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Gaslighting Love bombing deflecting reality Darvo
As a victim survivor as everyone human beings you have a right no to forgive someone and never forgive them
In my experience, when he is caught in a lie it goes down like this: deny, defend, diminish, deflect, and blame.
Or she…..
Aka, D.A.R.V.O.
@shaundavey5938 or they :/
Darvo
I get the deflecting and blame on me and deny dimished
Rage lots of denial and rage! He blamed me for making him a liar, for correcting his lies with my phone. About nine months of screaming tantrums
My adult narcissistic daughter made some very bad decisions that grievously hurt her father and me and permanently damaged our relationship. When asked why she did what she did, she replied, “Because I wanted to”. That was the most honest statement she has ever made.
I have a narc friend who once looked me in the eye, after letting me down terribly, and shrugged. Then she said, ” well you learned something, didn’t you?” I did, and I have never forgotten. We’re still friends, but she knows how I see her, and where she is in my world. We don’t have to say anything.
I know the feeling. My father a narcissist never told any of us he loved us including my mom. She told me this. Sometimes they are who they are .. it’s like a bite moment
@missbearlockholmes Why are you still friends?
If only the Narcissist experts could get together with the ADD experts. Then maybe I could find out where the ADD ends and the narcissism begins.
EXACTLY! Im Pretty sure someone I know spent lockdown studying adhd & autism, so she got that diagnosis because the people who diagnosed her didn’t understand covert narcissism. Neither did I to be fair but I’m 100000% sure now that it’s actually narcissism NOT autism that ails her 🤦♀️
P.s she acts EVEN MORE ENTITLED now that she can tell people she’s “autistic “ 🤦♀️
People who are autistic or ADHD for real don’t make excuses for their behavior and they apologize when they’re wrong. Narcissistic people don’t. That’s the difference
@donovangray4246brilliant answer and I agree with you 100%. This person is using her diagnosis as an excuse for her poor behaviour, which she now believes she’s entitled to and that everyone else needs to suck it up. It’s quite grotesque and I can no longer tolerate it!
They say they make a mistake because they got CAUGHT!😂
Recently, whenever I hear the word “grace”, someone agreeable is simply being asked to ignore the bad behaviour of someone disagreeable. Or rather, their “mistakes”.
Unlimited grace to the narc, because their life is very tough.
No grace for you, for you are too weak and need some “tough love”.
They are always addicted to their phones
But they, of course, accuse us of being addicted to our phones
Honestly with the way things have gone for me this year your channel has helped me understand how to deal with a situation I ended myself with a parent who has blamed me for what is going on instead of taking responsibility for what they did to me. I no longer have a relationship with that parent but i am moving forward with my life. Thank you for your help.
9:30 Yes, narcissists like to pretend their bad actions were mistakes even though they weren’t accidental. They also provide excuses like Omissions: “I didn’t do anything wrong!” when they failed to do something they should have done. I have also seen “Well, did it ever occur to you that I was having a bad day?” as a way of weaseling out of what they did wrong.
Another interesting tactic narcissists use is ‘can’t’ vs. ‘won’t’. They say I can’t (in the sense that I am not capable) instead of ‘won’t’ (I am not willing) to repackage what is actually a choice as inability.
That is not a “narcissistic tactic”.
@FmichaelGraham How not? Please explain. I thought choice of words is tactical. Interested in why you think differently.
Rite!?! Cant w8 til my grown daughter sees her dads ‘truity’. I’ve mentioned it to her but she continues enabling him.
Funny how he manages things whn shes NOT around.
@lt827It is not a narcissistic trait or “tactic”. I’d guess that about 95% of the population in the U.S.A. & Canada misuse “can’t/won’t”. What is uniquely narcissistic about such? Please, explain.
@FmichaelGrahamThat is a trait. Dont rembr which N tht is but it is.
You literally just described my ex. I thought mistake and decision were the same thing. Fortunately I started recording everything, screenshot evwrything.
Accountability is kryptonite to narcissists.
No truer words have ever been said should be pinned and put on a shirts
If he lies…its that I remember it wrong.
My stepdad always said “keep records of everything”. That’s when you have the evidence to show them their lies and it doesn’t matter if they try to say “you’re remembering wrong”
I’d love an in-depth video on how to overcome the inner workings as an adult of being the child receiving the silent treatment .. my father actually managed a month once .. and eventually obviously denied that ever happened
The covert narcissist used to regularly give me the silent treatment for months when she wasn’t happy with me for one thing or another (normally because I hadn’t done what she wanted/expected) and I didn’t even realise that’s what she was doing because I WAS TOO BUSY HAVING A LIFE 😂😂😂😂😂 I know it now and I find it hilarious that I was never bothered by it. 🤷♀️
A decision is when you choose to hurt, harm, attempt to control or ruin another’s life… and the keep making that choice over and over and over without end, because it is giving them their narc supply
I never get the “I made a mistake”, I just get the DARVO attempts as they try to continue making me the one to blame for them being shyte people lol.
Don’t forget the fake tears and pleas to try to get you to feel sorry for them when they lie
my covert narc hubby didn’t let me finish a sentence in about 3 years
And you know what the best part is, they will tell you, that you need to see a psyche doctor.. now isn’t that just peachy of them ?!
When one has seen the mystery and depth of how far and ungodly, people can get- anyone will need help at some point figuring out one’s place in this world at large. Thankfully, God has been gracious and I have family and friends and YT resources who are trained in this field.
@AStemOfRedRose They are just selfish children who have no clue what accountability is. nor do they care about other people, because their mothers taught them broken things, because they too were broken. they don’t need mental help, if they could just use their will for something other than being douchebags.
They do: DARVO!
In my experience: the more confident they feel, the more sloppily they lie.
the way the public stays angry with me i constantly feel like they want me to apologise for existing 🙏