If He’s Boring You He Might Be The Right Guy

@leahs8939 says:

Boring means dull, uninteresting, tiresome. This means there isn’t enough to talk about (conversations, etc.), there’s a tedious pattern, lack of shared interests, lack of shared experiences, lack of shared vision, lack of shared goals. For example, if I met a guy who said he loved gambling (casinos, lottery, poker every weekend) I would find that boring. I have zero interest in men who choose to spend their time and $ gambling repeatedly every weekend. I have never experienced boredom in my life but I could easily find a man like that boring. The same really applies to anyone who has absolutely zero interest in learning anything new, traveling to unfamiliar places, trying new things, and tasting new foods or flavors, essentially a person not open to new experiences is boring to me (and I’ve definitely met men like this). A man who only wants to watch porn in his free time, and has no real interest in forming real intimacy is also boring to me. I would not be bored by stability, consistency, integrity, quiet strength, strong character, etc. And to your point, what this really is about is introversion vs extroversion. Extroversion often comes across as loud, enthusiastic, rambunctious and intense. Introverts often come across as quiet, thoughtful, careful, etc. But this is an overgeneralization. I actually find that “chaos” is sometimes a symptom of underlying issues like ADHD, which can show up in anyone– treated or untreated, and that doesn’t make a person a less capable partner and builder of a life. Chaos itself to me isn’t the red flag; it’s the pattern behind it (is there addiction or does this person have ADHD?)