Has gaslighting awareness actually made the world better?
Gaslighting – just 15 years ago, most people had never even heard the word. Now, it’s everywhere. But has this awareness actually made the world a better place, or just a more complicated one? Let’s take a step back and really think about what knowing this term has changed—and what it hasn’t.
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Your discussions help me spot warning signs and react accordingly. Thank you
I heard a good variation on an old expression: and the truth shall set you free, but not till it’s done with you.
That’s pretty good 👏 funny and true 👍
I’m grateful that I can cope well with it now. I can only wish I’d understood it 35 years ago
Once again, Dr Ramani: thank you for your clear, calm discourse!
Their mindset, that didn’t happen, and if it did, it wasn’t that bad, and if it was, it’s not a big deal, and if it is, it’s not my fault and if it was, I didn’t mean it, and if I did, you made me do it.
Yup
Truth!
You have.
Taught me so much about narcissism. Unfortunately though now my eyes are Open.
I see them everywhere, including my own parents.
They are everywhere 😉
But there’s no going back…
Solace in being safer now. But I get it, it’s heartbreaking.
I tried the healthy response mentioned here with my narc sister, by telling her that I felt a certain way, and just stating that this was how I was feeling. She responded by giving my a long lecture on how feelings aren’t facts, and can’t be trusted. She basically said that feelings aren’t ever legitimate. So that healthy response didn’t work with her. (However, she took it upon herself to tell me a number of times how I felt, and was way off base – I didn’t feel the way that she was telling me I felt.) She definitely told me that my experience was wrong. Someone once told me that she is a “professional gaslighter.”
Boundaries are there for you! They don’t change narcissistic behavior! You state something or stay silent. Period. Narcs just don’t care 😉
My ex used to gaslight me a lot. I didn’t know what it was called , but I clocked it every time it happened. My usual reply when it happened was, “Did you just call me a liar?” He would say, “no.” This man would try to tell me that I wasn’t cold after I just said I was cold. SMH. I told him there’s no way that he could ever know what my body felt. 😂 Needless to say we’re not together. When I broke up with him I just told him that this wasn’t working for me. He kept asking me what he did wrong, so he could fix it. I said it’s me, not him. I wasn’t in the mood to hear him make promises.
It’s never them 😉
Lol
Your channel is solidly, and steadily increasing membership, Dr. Ramani. Congatulations! Yes, more and more people are listening and viewing it, and, most likely, capitalizing on it. Meaning, there’s an increased awareness about narcissism.
i love myself surprised quickly. I LOVE HER DR RAMANI. NEVER MADE HIM CLEAR ANYMORE.
All the language: gaslighting, destabilizing, diverting, manipulating, coercive control, false allegations, raging helped me understand and win two court cases brought against me by my daughter’s step-mom last summer. Thank you narcissistic abuse counselors on YouTube!
ABSOLUTELY ITS BETTER that people understand what it actually is. With that knowledge lives are better because we understand the abuse by narcissist, by rude, controlling , mean cruel people. It’s so frustrating and damaging to people this behaviour is used on.
Dr Ramani saved my sanity by informing me about that subject. Life is so much more tolerable knowing someone is gaslighting you. You can remove yourself from this situation. Remain calm and move in a different direction.
So appreciate all of this education. I’m sure it has helped so many that like myself cannot afford counseling. God bless you.
A coach I follow recently said: “discernment will save your life and break your heart all at once.” this is so profound, I’m still digesting it.
That is so good!
I just forwarded the quote to my daughter who, yesterday, ended a relationship with a vulnerable narcissist. Truer words are rarely heard.
@@janeloraine6231 it knocked me out when she posted this. she is a brilliant coach. Coach E. 💟
When I first heard gaslighting, I realized I now had a word to describe what some people did to avoid taking responsibility and shame me into shutting up.
Good discussion thanks
First time I heard of Gaslight was an old black and white movie I watched. It was really good and stayed with me for years. Second time I heard the term, I was in a group therapy session, so I understood the term but never had recognized it in my own life. In my naiveite, I thought people were basically good and honest. It took me sharing my text message convos with my now nex with my third therapist to understand I was being gaslighted. I was not the cause of all the chaos, and she taught me I would be ok. I have yet to rewatch the old movie Gaslight, and it is on my watch list. Thank you Dr Ramani for keeping this conversation going and teaching us about all things narcissistic. Is the world a better place? I do not agree, especially with one of the biggest narcissists trying to run the country and so many people drinking the kool-aid. But I know I am in a much better place, although painfully aware I can never be the same as I was. Ignorance is not bliss. Today, I am wiser and more aware, so safer from the narcissists in society and life in general. Thank you.
It certainly lead me to the journey of awakening I am on now. Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤ I am forever grateful.
Another, more contemporary movie that reminds me of “gaslighting” and probably a visual example of narcissistic abuse is an older movie that Robin Williams starred in called Toys.
When I was in the middle of the narcissistic chaos and deceit, that movie popped into my head several times and I kept shoving it aside trying to get along with the nex and “be a good wife”.
Again, thank you Dr Ramani for this safe place to exist