healthy ego. There’s certainly healthy assertiveness. There are healthy boundaries; but that stuff is not narcissistic.” I’m having trouble wrapping my head around the idea that these truths need to be stated. We’ve all experienced how, once in a blue moon, a narcissistic person will do something empathetic, or helpful, or insightful; but we KNOW that person has not changed. But if WE, once in a blue moon, do something narcissistic, we automatically question ourselves. It’s about the number, frequency, and not owning of these traits that determines narcissism. “It is complicated and messy.”
I allowed myself to become the victim & held on to it. I needed validation from others to recognize the severe mental & physical abuse I was experiencing. It did take alot of abuse for me to wake up & decide I deserved more in life. Today, after 28 years of freedom, I am grateful & proud of the awesome woman I am. I still make mistakes. Im human & flawed. I recognise my fragile weaknesses and habits. Now, I am not afraid to address them, try to change and forgive myself. I love my freedom to be me.
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In the 1960s, before they had names for my disorders, my mother would say that I was vain, because I needed everything a certain way.
For years, I carried this with me, thinking there was something wrong with me… But the reason why I needed everything a certain way was because I am on the spectrum with OCD.
Many people are in denial about their psychiatric diagnoses, but I considered mine a gift. Without the criteria, I was going to end up just a crazy lady who needed everything a certain way.