Different emotional scars left by different types of narcissists
The fallout from narcissistic abuse is more complex than most people realize. It can feel like trauma, but also like guilt, shame, and the belief that you did something wrong. This video explores how different types of narcissistic relationships—malignant, vulnerable, grandiose—leave different emotional scars, and why survivors often carry both fear and moral injury. If you’re confused by your own healing process, you’re not alone—and you’re not the problem.
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I appreciate you so much.Thank you fir being you.❤
Thank you for all your work. I hope one day she will be able to leave the traumabond
It’s very difficult when you leave something, and/or change the vibe of something, that is based in a narcissistic pattern that has basically ruled your life and is a huge pattern intergenerationally, and also existing in society in general etc.
So when you make your decision to change, you remember that you’re still a social being. It’s an ongoing thing to live. I suppose if one is used to being a survivor one believes that. But is that how one wants to define oneself? And not just consciously but completely subconsciously.
Thank you doc💔💔🥺🥺🙏🏿
Very well presented and helpful.
One other aspect of this is that by leaving a vulnerable narcissist your environment will also add blame by considering you as the bad one, but by leaving a grandiose narcissist your environment will approve.
Yep! Especially if the vulnerable narcissist also has another diagnosis that essentially absolves them from any responsibility and accountability. Then you’ve got a whole other virtual community of people on top of the real life community, waving this supposed “get out of jail free” card, screaming at and threatening you for being a monster…
They scar your soul.
Thank you so very much for Sharing this After years Of Dealing with a Malignant Sadistic Narcissist He Left Me Severely Sick With PTSD Anxiety A Nervous Condition Very Low Self Worth Low Self Esteem.The Abuse I Endured Was Horrific My Only Comfort Is Self Isolation Being Alone Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal
Same here
Yes, healing from the vulnerable-malignant ones is very hard, the guilt and fear is prominent feeding the trauma bond that lingers for a long time. Guilt and petty makes us feel like a bad person, we are not. It akes a lot of learning about these relationships and a lot of validation like the one you offer to help with healing. Thank you Dr Ramani for your help and support ❤❤❤
This was very helpful In differentiating the effects of my specific traumas over time and unraveling my resulting patterns. Thank you ❤
3 years now, coping with post separation abuse trying to divorce a malignant vulnerable narc, who thinks he is above justice. But no doubt the fight is definitely worth it!
Yes proud of you
Thank you Dr Ramani! These teaching videos are invaluable! Lifetime of narcissistic relationships, takes a toll, but knowing what is going on helps so much. Still taking care of a narc mom who’s 94, I would feel “guilty” if I didn’t but I know it’s temporary 🙏🏻❤
Can you make videos on psychopaths and machiavellian people and how do they work in day to day life and how to spot these people
These people are demons. I’m convinced of this.
“Not a clear mental health space”, that’s where I am now.
I’m experiencing Hypervigilance, Avoidance, Hyperarousal, self-blame, rumination. And my body and nerves are high alert 🚨 and on edge all the time😢. Thank you, Dr. Ramani! Your video gives me clarity 🙏
At 72 I think I can claim the title of the Queen of Rumination and regret. As the scapegoat I could feel guilty for breathing too much oxygen.
Thank you as always Dr Ramani. I have good days and worse days; feels like I walked through a dark fairytale and was protected by angels, but it scares me thinking back on what I was willing to do for him. And I feel so disappointed with myself still, sometimes disgust. But I learned valuable wisdom from it all, for the rest of my life.
I’ve been rocking this song on YouTube- Bad Love – Eric Clapton ..
Ive had enough bad love , no more bad love !!!
Some days can still be very painful.. ❤
I’ve been through both malignant narcissistic and vulnerable narcissistic relationships. I’m still dealing with the trauma at age 79, and believe it will never alleviate!
My Dad is a Covert Narcissist. I’ve been through hell, lost my confidence, questioned my own reality, my intelligence and my existence. It affected me soo much that I couldn’t even perform well at school. My mental health has been at it worst it has ever been the past 5 years. Frequent Panic attacks. Honestly I cannot wait to finally pull myself out of this.