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Spot on, the root of all my anxiety 😔
My former landlord starts off wearing sheep’s clothing, but as soon as you’re “indebted” he expects everyone to persecute the same people he does (anyone “different”: single moms, disabled folks, anyone he considers “poor” despite his own situation) 👀 he even criticized me for walking to the grocery store instead of driving. It was a block away!! He said me walking made me look “homeless” 😮
So he starts off by doing people in need “a favor” — but then expects vile acts on his behalf as “loyalty” 🤮 I balked, so he kicked me out. And then all of my friends.
Horrible to abuse people like this. Being a landlord is his way to use power and control.
Facts, these people are unprefictabke, dishonest, unpredictable, enjoy power and control. They are also uncooperative. And, they play games so asking them a question they respond with the silent treatment and then nonsense. There is no Safety.
FEAR being the Narcissist Love Language, Rings True! 🔔
Yep my nervous system still stresses thinking about my narcissistic dad! But don’t mess with me today partner, because my name is Jessie James .. That fear is intentional too !
As simple as a small unguarded moment. 😩
more like ambient terror and degradation i.e fear /anxiety language.
They don’t care about anyone else’s feelings, and the moment always has to be about them. If they’re someone important in your life like a parent or partner, when you need them most they will abandon you and insist their own needs are more important. My husband was hit by a car and his mom’s work from home was more important than taking him to the hospital. Sheesh. The physical scars were temporary but the emotional ones are permanent. That was the moment the relationship was dead.
An awful dynamic… almost paralyzing since there’s no predicting the why…
I’m scared he’s going to kill me
😮😮 leave, asap!
This so true, even with the shy little violet known as the vulnerable narcissist. Their fury is just as huge as the blowhard narcissist.
Yes
Spent a day with my sister yesterday, a vulnerable narcissist. The rage was out of nowhere again. It’s SO bizarre and sad and this time it didn’t rock me as it has my entire life. YEAH! Thank you for all your videos that have changed me to stay me, the real me, to be able to weather cruelty she and my mother do. I’m healing.
The way she used fear of preventing me from seeing my children kept me enduring her abuse for over a decade. Could make a movie out of my high conflict divorce and custody battle.
Yes, on guard due to their constant over the top responses…that dont match the lack of seriousness of the situation.
He got made I pulled out a Rudolph/ Island of Misfit Toys mini characters boxset to show the grandkids at Christmas. His response was he wanted o do it.
I gave it away unopened to Goodwill last week. Let a normal family enjoy it.
Exactly how I feel about my parent
Yep, something like asking for monthly pads can make them rage at you but you never know. It might one month but not the next and back to it the other month. You literally never know.
My elderly narcmom is unpredictable. I can jump when the phone rings then the feeling of dread too. She owns the house (loooong triangulation/inheritance promise story) I live in. I pay rent and many bills including property taxes.
Narcmom has a key and comes in yelling hello hello. Anybody home? Quite loudly. She said she doesn’t want to scare me and it let’s me know she’s in the house (seems like psychological warfare to me).
Several times she’d claim that she forgot her key and bang loudly on the front door for me to go downstairs to her in. One time I waited her out (okay, kinda pretended I wasn’t home because I just wasn’t in the mood for her nastiness) and after all of her banging she let hersef in with her key.
BTW yes, we have a doorbell 🙄
I’m just more afraid that she’ll say something totally insensitive that will trigger me because of the past I had with her. I’m not over everything that happened and if I show her I’m upset, she will downplay it and act like I’m overreacting 😅 she’s both a covert/vulnerable narcissist. She’s also an enabler to the other narcs in my family
I AM NOT going that way ever again and I refuse to leave South Africa because I Don’t want too. That’s it in a nutshell period.