How Narcissists Secretly Sabotage Your Happiness

@TattedChristian says:

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@LizKelly-r3c says:

You will be treated like gold for months.
Everything is hot and heavy – you found the perfect partner who is attentive, affectionate and passionate. The first red flag is they keep sharing their own stories (non stop blabbing from their aide) and don’t seem to be too interested in what’s going on in your life. The convos always switch back to what’s going on with them.
Suddenly there is a switch and they are indifferent. For NO reason. There was no argument, no fight – in fact, the night before might have been one of your best nights together. After that switch, they will never ever come back to normal. You will be faced with constant silent treatment. You will be walking on eggshells. The minute you corner them and ask them what the hell is going on
– you will be stonewalled. They gain power this way. You will be CONFUSED af. You will do everything you can to have the “old” them back, because you don’t like this new version. What you need to realize is the “old” version never existed. It was a complete lie and act – learned from friends, movies etc. It was a character made just for you – it’s no surprise you had a lot in common and now suddenly you don’t. The person you fell in love with completely disappeared, they are ghost. It is absolutely heartbreaking and devastating. All you see is the same body without the same soul. The more frustrated they see you – the more the run and push you away because they don’t want you to see that it was all a mask. Affection is out the window at this point. They can barely kiss or hold hands, but when earlier you were on their lap 247. The real them came out and the mask is off – they hate any from of emotion or love because they are not capable of it. You will be faced with constant gaslighting and they will try to distort your reality so you don’t see them for who they really are. You need to run like the wind – this relationship only makes you destroyed.
Their friends don’t know.. for the covert ones – only their romantic relationship partners can figure it out. Because they are so careful with their image, it’s all about perception management. And one day… after all the cognitive dissonance and sleepless nights and feeling sick to your stomach.. you open YouTube and it’s a door to all your answers. You are well with a narcissistic psychopath that has no feelings.
Leave and never look back. Additionally, If you need to find out about a Cheating Narcissist; send a request to:
Ethicalspy01@gmail. com

@Megan-f3s7o says:

You will be treated like gold for months.
Everything is hot and heavy – you found the perfect partner who is attentive, affectionate and passionate. The first red flag is they keep sharing their own stories (non stop blabbing from their aide) and don’t seem to be too interested in what’s going on in your life. The convos always switch back to what’s going on with them.
Suddenly there is a switch and they are indifferent. For NO reason. There was no argument, no fight – in fact, the night before might have been one of your best nights together. After that switch, they will never ever come back to normal. You will be faced with constant silent treatment. You will be walking on eggshells. The minute you corner them and ask them what the hell is going on
– you will be stonewalled. They gain power this way. You will be CONFUSED af. You will do everything you can to have the “old” them back, because you don’t like this new version. What you need to realize is the “old” version never existed. It was a complete lie and act – learned from friends, movies etc. It was a character made just for you – it’s no surprise you had a lot in common and now suddenly you don’t. The person you fell in love with completely disappeared, they are ghost. It is absolutely heartbreaking and devastating. All you see is the same body without the same soul. The more frustrated they see you – the more the run and push you away because they don’t want you to see that it was all a mask. Affection is out the window at this point. They can barely kiss or hold hands, but when earlier you were on their lap 247. The real them came out and the mask is off – they hate any from of emotion or love because they are not capable of it. You will be faced with constant gaslighting and they will try to distort your reality so you don’t see them for who they really are. You need to run like the wind – this relationship only makes you destroyed.
Their friends don’t know.. for the covert ones – only their romantic relationship partners can figure it out. Because they are so careful with their image, it’s all about perception management. And one day… after all the cognitive dissonance and sleepless nights and feeling sick to your stomach.. you open YouTube and it’s a door to all your answers. You are well with a narcissistic psychopath that has no feelings.
Leave and never look back. Additionally, If you need to find out about a Cheating Narcissist; send a request to:
Ethicalspy01@gmail. com

@bestswordsmanever says:

Part 2 — My Story

I am 24 and currently pursuing MA Psychology. I have been dealing with what I understand as narcissistic/controlling parenting for around 13 years. The situation has progressively affected my studies, sleep, concentration, emotional functioning and ability to perform even basic daily activities.

I genuinely want to complete my MA Psychology, become financially independent, build a career, and eventually live independently.

I have spent years trying to understand whether the problems I experience are because of me or because of the environment in which I have been living.

For a long time, I questioned myself. Maybe I was lazy. Maybe I was weak. Maybe I was spending too much time on my phone. Maybe films or horror movies had affected me. Maybe I was becoming difficult. But when I looked at the complete pattern over many years, it became difficult for me to ignore the family environment.

My difficulties have not been limited to major arguments. They have included everyday things and basic needs. Even using shampoo, eating food, using the commode, or getting fresh can become a reason for taunts or criticism. These things may appear small individually, but when basic activities repeatedly become sources of criticism, they can create a constant feeling that even ordinary needs require justification.

There have also been problems around privacy and having a place where I could study. A room could be presented as a place where I should study, but wanting to spend time there or wanting privacy could later become a problem. Spending time alone could be blamed for changes in my behaviour. Horror movies, films, the phone, friends, and other external things could become explanations for what was happening to me.

I have also experienced the contradiction between being kept dependent and then being criticized for being dependent. I have been told, in substance, that everything is provided for me and that I therefore do not need to earn, while at the same time being criticized for sitting around, not working, or not doing enough. When I tried to work and become financially independent, that could also create conflict.

I have tried different forms of employment. I worked as a Data Entry Operator/Office Assistant in a school, as a Data Entry Operator in a pharmaceutical shop, as a chef in a café, and later as a service boy in a café. My intention has been to study, work, earn, save money, and eventually become independent.

Wanting financial independence does not mean that I hate my parents. Wanting privacy does not mean that I hate my family. Wanting to move somewhere else for education or employment does not automatically mean abandoning them. I want to become capable of supporting myself.

There have been conflicts in which I tried to explain that the family environment was affecting me. At times, physical violence also occurred. I do not mention this to sensationalize what happened, but because it is part of my experience and because it changes the meaning of calling something merely “discipline.”

I have also experienced situations where questioning itself became a problem. The message could become that parents are older, know more, and therefore should not be questioned. But being older does not make someone infallible. A child can be young and still identify something real, and an adult can have more experience and still be wrong.

Another painful part of my experience has been the idea that because my parents gave birth to me, fed me, clothed me, educated me and supported me, I therefore owe them permanent obedience. I understand gratitude. I understand parental sacrifice. But gratitude should not automatically become a lifetime debt, and parenthood should not become ownership of another person’s future.

I have also encountered generational arguments such as “we were beaten too,” “we survived,” “we became successful,” or “in our time there were no facilities.” But surviving something does not prove that it was healthy, and a person succeeding despite harmful treatment does not prove that the harmful treatment caused their success.

Similarly, the statement that “every home has fights” cannot automatically make every form of conflict normal. The important questions are how often the conflicts happen, how intense they are, whether humiliation or intimidation occurs, whether physical violence occurs, whether disagreement can happen safely, and whether the environment affects education, sleep, concentration and ordinary functioning.

There is also a wider cultural issue that I have been trying to understand. In Indian society, parents are often given an extremely respected position. Respecting parents is not inherently wrong. But when respect becomes unquestionable obedience, gratitude becomes debt, questioning becomes disrespect, and independence becomes betrayal, the concept of respect can become a mechanism of control.

Religious and cultural stories can teach values such as devotion, wisdom and respect. But they should not automatically be used to prove that every parental command must be obeyed. Faith and coercion are not the same thing.

Family honour can create another layer of pressure. Children may be told to adjust, tolerate, remain silent, and avoid telling outsiders about family problems because of what people will think. This can create a culture where the child knows something is wrong but does not feel permitted to name it.

I have also thought about how harmful patterns can pass from one generation to another. Parents may repeat what was done to them because it feels normal. They may think that because their own parents behaved that way and they survived, the same behaviour is justified. But explaining where a harmful behaviour came from is not the same as justifying it.

At one point, my family took me to a psychiatrist because they believed there was something wrong with me. From my perspective, the consultation felt rushed and incomplete. My father was involved, and he already knew the doctor personally. I felt that I did not receive enough opportunity to explain my situation properly. Medication was prescribed, but my parents did not fully trust it and it was stopped after only around two days. This experience made me realize that simply taking someone to a mental-health professional does not automatically mean that the person has received adequate mental-health care.

Eventually, the pressure became overwhelming enough that I attempted to leave home. I went to Jodhpur carrying a backpack, clothes, my laptop and basic belongings. I blocked my parents for a period because I was trying to create distance and understand what independence could look like. I remained away for around a day before returning.

After returning, I was sent to stay with my maternal grandmother’s family for around four months. I experienced psychological pressure and humiliation there as well. Even younger members of the extended family could lecture me about how I should behave. I also felt that my mother’s family had a particularly strong place in her priorities, which became another source of conflict.

After approximately four months, I returned home. The underlying problems remained.

I do not want revenge. I do not want to spend the rest of my life trying to punish my parents. I want freedom, education, work, financial independence and the ability to make responsible decisions about my own life.

I want to complete my MA Psychology. I want to build a career. I want to become financially independent. I want to develop skills that allow me to support myself. I want to eventually live independently.

I also want to understand what happened to me without allowing it to control my entire future.

My family may have descriptions of who they believe I am—lazy, weak, difficult, ungrateful, disrespectful, dependent, changed, or unable to succeed independently. But I want to understand who I am beyond those descriptions.

I am someone who wants to learn. I want to study psychology. I want to work. I want to build a career. I want financial independence. I want privacy and autonomy. I want to understand myself and build a future.

I am writing my story because I have spent years trying to understand something that is difficult to explain from inside the situation. I am not saying that every parent is harmful or that every family disagreement is abuse. I am trying to understand the difference between ordinary family conflict and a repeated pattern that has affected my functioning and my ability to become independent.

My goal is not to destroy my family. My goal is to build my own life.

I want to complete my education, build my career, become financially independent, and eventually live independently. I want to recover my ability to trust my own judgment and develop a life based on my own abilities.

This is my story so far.

@Jessica_Dean says:

You will be treated like gold for months.
Everything is hot and heavy – you found the perfect partner who is attentive, affectionate and passionate. The first red flag is they keep sharing their own stories (non stop blabbing from their aide) and don’t seem to be too interested in what’s going on in your life. The convos always switch back to what’s going on with them.
Suddenly there is a switch and they are indifferent. For NO reason. There was no argument, no fight – in fact, the night before might have been one of your best nights together. After that switch, they will never ever come back to normal. You will be faced with constant silent treatment. You will be walking on eggshells. The minute you corner them and ask them what the hell is going on
– you will be stonewalled. They gain power this way. You will be CONFUSED af. You will do everything you can to have the “old” them back, because you don’t like this new version. What you need to realize is the “old” version never existed. It was a complete lie and act – learned from friends, movies etc. It was a character made just for you – it’s no surprise you had a lot in common and now suddenly you don’t. The person you fell in love with completely disappeared, they are ghost. It is absolutely heartbreaking and devastating. All you see is the same body without the same soul. The more frustrated they see you – the more the run and push you away because they don’t want you to see that it was all a mask. Affection is out the window at this point. They can barely kiss or hold hands, but when earlier you were on their lap 247. The real them came out and the mask is off – they hate any from of emotion or love because they are not capable of it. You will be faced with constant gaslighting and they will try to distort your reality so you don’t see them for who they really are. You need to run like the wind – this relationship only makes you destroyed.
Their friends don’t know.. for the covert ones – only their romantic relationship partners can figure it out. Because they are so careful with their image, it’s all about perception management. And one day… after all the cognitive dissonance and sleepless nights and feeling sick to your stomach.. you open YouTube and it’s a door to all your answers. You are well with a narcissistic psychopath that has no feelings.
Leave and never look back. Additionally, If you need to find out about a Cheating Narcissist; send a request to:
Ethicalspy01@gmail. com