How to cultivate non toxic relationships
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Thank you Dr Ramani. You helped me so much last year and a year later I feel great. I have boundaries. And I no longer allow so much hurt in my life. Cheers to you!💜
I just found her channel…still with the person and working hard to get out
@ stay true to yourself! Good luck💜
Thank you so much for covering this! My narcisistic relationship brought me closer to God! So, as a Christian,I love this! 7 deadly sins and virtues, too! Loved it! It would be awesome if you could cover more of these biblical proverbs!!! ❤❤
We try so hard to put our best selves forward for someone who will never recognize our efforts.
I think I am starting to understand dissonance.
The problem is that we often don’t realize we’re dealing with swine until we’ve given the best of ourselves away. Then it’s hard to take back our pearls because they’ve gained control of them.
So true
I know what I bring to the table and how to treat others to build relationships , romantic or not, on an honest and authentic level. ❤
What I learned from the different narcissistic relationships is to take extra, extra time to *really* get to know someone. ❤
Even though as an Empath, I give the benefit of the doubt and feel for others, my experiences with narcissistic folks, family and non family, allowed me to put in place more effective boundaries for myself, while not compromising my morals, traits, values, and virtues. Those toxic folks never changed who I am deep down inside. ❤
I refuse to allow those narcissistic experiences to negatively affect my future… with friendships and romantic relationships. I will approach them with more awareness that not everyone has the same quality of heart and soul as I offer. ❤
Being more aware, taking things slower, acting on red flags quicker, and the list goes on, is what is in my toolbox. ❤
The confusion, education, unraveling, introspection, realization, etc. are part of the narcissistic experience. ❤️🩹
When the “ah ha” moment hits, it all makes sense. ❤
It’s a continuous journey to stay true to myself…and I absolutely love it. ❤
Thank you Dr. Ramani for all your conversations. ❤
Gaslights, emotional abuse, and contempt are not worth the best efforts we put forth for the narcissistic person. And that’s really what it boils down to. We might think we’re keeping those trains running on time, but it only lasts for a brief time. It’s all always about them.
This reminds us to remember we have value and we have permission to ask others to treat us a such . Thank you.
100%. I grew up in it, so I never saw it. Both my parents curated it that way, but took me decades to realise my mother is worse than my father. He was obvious, she was/is sneaky. Everything is about her, hidden be him the rescuer hero, victim martyr facade.
Off topic – but I love how Dr. Ramani can be full glam OR just natural and she is always gorgeous 😊
I agree! She looks beautiful always. Her boyfriend is a lucky man 😉
She’s a lovely lady.
She is classy!
Yes, and even if I was blind and could only hear her teaching videos, I would still know she is beautiful. She has inner & outer beauty. She is a GEM💎!
She is so authentic.
In the past I’ve been a deer in the headlights when a toxic person crosses boundaries. Now I have better guardrails. Not perfect but I will call out and tolerate far less.
great video! you have such amazing wisdom and experience. I watch your videos often and read your books.
What’s pathetically STUPID is when the narcissist claims that they’re giving THEIR best selves to YOU. But when you pull back the layers, they’re giving you bread crumbs while giving themselves the crown jewels. So stupidly double standard.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist I will say, What’s crazy is when the narcissist claims that they’re giving their best selves to YOU, But when you pull back the layers, they’re giving you bread crumbs while giving themselves the crown jewels.
You helped me get myself to safety. To even know I needed to get to safety. Thank you.
Great to hear.
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You are a very wise person. Thank you very much for your knowledge
I’m doing exactly that!! Educating myself on this and being in control of myself and not giving in to the BS.
Thankyou for your wisdom and truth ❤
I wonder if the creator of Miss Piggy had a biblical sense of humor because most of her outfits she wears pearls! LOL. Thank pu for all your good work Dr Ramani.
The quote about not casting pearls before swine is about sharing wisdom with people who cannot or will not appreciate it. It was never about material possession or valuable goods.
She explains exactly that beginning around 7:40
Dr Ramani, we appreciate you (and your little cat!). Thank you for what you give to everybody.
Thank you @DrRamani for being such a life savior
Dr. Ramani’s cat brings extra care and comfort to her talks. It’s lovely when he, or she, just starts calling or sits on Dr. Ramani’s lap to love and be loved. I don’t think Dr. Ramani is truly aware of how much she is helping people. I wish her every happiness in her life. She deserves it. Thank you, Dr. Ramani.💐🐈🐾🐾💐
I like the expression “actions speak louder than words” but I take it one step beyond that. I don’t believe that anymore. Patterns of behavior speak louder than actions. Any narcissistic person can put on a mask and be performative. They are doing specific actions but it is all for supply and validation.