How to Prepare for a Court Hearing When Divorcing a Narcissist

You have a court date coming up. He'll walk in rested, pressed and perfectly reasonable, and you'll have been awake since 4 a.m. rehearsing what you'd say if anyone let you talk. Here's how to walk in ready instead of rattled.

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In this video I share the four questions to ask your attorney the week before, what to wear and what to bring, how to stay composed when he performs for the judge, what to do (and not do) afterward, and how to plan for the hearing that gets postponed at the last minute. Your attorney runs your legal strategy. This is the part they don't have time for.

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CHAPTERS
0:00 Walk in ready, not rattled
1:03 The week before: 4 questions for your attorney
2:26 The night before: stop preparing
2:38 What to wear and what to bring
4:08 When he performs for the judge
5:20 Afterward: no decisions that day
5:56 When the hearing doesn't happen
6:59 The takeaway

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I'm Victoria McCooey, High-Conflict Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Mediator and creator of She Breaks Free. My own divorce lasted six years, followed by 11 more years of post-divorce court conflict. Today I help intelligent women navigate divorce from narcissistic and high-conflict partners with more clarity, confidence and strategy. New videos every Friday.

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I'm not an attorney or therapist. Nothing in this video is legal or mental-health advice. Please consult your own attorney about your specific situation.

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